No AF and BFNs 🤷‍♀️

[ImpatientMama]

Hello! We are trying for our second child and I am frustrated. I am sure several of you can relate to being frustrated with this whole TTC thing. 😅 Anyways. AF was due 3 days ago and has not shown her ugly face yet. But I have also gotten nothing but negatives (and one invalid). I was planning on not testing again until AF is a week late. Anyone get their BFP that late or even later? I am irregular, so it could just be a late period? I just want to know if I really am pregnant or not, so I can move on! Thanks for any insight you all provide! 😊

@Bgrace8 omg!!! Aww that’s lovely to see I bet you can’t believe it!!! Did you test first thing in the morning? Wow that’s fab news
No I can’t bring myself to test as I’ll be so disappointed if it’s negative, so I keep putting it off!

@HT1335 I did use my FMU but the lines came straight away and so strong and same with the clear blue digital it came on within a minute!
No idea when my period was due as my cycles have been abit all over!

I’m in shock haha.

How late are you? We’d be due same time if you were!!

According to my app I was due on Sunday but the last few times they have been all over the place so I’m not sure! I’ve just said to my partner we will do a test on Friday if no sign as I’m off work so I’ll have time in the morning.
Aww that’s lovely I bet your so pleased and relieved!
It will give everyone hope that it can happen for us all 😊

@HT1335 you have patience! Keep me updated and fingers crossed for you all girls x

@Bgrace8 thank you
Can I ask do you feel any different, do you have any of the pregnancy symptoms that you see when you google? I just wonder if people know they are pregnant due to how they feel. It’s not something you can really go around asking people without looking a bit strange!

@HT1335 ask away! Nothing at all I feel absolutely no different to normal apart from I was really constipated (tmi) this week and had a little nasal congestion but I always do on mornings!

No sore boobs, no back ache no implantation spotting, no nausea! However when I get my period I never get PMS symptoms so I must just be that way out!

@Bgrace8 oh that’s good to know as I always think you must get all these major symptoms so you would know that you’re pregnant
So really it’s just waiting for AF and testing that will give the answers!

@HT1335 I guess everyone’s different, one of my friends had really sore boobs and back ache but I don’t ever get PMS Symptoms but I’ll keep you updated with that!

I’m excited for you you’ll have to keep me updated!!

@Bgrace8 I will do, at the moment I’m just thinking AF is late again
But I’ll do a test on Friday so I know either way and if it arrives I’m going to get back on to the doctors in jan to discuss more bloods etc as they said if we don’t conceive by March it will be a referral for help

@Bgrace8 awwww amazing huge congratulations! What a wonderful end to the year! How are you feeling? Very happy and excited for you!!

I hope you are all well! I took some time out over Xmas, I had been doing well holding in my disappointment until a few wines and the birth of my friends baby and a cousins pregnancy announcement! As happy as I really am, it pushed me over the edge 😂 Really didn't want to get upset this month, and was annoyed I did. Not doing BBT or OPKs this month as felt like I really needed a break from it all.

Onto to 2021 🤞🏻 wishing you all a happy new year when it comes and I hope for some happy news for some more of us soon x

@HJen22 I totally understand how you feel it’s so stressful. And you feel awful when others announce things but you are happy for them just wonder why it hasn’t happened for you! But maybe taking a break from it to destress will be a good move.
I’m still waiting if AF but I know it’s just late again and I can’t bring myself to do a test so I’m
Ignoring everything for now x

@HT1335 I was just away to ask how you were and any sign! I'm sorry that's so annoying! What day are you on now? Yeah the whole thing is just a stress isn't it! And I really try every month for it not to be! Don't ever know what's best, tracking and knowing ovulation happened and getting my hopes up, or not tracking then worrying if I've not ovulated at all!

Yeah I'm always so so happy for people when they have babies and when they announce pregnancies, would have just been nice to have joined in and finished off a rubbish year with some good news! But here's hoping 2021 is a better one for us 🤞🏻 xxx

@HJen22 I totally agree but maybe we have times it right and if it happens soon we would be pregnant in a safer environment.. I’m trying to look at the positive side even though it’s hard sometimes
And I feel the same about tracking ovulation etc it adds more stress but on the other hand it gives you an idea of what’s going on!
I know I’ve just said to my partner we should maybe test in the morning I don’t want to, but at least then I’ll know. My app says I was supposed to get AF on 27th and I’m now on day 35 of my cycle so I really don’t know what’s happening, if AF is late again that’s a bit worrying as prior to this it was pretty regular x

@HT1335 I’m feeling really hopeful for you because that’s how I felt and I tested on day 35 or 36!

