Anyone been trying for 5 months plus and want to chat?

[AKcheer]

Going into cycle 6 after AF...feeling deflated! Anyone else been trying for this time and want to chat and keep each other company and positive words!?

Me! Currently waiting for AF to turn up to go into cycle 8. I think this month is the most disappointed I've felt so far. I really got my hopes up.

I’ll join you! I’m the same, on cycle 5. Cycles are normally 29-32 days, currently on day 33 and just got a BFN. I was weirdly hopeful this month but assuming AF is about to arrive, so onto the next cycle!

We are on cycle 7 and feel like it will never happen. First couple of cycles I think I had a hormone imbalance after coming off the mini pill but think since August my hormones have been fine so now it just seems to be bad luck. Feel like all decisions for next year are on hold

I'm in! We are on our 6th cycle now. Just finished AF so starting the monthly process from now... they have been a bit irregular so who knows what's occurring, but I am using the ovulation sticks this time!

Hey everyone thanks for joining!! I’m finding this a lonely experience to be honest.

@Bowsie15 I know how you feel. I think I also convinced myself this was the month so I’m feeling super disappointed. AF is due any day but I’ve started to get spotting :(

@JLP256 it’s so hard isn’t it. How do you stay positive?

@popcorndiva I feel exactly the same. Everything is on hold and feeling really anxious about everything now. It feels like a dream and it won’t happen

Hello! Cycle 7 here, just entered the dreaded TWW. I've been tracking my BBT for the first time this month, and analysing the chart daily

@AKcheer it's the exact same for me too. I've been spotting for 2 days and just waiting for AF to start properly so I can look forward to the new month. It's so hard isn't it. Do you test before AF or wait until it's late?

@AKcheer I’m finding it tricky to be honest, especially this month. I try to remind myself that there’s only a 20% chance each month and plenty of my friends tried for 6+ months before getting pg. It can be really lonely though, especially in lockdown and when everyone around me seems to be having babies! It’s nice to chat to people here in the same position :).

Are you all trying for your first?

@JLP256 first for me. Will it be your first too?

I think lockdown makes TTC worse because there are no distractions.

Hi everyone! So glad I found this thread. Been TTC since June and just got my BFN again. I feel horrible because there are loads of people who have been trying longer so haven’t felt I’ve been able to talk to others about it so I’m glad I’ve found you lot. I either know people who have tried for years or fell pregnant within a month of trying so I feel like I’m on my own 😂🤷🏽‍♀️
I’m just so deflated. It’s heart breaking every month when that BFN is there and you’ve done everything right. I have been testing every month too for ovulation and still nothing despite tests giving us the green light. Unsure what else I can do!!
Can I join in with this thread please?! I can’t wait to see some BFP updates from you all hopefully soon 🥰 I’m excited to join you all in this xx

Can I join? On cycle 7 and feel like it is never going to happen. AF came on time on Sunday, I was convinced this was our month. So hard to stay positive. I do find the last few days before AF the toughest. DP has just been diagnosed with a B12 deficiency so this may have affected fertility? The good news is that if this is the case it should reverse with the treatment he is having.

This will be DC2 for us. We have a DS who was 2 in September. We were very lucky with him and fell first month so think this just adds to the frustration this time.

Hi @AKcheer I think we have spoken on other threads! I’m CD7 of cycle 6 aswell so get where you are coming from completely. TTC can be a very lonely place and it has really taken over my life for the past 6 months. This month I said I was going to relax but Iv still been temping and busted the OPKs out today! Going to try DTD at least every other day as partner says he feels under pressure from the OPKs so those are just for me 😂. We both work 10-14 hour shifts so when O falls on works days we struggle to get down to it! X

Hi guys thanks for jumping on!!

@DuzzyFuck oh no! How have you found tracking BBT? I don’t do that xx

@Bowsie15 I started spotting today so it’s just so annoying and I think nowadays it’s the initial shock when you wipe!! I usually don’t test but this month I had bought some ICs! And I tested early this month because I literally really believed I was pregnant!! Maybe that’s why I’m so disheartened this time!! But hey ho another month! How about you. Do you test early?

@JLP256 I feel you! Sometimes I’m sat here thinking how did you guys get pregnant so quick and what am I doing wrong!! Yes it is nice to chat to people in the same situation. I’m trying for my first :)

@Kirby173 I completely understand how you feel! Sometimes I read other threads and think am I moaning and winging for no reason but it’s lockdown and I need people to talk to and express my emotions!! Yes absolutely join and chat away! It’s so nice having a group to chat to! I always do OPKs as well but that still hasn’t got me anywhere LOL! Not sure what else I can do apart from hope and pray!! Do you test every month then and what DPO? Where abouts are you in your cycle now?

