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No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

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ImpatientMama · 17/11/2020 14:24

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

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HJen22 · 10/01/2021 17:56

@HT1335 yeah and it feeling like a task is no fun and then just adds even more pressure! Not easy this at all! Yeah I sometimes find I don't find time with being busy with work; so this week I've been doing 10mins meditation before I even get out of bed, I think it's improving my mood as it's first thing!

I really hope so! And I hope that you get through to the doctor tomorrow for some advice. X

HT1335 · 10/01/2021 18:02

@HJen22 thank you I will keep you updated!
Oh that sounds a good does to start the day in a chilled mood I could do with trying that myself! X

HJen22 · 10/01/2021 18:09

@HT1335 I've just been shoving on headphones so not to wake up by BF haha the Calm app is what I'm using just now. I'm really going to try and stick with it! X

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ImpatientMama · 11/01/2021 03:00

A couple days late replying, but all good here. Just peaked today, CD20. Kind of annoying since last cycle I peaked CD13. 🤷‍♀️ Anywho. We BDed CD18-20. So, we did pretty good. Hah. Now tomorrow should be ovulation day and then onto the tww. Sigh. I am due for AF in about 9-10 days, so I am sure she will be late and give me hope. I honestly would be OK not getting pregnant this month, and possibly next depending on when I ovulate. I am in a wedding out of town at the end of October so if I get pregnant this cycle I would be due the beginning of October and it would be hard to be apart from my baby, even for a weekend, that soon after. It would be really nice to be pregnant during the wedding. That way I could travel and not feel bad. But I know a child is a blessing so I will absolutely be thrilled if we do get pregnant this cycle or next. And i know the bride would understand and be happy as well. So we will see either way in a couple weeks!

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lastbany · 11/01/2021 08:32

@ImpatientMama just little tip (doctor told me when has consult about ttc) if you have irregular periods you will have irregular ovulation like your fat 13/20 however af will always be due 14 days after ovulation so will only be the first phase that's different , just so your not expecting at in 10 days then getting upset when kate etc (but not really late) xxx

lastbany · 12/01/2021 07:20

So am covid positive !!! 3 days to af so hoping so thing else will be positive! Although pretty scared that if I was would the covid have any effect???

HJen22 · 12/01/2021 11:51

Oh I'm sorry to hear that @lastbany how are you feeling? I hope you're on the mend very soon! X

@ImpatientMama sounds like you got lots of BD at the right time! Yeah like @lastbany said, as you've ovulated later I'd not expect your AF to come at same time as predicted x

HJen22 · 12/01/2021 11:52

@HT1335 how did you get on calling the doctors? I should be around 8dpo but didn't do any tracking so not sure! Kinda got to the point of being tired this month, but I know should still be DTD just in case I haven't ovulated yet! X

HT1335 · 12/01/2021 16:58

@lastbany hope you feel ok and try not to worry.
@HJen22
So I haven’t rang the doctors I’ve been so busy running about after poorly family members doing shopping and fitting in work etc by the time I’ve thought about it it’s been too late. We did dtd with the conceive plus tho as we thought well while there’s no AF we may aswell continue trying. I do plan on calling tmorow I’m at work and will try and prioritise squeezing it in. This is me I put everyone else’s needs before myself and I’ve been told off by the other half! 🙈 good luck to you for this month!
It’s such a waiting game for us all x

lastbany · 12/01/2021 17:01

Hi all well it seems to hit me worse than everyone else! Typical I do have asthma thou! Nobody else developed a cough but I seem to have it in my chest!! But I don't feel as bad as I imagine others do!! Trying to hold on the exhaustion is real!

HJen22 · 12/01/2021 17:18

@lastbany oh that sound awful, I really hope you start to feel better soon! Try and get plenty rest!