Had no signs or anything at all and I still don’t. Please keep us updated I’m hoping for a New Years gift for you!

@HJen22 I felt the same too I wasn’t sure if to keep testing but felt like I needed to and was happier that I had possibly ovulated. We did use conceive+ this month and we haven’t before, I can’t confirm if it it was did the job or if it was just right timing but to be honest girls I would give it a go. xx

@HT1335 yeah you aren't out til AF arrives so you never know! I have everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻I know, I have days being positive and thinking it will happen when it happens, then days of just thinking why is it taking so long 😔

@Bgrace8 yeah it's a hard one isn't it, I think cos the other month I didn't track then had a super long cycle it made me want to track, as I didn't know what had went on the long one. I have another clear blue OPK kit that I think I'll use next month. Oh that's good to know, do you mind me asking how you timed DTD too? Most months we get a few times over the fertile window but maybe next month should just try every day or something!? Just going to try every second day this time I think, I just went into my predicted window yesterday according to my apps xx

@HJen22 we DTD every day for flashing smiley and solid smiley. But my flashing smileys ended up being for about 5 days and then 2 days for the solid and my partner was really ill and struggled for the last few days so we weren’t sure it would happen. The month before I didn’t get any flashing smileys at all so only got to DTD on day of solid smiley which may have been too late.

But I do think the conceive+ helped it get to where it needs to be! Worth a shot definitely we used the applicators x

@Bgrace8 what conceive plus do you mean? The vitamins or the testing device or something else? We have both been taking the pre conceive vitamins for months we’ve had various brands. I maybe should do ovulation testing this month if AF ends up arriving late again x

@HT1335 we just used the conceive plus lubricant in applicators. Basically just insert them around 10 minutes before you DTD and I think it helps the swimmers get to where they need to be.

I think I’d you had lots of fertile CM maybe not needed but I never thought I had much so gave it a go!

Keeping my fingers crossed for you please do update us xx

@Bgrace8 argh right this must be the only thing we’ve not tried! So if I get AF late again I shall be purchasing some of this! Thank you... we need all the help and tips we can get!
I will update you we will test in the morning
I’m still having a few drinks tonight and then tomorrow hopefully we will know what’s going on. Thank you!
Have a lovely New Year’s Eve everyone and let hope the New Years brings us all some happiness and our wishes to conceive come true xx

@HT1335 good, enjoy yourself and keep us updated I am keeping my fingers crossed for you for the best New Year’s Day ever!!
Happy New Years ladies sending lots of love and happiness to you all xx

So the test was negative as I thought I’m
Fed up now of my AF being all over the place I don’t know why my cycles have started being so long it’s worrying, I’m going to ring the doctors next week again 😞 and order some of the conceive plus x

@HT1335 aw no way I am so gutted for you I really thought this could have been it for you. What day is it now? Yes order some off Amazon!! Xx

@Bgrace8 it’s now day 36 😞 I’ve had a little cry this morning as everyone seems to be announcing pregnancies today. I’m very worried as to why my cycles are getting longer too as ‘google’ says this could be a sign of low ovulation which is all
I need. But I’ve have myself a talking to and made a plan... I’ve ordered lube, ovulation kits and vitamins off Amazon and I am going to ring the GP soon as I get AF to discuss my concerns around the irregular cycle and say I want some more bloods and tests... and hopefully this will work
It’s so frustrating but we will keep on trying x

@HT1335 good that sounds positive! Have you tracked BBT? I would have given that a go this month if I hadn’t fallen on as I think it’s nice to know you actually have ovulated.

I’m sure there isn’t a problem but I know myself how much you can worry as I did too. But definitely try OPKS BBT and deffo the conceive+ applicators just for peace of mind, and call the docs to see what they say however they will probably say anything up to a 41 day cycle is normal xx

@Bgrace8 no I haven’t tried tracking BBT as I don’t really understand it but I may have a read up about it now as I need all the help I can get! Do you buy a thermometer and just take temp as you would normally? Yeah I will ring them when I know how long this cycle has been and just ask if they will take hormonal bloods as opposed to a generic health check screen like I got in summer as I know I’m generally healthy but with your hormones etc it’s hard to tell what’s going on! I may ask my partner to go to see his gp too for any tests they may be able to do for him xx