No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

[ImpatientMama]

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

@lastbany I'm not stressed tbh I never really get stressed so I've no idea what's going on! I'm still hoping for a late bfp - you never know right?!

I have tested today, another disappointing bfn and I’m now day 43 of my cycle with no sign of AF so I’m baffled 😕 also can’t get thru to the doctors as they are really busy with the Covid vaccinations so I don’t know what’s going on. I will try the gp surgery again next week when all the Covid stuff calms down a little

Good luck to everyone else 🤞🏻

@HT1335 sorry to hear that, I'm a few days behind you on cd39 and still nothing for me either, I'm trying to hold out until wed to test again which will be cd 44 and I'll be calling gp after that! Hope you get some answers soon

@HT1335 ah no! I feel blessed that uptp now I've had 2 "normal" cycles as it's awful not knowing! @Marvellouslymadmum I know I didn't think so when someone said to me! I was sore sonething was wrong eg late fertilisable etc but the fact your late with a net test means you prob are stressed but just don't feel it , why can't videos ve straight forward hey!

So we are all in isolation as my partner and two kids tested positive however I tested negative!! Only symptoms we all have is extreme tiredness I now said to my partner well if it's not covid could it be a baby???? I am shattered to pour. Can't open eyes!

I guess it's just a waiting game for all of us really! @lastbany fingers crossed for you!

Hello ladies, happy Saturday. How are you all? I am so sorry for those of you still in limbo with long cycles, I really hope it results in some BFPs 🤞🏻

Haven't had a great time recently, queue meltdown #187 of TTC. To cut a long story short I have had a letter for a colposcopy after abnormal cells. Panicked this was what was stopping us conceiving, I was really ill, it would delay us trying. Decided to carry on as normal, should get app in the next 8 weeks. I read online you can still have done even if I did fall PG, and if I did need treatment it could wait til after as the chances of cells changing in that time were little. Haven't asked the dr as I'm sure they'd advise to wait. Also freaked out reading somewhere they can say wait 6 months after any treatment before TTC but then somewhere else a month! The thought of not being able to try for potentially 8 months after trying for the last 10 was what upset me the most!

Onwards and upwards though, am trying to not worry about it, don't need the added stress! X

@HJen22 so sorry about this! When I had my coil removed before last baby I had constant bleeding due to worry about cer cancer as my nanna died of this and mums had abnormal cells they sent me for a colposcopy but everything was perfect! I was also ttc at the time , please try not to worry and take day at a time?! Where are you in current cycle? I'm 6 days to at but isolating as partner and children all tested positive so won't be getting any tests only have cheapo so will wait till late or couple days before xd

@lastbany oh I'm so sorry to hear your partner and children have tested positive, how are they all feeling, and how are you?

Thank you for your positive words, it's just a scary letter to get isn't it! I've had a colposcopy years ago and didn't need any treatment so hoping it comes to nothing this time too 🤞🏻 I am so sensitive just now it just sent me into such a panic! I'm so sorry your nana died of it, so sad. Current cycle I'm 5dpo, didn't do any tracking this month just have tried to DTD every second/third if not. Have you had any symptoms?

@HJen22 oh I’m sorry to hear this I really hope everything is ok and it doesn’t have any affect on ttc. Hopefully they are just being over cautious, I have had the colcoscopy a while ago now that in itself is not a pleasant experience, but hopefully they will check and you won’t need any further intervention!
I’m still waiting now on day 44, no sign of AF and not pregnant, the joys of being in limbo again

@HJen22 same here! No checking this month! Just dtd and hope for best!
Was a routine test on my daughter and she had it!!! Symptoms seem to have started three days after results! Mostly exhaustion! I have tested neg (no idea how) so hoping my exhaustion is early preg lol who knows we're not too bad though feel lucky x

@HT1335 thank you, I hope so too! Wasn't what I needed to receive through the post haha! 44 days, how annoying for you! Did you manage to get a hold of the doctor? X

@lastbany fingers crossed 🤞🏻 it's less stressful in the way of not tracking isn't it, but I think I might next cycle, just the CB OPKs. I am glad you aren't feeling too bad! My BFs daughter was meant to go home today but her little sister has tested positive so she's here another 2 weeks at least, more home schooling for us 😂🙈 x

@HJen22 no I haven’t spoken to the doctors yet it was mayhem with them doing the Covid vaccines so I’ll do it on Monday and ask if I can have anymore tests done. Then I will be referred hopefully in March I was hoping it wouldn’t come to that but it’s now looking very likely, I will try and remain positive. I’m also unsure as to whether to get the Covid vaccine as j can get it now with being frontline nhs but totally unsure with ttc and I feel a bit pressured to get it for safety of colleagues, patients and myself but I can’t decide what to do... feel like forgetting about everything for a while but it’s not that easy is it!
I’m sure you’ll be fine I totally see how you got stressed about it tho, good luck
@lastbany I hope you’re all ok!