@HT1335 aw you sound very busy! Remember to look after yourself too, as your other half will have said! I hope your poorly family members are all ok! Ah you went with conceive plus, how did you get on with it? I did read up a little about it but haven't bought it x

Aims1991 · 12/01/2021 17:37

Hey, I'm 4 days late for AF and my cycle is always early or on time. I've tried 2 normal clearblue tests and a digital and all just a BFN! Getting anxious 😫

HT1335 · 12/01/2021 18:11

@lastbany hope you feel better soon!
@HJen22 it was ok using it, I thought it would be off putting for my partner but it wasn’t he said it felt ok... so 🤞🏻 Although who knows if I’m ovulating or what’s happening as now cd47! But I will re focus tomorrow hopefully and speak to the gp. I would recommend the conceive plus I mean I don’t know if it’s worked but it felt ok and was easy to use...
@Aims1991 good luck we’ve all been in that position it’s just a waiting game of the unknown isn’t it.

Aims1991 · 12/01/2021 18:39

@HT1335 thanks! I started folic acid and wondering if that's what's caused the delay. But the cramps in my stomach are sore and occur quite often. I also had bleeding gums and headaches.

HJen22 · 13/01/2021 10:13

@Aims1991 I'm sorry you're having a longer than normal cycle with BFNs, we've all been there and it's so hard. I hope that it turns into a BFP for you 🤞🏻

@HT1335 that's good to know your partner found it ok too! I might look into it next month. Or just do BBT and OPKs x

Aims1991 · 13/01/2021 10:17

@HJen22 thanks me too! I've got sharp pains in my right side this morning. So I ordered first response tests that'll arrive this morning and I will try wait until the weekend before I take one

Marvellouslymadmum · 13/01/2021 12:35

Afternoon all, how are we doing?

I'm
Currently CD44 15 days late, haven't tested for the last 8 days so planning on getting some tests and doing so today or tomorrow morning! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Aims1991 · 13/01/2021 12:49

@Marvellouslymadmum I don't know how you can't be tempered to test today, I'm 4 days late and I tested 2 days ago and trying my hardest to wait another few. I've had some sharp pains in my side today and a tiny bit of spotting. Not sure if AF is on way but I'm never late and never have any spotting so who knows🤷🏻‍♀️

Marvellouslymadmum · 13/01/2021 12:56

Hi @Aims1991 oh I've been tempted but payday is today so that's what's stopped me and I drink a lot of water so best to rest with fmu. I've been ttc for almost 3 years now and had a mc 2.5 years ago so I've kind of stopped myself testing too soon (most of the time) haha 🤞🏻 for you

Aims1991 · 13/01/2021 13:00

@Marvellouslymadmum yeah my fingers and toes are crossed. Hope it happens for you too soon

HT1335 · 13/01/2021 13:17

Good luck to you all!
I’m on cd48! No sign of AF and haven’t tested since last week as I know it will be negative so I try and avoid testing
I’ve been asked to ring the surgery next week so I’ll do that and probs do another test at the wkend

Aims1991 · 13/01/2021 13:50

I had been taking folic acid and this was the first month. I've stopped taking it today incase that's what caused AF delay, I've been told it doesn't but who knows🤷🏻‍♀️ and now I have some spotting so I wonder if I was right and it delayed AF. So I won't be taking it again 🙄 I feel I need to stop being as obsessed with it all and maybe it'll happen🤞🏼

Marvellouslymadmum · 13/01/2021 13:55

@Aims1991 don't be hard on yourself, we all get obsessed with it and symptom spot and test like a woman possessed when we know we shouldn't lol

@HT1335 hope you get some answers too! I'm pretty sure I'll probably get a negative too but there's a glimmer of hope haha

Aims1991 · 13/01/2021 14:00

@Marvellouslymadmum I just don't want DTD feeling repetitive or constantly testing for OV rather than just relaxing and enjoying it all. We said we wouldn't start trying to next year then my partner decided in November he would be ok with starting early and I feel I should just relax and it'll happen. Who knows, but I know it's not just me who's like this 🙈 glad there's other to talk to about it

HT1335 · 13/01/2021 14:08

I was really obsessive about it all at the start and as it’s not happened for so long I’m not as bothered now, like I do get stressed and sad as to why it’s not happened but I get so disheartened when I get a negative that I can’t get my hopes up now... but we should all think positive as sometimes it just takes time for good things to happen!