No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

[ImpatientMama]

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

@Bgrace8 as I was saying below, I was checked for that too because my sister suffered with it and only found out when TTC. It was scaring me because so many of the symptoms were similar to me, short, light cycles, had a short LP one month too. That's good you're booked in and hopefully all comes back fine! I'll be able to tell you tomorrow exactly what they test for once I've spoke to my doctor, as I realised there isn't just one test but a few they do apparently.

Oh you will have to let me know what happens or how it goes. I would have thought it would show on a test by now, but you read so many stories of it now showing till later so who knows!! My cycles are normally regular but I guess as I have been on the pill who knows! When was the last time you tested and will you test again?

Welcome @Bgrace8! The more the merrier, even though I know we all wish we weren't just sitting here waiting! Our patience sure is being tested. 😐

@Bgrace8 I will do! I should really have asked for a follow up straight away but when I called the receptionist just said results came back in and I didn't need another app. But I don't know anything that was tested for and I'd like to have an understanding of how things were looking and if anything were on the low or high side. Same, my BF remains positive but I'm thinking the worst, and just don't think I can be as why wouldn't it have shown! I tested Monday Tuesday and Friday, I'm holding off til this Friday if no show as that would be almost 2 weeks late! I was on the pill too and pleasantly surprised that my cycle came back quickly. But now I have no clue what's going on! You just don't imagine it being like this do you, it's meant to be either a clear happy BFP or AF and can try again haha doesn't seem to even be that simple this month!

I have a follow up appointment from my bloods already booked in for the week after. My fiancé is positive too saying he thinks I am. I’m not a full week late yet so going to test again with a cheapy tomorrow morning and have ordered some FR for the end of the week. I’m the same as you thought, how on earth could it not show up yet? Exactly I just want my AF now to put me out my misery haha. Do you have any other children?

@ImpatientMama thank you how are you feeling?

@Bgrace8 I'm doing OK. Just always thinking about what could be going on. Not sure how much of the over 100 posts you've read. But I am on cycle day 39, AF hasn't shown for over a week. Tested the first three no-show days, all negatives. Took a couple days off from testing. Tested again Friday with two faint positives. Tested again Sunday and today with negative tests. So I am thinking it could be a chemical pregnancy at this point. Going to the doctor on Friday to see what they think. I will test again on Wednesday and i am sure they will test me there on Friday. We are ttc our second child, our first turned one in June. I went off the pill in August, started really trying in September. So this is my second real month of trying. I know that is early, so I would be really fortunate to be pregnant. No matter if I am pregnant or not, I would like some answers.

Yes I have read a lot of them so could see your tests and was so happy for you when you got two positives, how late were you when you got these? Hopefully they will be able to give you some answers but yes I’m the same as it would be lovely and lucky as we haven’t been TTC for long either it’s just the uncertainty isn’t it and the unknown that’s the worst part!

@ImpatientMama forgot to tag you! So new to this haha. We started trying the same time! I also came off in august

@Bgrace8 ah that's great you've a follow up booked in! Much better way of doing it than my back to front way! I've no children, this is my first time TTC, what about you? I do have a lovely step daughter who lives down in England, who I love dearly and comes up and spends her school holidays with us, she'll be up for Christmas 💕 (If Covid allows)

@Bgrace8 AF was 6 days late when i got those. They were so faint, so I was hoping the Sunday tests would be darker. But nothing. I heard chemical pregnancies are pretty common, so I have a feeling my doctor will say that is what is happening. Unfortunately. But I am trying to stay hopeful that by some mericle i am pregnant. The only way I will know is during this appointment and most likely bloodwork. Maybe ultrasound. Not sure.

I'm pretty sure I'm coming on my cramps feel much more intense and I was expecting to come on by weds latest if I was (as I have checked and I've had a cycle that was that long once before so....) anyway you guys who are definitely well past when AF would arrive but still testing negative should look at YouTube there's some great stories on there of people who have tested negative right up in the 40s of their cycle but eventually got their BFP. It can happen, ladies!

@HJen22 Atleast we are all in the same boat! Oh a step daughter how lovely, how old is she? We are allowed 5 days at Christmas to mix household woohoo!!

@ImpatientMama I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you please do keep us updated x

@Bgrace8 hello! Yea there’s a few of us in the same situation it appears.
It’s lovely to speak to people who are going through the same frustrating times, hopefully we all get the outcome that we want!
@sociallydistained thank you will check out the videos as googling is not good! I like to hear people’s actual experiences of things even tho were all different it just gives me some hope

@Bgrace8 yeah in the same boat and it's great to talk about it with other girls, not sure about your guys, mine is great and super supportive but I don't think he really understands how frustrating it is not knowing what's going on!