@HT1335 you came off the pill same time as me, March didn't you? Same, I was thinking is it going to be hard to get an app now the vaccine is being done! Could you perhaps do an online app, I've done that twice since Covid and the doctor calls back. And then they could make an app for you? I hope it doesn't come to that and we both get BFPs before then 🤞🏻 try and stay positive, so much easier said than done I know and I have days where I just feel like it's never going to happen. But it will, for us all 🥰

@HJen22 yeah I can do an online form I was also kind of holding off as I thought AF would have appeared by now so if more information but I spose it’s a worry that it’s not here so I’ll be calling or contacting them somehow on Monday
Oh I really hope we do get our BFPs by then so much! Yes we’ve been ttc for the same amount of time, so hopefully feb is our month 🤞🏻🤞🏻😊

@HT1335 if AF doesn't come by then give them a call, the worst they can say is wait until March I guess. But you've had a few long cycles now haven't you? My doctor had told me to keep track, never know they might see you a little bit earlier than March! Fingers crossed it happens soon 🤞🏻 I was reading up what they test for the other day, as I've had some of the hormonal tests for PCOS testing, all very confusing and who knows if it's different for different places, what the doctor thinks best etc! X

@HJen22 I know I can’t understand why they didn’t do any of my joe so all bloods last time I guess the doctor thought I was calling a bit too soon and it would happen but that was some time ago now so hopefully I get some different ones this time and other tests.. if they can do any? I’ll update how I get along
Let’s hope we all get some good news this year 🤞🏻

@HT1335 I know, I'd call again even just to discuss and I hope that as it was some time ago you called and you've had some long cycles they can run some tests. Do you know what they tested for last time, and did it all come back ok? I tend to worry about something new every week; now with Covid vaccine and lockdown I worry that a referral will take even longer than normal, I hope not, I think this time they'll be trying to keep up with appointments and things with so much delayed and cancelled NHS wise but just so hard to know. I looked at private costs but not in much detail as would still be waiting until a year of TTC x

@HJen22 in September when I got bloods they just done my general health thyroid diabetes etc no hormone ones, so I can request those as my general health was fine. I also looked at private costs and I couldn’t really fathom it out but I’ll wait and see I’m Defs going to ring the doctors on Monday. I really do hope they would refer us and it wouldn’t be delayed if it comes down to it, I know for me I would have to travel regardless. But let’s hope and pray we don’t have to get to that stage! I really hope it happens naturally for us both x

@HT1335 yeah I would definitely call them and get an appointment, and I hope they can get you in for some tests, it would only be a tiny bit early! And just explain about long cycles, I would. Same, I looked but couldn't really understand as I don't know what the minimum or standard initial tests would be so hard to work out. Really hoping it doesn't come to that too! I'll go through GP first and just have to wait and see re times / referrals I guess. Everything about TTC is such a waiting game isn't it 😞

@HJen22 yes I will as there is still absolutely no sign of AF so we’re a bit like do we still dtd as regular?! Very confusing
And yep it really is two people I know have had their babies this week and we started ttc before them 😞 very frustrating and disheartening

@HT1335 i know, it gets tiring! The month I had a really long cycle it ended up moving my ovulation day to way later and turned out we'd only DTD once in the fertile window I think, thinking we were in the 2WW! It's so frustrating isn't it. I know, my friend who told us May just had her baby a few weeks ago and another friend (the only one who knows I'm TTC) is due in less than a month, when she told me she was PG we'd been trying a month or two too! I always find myself thinking, oh could have had a baby by now, been a few months pregnant etc, and now I'm like if I'm not pregnant by March a baby won't be here til 2022! Such negative thinking I know, just can't help it sometimes! Must get out for some fresh air soon x

@HJen22 I think exactly the same and I’m like why hasn’t it happened to me! Then I think it’s maybe taking time so I’ll have my baby when the world is a bit safer and then wonder if that’s better as it must be tough having a new born in lockdown... I’m just trying to put a bit of a positive spin onto this blooming stressful time
I will try to continue dtd and see what happens, then next month I’ll go back to opk and try the bbt in the mornings
Yes a walk always helps to de stress! I’ve got an exercise bike I’ve been on there a lot too as I find it helps a bit x

@HT1335 that's a good way of looking at it, and I seem to be way more of a stresser than I just to be so maybe it will be easier when it does happen and as you say; the world is a safer place. You just don't imagine it to be this difficult. I'm going to do OPKs next month too, if anything it takes away the whole worrying about DTD every 2/3 day for the whole time! Although I know that's what the doctor recommends, I find it takes it's toll and adds pressure to my BF! If I'm doing OPKs may as well do BBT too, although I find it a right faff sometimes, sometimes it's takes forever to find my temp and I'm sitting with it hanging out my mouth for ages!

Exercise bike is a good idea! I've been trying to mediate again and do a bit of yoga here and there, although I've said this before and didn't do well at keeping it up! Trying again though! X

@HJen22 yes I see what you mean about dtd you’d think the other halves would be pleased they have to do it so often, but it just causes them to feel pressured and it feels like a task sometimes.. but we will keep on trying.
I’m the same I start doing something and things get in the way or I feel too stressed to do the activity that will help to lessen the stress! 🙈
Hopefully it happens soon and we don’t need treatment and then the world will hopefully be a more normal place to enjoy them 🤞🏻X