@AKcheer

Hi guys thanks for jumping on!!

@DuzzyFuck oh no! How have you found tracking BBT? I don’t do that xx

@Bowsie15 I started spotting today so it’s just so annoying and I think nowadays it’s the initial shock when you wipe!! I usually don’t test but this month I had bought some ICs! And I tested early this month because I literally really believed I was pregnant!! Maybe that’s why I’m so disheartened this time!! But hey ho another month! How about you. Do you test early?

@JLP256 I feel you! Sometimes I’m sat here thinking how did you guys get pregnant so quick and what am I doing wrong!! Yes it is nice to chat to people in the same situation. I’m trying for my first :)

@Kirby173 I completely understand how you feel! Sometimes I read other threads and think am I moaning and winging for no reason but it’s lockdown and I need people to talk to and express my emotions!! Yes absolutely join and chat away! It’s so nice having a group to chat to! I always do OPKs as well but that still hasn’t got me anywhere LOL! Not sure what else I can do apart from hope and pray!! Do you test every month then and what DPO? Where abouts are you in your cycle now?

Hi @AKcheer!!! Thank you so much for your response. It's so good to know there are others out there in the same position! I initially started OPKs because I had my implant removed ready for TTC but before my implant my periods were all over the place so I was worried there might be something wrong. Since having my implant removed though everything has been like clockwork period and ovulation wise. I test using the First Response tests about 11/12 dpo. I've started spotting before AF is due and I am at 11DPO today. Sure enough spotting so I tested and the BFN was right there. I agree we definitely need to talk and support each other especially with all the madnesses d uncertainty in this world right now!

What about you?! When do you test? How are you finding using OPKs? Xx

Hi girls!

Cycle 11 for me 😩 although a few months were missed (I think!) due to a water infection at the beginning of the year. But heyho. Definitely can’t help but feel disheartened when most of my friends have only tried a few months and my SIL has just announced they’re trying for their 3rd. (They’ve fallen 1st month for the other 2!)

We will all get there 🤍✨ x

Aww hi @Izzie94!! Aren’t water infections the worst?!
Bless you are you TTC your first baby?
Honestly I can relate so much i know at least 4 girls who within 2 month of trying fell pregnant! I stupidly thought I would be lucky too as loads of people said as soon as they had their implant out they fell pregnant but nothing!!!
On the other hand though I know people who have had fertility issues for years and have had to go through IVF.
I just feel a bit stuck in the middle but as soon as I saw this thread I was like ah amazing there are other girls in a similar position!
I’m so fed up of wishing time away every month just to get that BFN.
Are you using OPKs or anything to try and improve chances? Xx

Imagine we spend all this time and energy (and money!) trying NOT to get pregnant and assuming it'll happen the second we stop and then here we are...

@AKcheer I don't really know what to make of the BBT thing. I've started dreaming about it since it's on my mind that I have to do it the second I wake up I think I can see where ovulation was this month but aren't certain. I was thinking of staring a thread looking for experienced BBTers to advise!

This month I'm telling myself that it doesn't matter as I'm job hunting at the moment and my friends wedding is in exactly 9 months (and abroad!) so not the ideal time but I know I'll be disappointed to see a BFN anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

I actually don't mind the TWW as at least there's hope. It's the 7-10 days of AF and then waiting for the window that does me in.

[quote JLP256]@AKcheer I’m finding it tricky to be honest, especially this month. I try to remind myself that there’s only a 20% chance each month and plenty of my friends tried for 6+ months before getting pg. It can be really lonely though, especially in lockdown and when everyone around me seems to be having babies! It’s nice to chat to people here in the same position :).

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Hi @JLP256 I've just seen a couple of your posts but this one got me. It's so hard isn't it when you see all this stuff about 20% chance even when you are both fertile because it doesn't help at all!!!

I saw your other post on here I think we are at the same stages cycle wise! I've just done a pregnancy test and got a BFN. I'm due AF in two days so we might be quite similar going into next month and TTC again.

Good luck! Keep me posted on how you are getting on xx

Hey @Jamill87 how you doing? Of course you can join! I agree the last few days before AF is the ultimate killer where everything is over analysed!!! Does the docs think it might have anything to do with sperm? If he’s taking something though that’s good it hopefully will do the trick!!