She is 11 and great! We are in Scotland so we're hoping with upcoming announcements we'll be able to have her up. I really want to have a baby whilst she is still interested and thinks they are cute and fun haha!

@sociallydistained oh thank you, I'll need to have a watch! Cramps may not come to anything! Hopefully not!!

@HJen22 she sounds lovely fingers crossed you can spend Christmas together!

@HT1335 yes it is reassuring and glad we can all rant. Anyway ladies I will update you tomorrow and vice versa with what’s going on! X

Well I had such an awful night! Cramps, stomach pain and constant nausea! No period this morning. If she's coming, she's gonna be the worst one in a while I think. Part of me is hoping that that awful night will all be worth it for a BFP and maybe it's a sign, however I am also worried that if I am pregnant then somethings wrong for my stomach to hurt so much... what a rollercoaster this cycle has been 🤦🏻‍♀️

Anyway I'm off to work now so hope it all stays at bay and we'll see what happens.

@sociallydistained oh keep us posted, sending you positive thoughts!
Still no sign at all of my AF 🤷🏼‍♀️
I will look forward to hearing updates from everyone today, hopefully good ones! ☺️

@sociallydistained @HT1335 morning girls! Oh that sounds awful but 🤞🏽 For you. Have you tested at all and how late are you?

I’ve tested again this morning BFN but I didn’t expect anything else! No sign of AF at all how bizzare!!

My fiancé is going to start peeing on the sticks soon to see what they say 😂

@Bgrace8 Over a week late by the general trend but I'm day 34 and realised I've had a 35 day cycle before so I'm waiting until tomorrow to test if AF hasn't arrived. I last tested last weds and Thursday and both bfn I put pregnancy out of my mind on Friday and waited for AF. My nausea continues though and on Saturday after dtd I had a stitch like twinge in my pelvic area which has never happened before either.
This is only my third cycle off the pill though so I'm sort of explaining everything away by that and my body adjusting.

Morning girls! Still no sign of AF for me either and I was convinced it would be today, right before my doctors call!

Oh ouch @sociallydistained that sounds awful, hopefully it's a good sign though 🤞🏻 I'm now 10 days late and onto cd35 when my longest has been 29!

@HJen22 Such a big change from your normal cycle! Really hoping for BFP for you soon! Longest month ever though

@sociallydistained the longest! I was moaning to my BF saying this month I thought I'd done better with not stressing, up until no AF anyway! The 29 day cycles were right after I came off the pill too, for the last 5 months it's been 24/25/26. And I ovulate pretty early so it's annoying as I'd probably be around that time now if AF came!

Thank you, I hope so! And I really hope so for you too 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 positive vibes to everyone today!

Had my call with the doctor, she doesn't think I'm pregnant as I've done 3 tests and she said they are very sensitive, they don't even do bloods really at the doctors cos they are so good at picking up.

She was super nice, discussed everything that was tested including testosterone, LH, thyroid, kidneys, all the hormone / female studies. She said all came back totally normal, and none even near borderline.

She's sure AF will come, my stressing is probably delaying. Over the next few months I'm to keep track of the cycle and then I can call back if really irregular. Also come March she can refer me as it will have been a year.

Advised to DTD every 2/3 days the entire month; which to be honest we don't really, do for the 2 weeks after AF but then it kinda tails off / we have a rest. Which is silly really as you just never know. I guess with doing OPKs I didn't think we had to.

Anyways, sorry long post! So all in all; just have to wait for AF and keep trying! My BF is still convinced I'm PG which I'm not gonna lie, is frustrating me as I'm clearly not and it's such false hope 😔

@HJen22 my partner on the other hand completely convinced there's not a chance I am which has the opposite effect because I feel like I'm making all these symptoms up. I feel so so sick today! I'm at work and just trying to keep my problems to myself as much as possible. Not discussing with bf any further until either AF comes or the tests come up different!

It is probably best for you to just assume AF is coming and is messing you around but I wouldn't take what the doctor says for fact. Some women just develop low levels of the pregnancy hormone or develop it much later. Stress could definitely be a factor so now you've spoken to the doctor maybe it'll help take your mind off it for a while and we'll see what happens. Im absolutely loving baths at the moment for clearing my head and bringing a sense of calm!