Awww @popcorndiva so lucky to have Caleb on your first. It must be so nice to have a little one running around. And you’re obviously looking for another little one to join him! ❤️

Hey @Sohe a familiar name! How you doing!? Yeah I think in terms of cycles we are pretty much in the same boat. It really is lonely and it really is stressful sometimes isn’t it. I think that’s the best thing to do sometimes do the OPKs but don’t tell hubby. I’ve seen quite a lot of people have stopped them recently but I still do them but I don’t tell hubby anymore at all. Ahh yah it must be hard to get the timings right and girl you must be tired after that long shift!! I’ve never temped and it’s because it seems so complex so I actually cba I don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing!

So many lovely ladies have joined this thread! Welcome and thanks so much for joining and keeping me and everyone else company!

No problem @Kirby173! Oh that’s good that you became pretty regular quickly! It helps a lot doesn’t it. It’s weird because I don’t think I ever use to spot before I started TTC unles I did and never paid attention to it I don’t know. It’s a bit odd! Oh man...seeing the white on a BFN just kills me. I also use OPKs but this month me and hubby just had sex every couple of days or every other really. I don’t test every cycle. This cycle I felt weird so I decided to test at 10 and 11 but BFn and spotting a bit now so it’s on its way. I don’t even know why I use OPKs to be honest like if we’re doing it every other day do I need to or do I just like dipping a stick in my urine!? I don’t know lol

Hey @Izzie94 oh wow you’re really into the journey aren’t you! How have you found it? Does it get harder or easier you reckon? It’s weird since you start everyone around you or on social media seems to be pregnant. God I can’t imagine announcing to people I’m starting to try. I’m obviously a snail compared to other people can’t deal with the pressure!!!

@DuzzyFuck I’m so jealous...it sounds like you have loads to look forward to!! Hope it all goes ahead with aunt corona around!! Hahahaha love how your dreaming about temp!! Can’t get away from it but it is a good reminder in the morning! I think it’s natural just to be upset when we get that BFN no matter what because it’s obviously something we want. I had the perception that it’s a lot easier to conceive before I started trying boy was I wrong. Oh really!? I don’t mind that bit it’s when I resort to choc and wine!

I think I'm on cycle 5...have been trying since June.

I'm 31 and trying for my first. None of my close friends are pregnant/have babies either. At least that was...until yesterday. My husband's best friend (best man at our wedding) and wife announced to us their pregnancy (8 weeks preg) and how it took them no time at all.

In September my period was a week late so was feeling good but no it was BFN. My period finally arrived 10 days late.

This month my period is due tomorrow and I have the usual cramps happening .

Years ago when I was young I was told I had cysts on my ovaries and whilst I've never been checked out for infertility, I do blame myself for the reason we're not pregnant yet (I'm also the most impatient person known to man).

I do feel bad for having these feelings as there are others who have been trying for years! I'm financially secure, we have the house, the spare bedroom and 2 cats who are spoilt rotten as they are essentially our babies.

@Bowsie15 yes first one too :)

@Kirby173 aw I totally agree. My sister actually told me that stat, when she was pg after month 1 of TTC - tried not to roll my eyes too much haha, even though I know she meant well! Sorry to hear about your BFN. There’s still a chance this month! I think we are around the same stage :)

So glad can chat to others that get how hard it is! The doctor didn't seem to concerned about the b12 and fertility but from what I have read it could have an effect, I think in my head once his levels are back to normal I will be pregnant, setting myself up for disappointment I think! I am so worried that it will never happen! It would be my 3rd DC but DPs first. Thanks so much for making this thread x

Hey @NatMoz I’ve just finished my cycle 5. Just waiting for AF to show up fully. Oh gosh, why do we always need to have people around us where it took them no time!! I wish I was one of those people so jealous I’m not!! Oh gosh that’s so annoying about September. In TTC our bodies play such weird tricks on us.

Don’t ever blame yourself I think it’s so hard on females and we always tend to blame ourselves but we need to ride the journey through and wait until it’s our turn ❤️ Awww I’m in the same boat as you. Just so ready for this but I don’t have a pet. Although I said to hubby if this don’t happen I need a baby aka a dog!!!

@Jamill87 Me too! This is our place to rant to rave and to support each other. Oh sounds positive. You’ll have to keep us updated on how the vitamin d situation is!! Oh wow fingers crossed for you.

We can all do this. Stay positive everyone xx I’m also trying too