Anyone been trying for 5 months plus and want to chat?

[AKcheer]

Going into cycle 6 after AF...feeling deflated! Anyone else been trying for this time and want to chat and keep each other company and positive words!?

I'm the same.

WHERE IS AF???? I have a 13km run planned on Sunday and I hate running about with a nappy between my legs so was hoping it would be over with by then. Instead it's going to be annoying (when it eventually arrives).

(I know I could try tampons but find they slllloooowwwly wriggle out when I'm doing 'strenuous' exercise').

Sorry if tmi, I don't know if others have the same problem/have a solution!

Hi all, I'm on day 2 of af on my 3rd cycle (I hope you don't mind me joining). I've taken great comfort in reading all your comments. Even though I'm very new to this really, I'm already feeling sightly disheartened. It's odd as I've always been quite indifferent about kids really, but then we lost our dog suddenly in the summer (he was 17, and it was very quickly thankfully) and since then, the desire to nurture and care for something /someone has grown.

I'm 36, and my husband is 43, so we're a little maturer than I ever thought we'd be. I'm not overly worried about my age just yet, as we've got a plan. I was tracking using a basic calendar (my calendar), and my garmin watch app also tracks. We were dtd pretty much every day in the fw, but of course with no luck yet... Yesterday af appeared, so I've bought some of the ovulation test sticks, both a clearblue one, and fenometer ones. Thanks to amazon prime, they're already here.

Our plan is to give them a try for a couple of months, then in the new year, seek medical advice. I did get tested a few years ago, for pcos, thanks to a really bad bout of acne after coming off the pill. The scans and bloods came back normal, so hopefully it's just a matter of time and patience.

The 1st month we tried, I was convinced that it had worked. I had sore boobs from around a week in, and towards the end of the 2ww I was really hungry, and also thought everything tasted odd. I get a mild headache a day or two before I start, so I was gutted when it all happened like clockwork. This month, I was a day late, so allowed myself just a glimmer of hope. I think from now on, I'll not get my hopes up until I eventually get a bfp.

Anyway, sorry for the essay, and for jumping on this thread when I'm not quite at the same point, but this thread has been of comfort, so thank you all x

Hey @JLP256 all good thanks!! When are you thinking about testing do you reckon? My AF is due on Sunday so just waiting for that and it’s annoying!!

Hey @NatMoz. Your AF was meant to come a couple days ago right? You going to test you reckon? Uhhh hate that feeling! I know why you mean. I actually don’t like wearing tampons so always think this is an issue. I’ve wore 2 pairs of pants before and that helped and felt comfy but not sure how you feel about it!!

@AKcheer

I'm not pregnant, I got a negative yesterday and yeah my body is teasing me as I'm currently a day late. Was 10 days late in September so it can be a bit funny at times.

Welcome to @Birchybirch how are you!! I’m so sorry to hear about your doggy! I love dogs so this makes me so sad.

I think no matter where you are in your journey, it disheartens you. I wish I could say it gets easier but 5 months in I feel so much disappointment :(

Ahh would this be your guys first? Looks like you’re well prepared and you’ve got the gear!! I usually just use the cheap opks, they seem to do the trick but I haven’t conceived yet. Ahh yeah good idea, see how it goes and hopefully in the next couple of months you will conceive!! I think we have to all stay positive. It’s good to know yourself you haven’t got pcos as well because that makes it slightly easier.

Oh gosh....Seriously I know exactly how you feel!! The first month I was 100% sure I conceived also! It’s so weird how your mind plays all these tricks on you and how your body starts to feel a certain way. It’s very odd and I don’t know why it happens. Even this cycle something kept telling me that I’ve done it this month but it doesn’t look like I have. Ahh the craziness of being a woman.

Where abouts are you in your cycle?

Omg no problem at all! Stay on this thread and chat to us! It’s nice to understand what each other is going through and support each other!!

@NatMoz Not sure why our period has to do this to is!! How annoying....I guess just wait to c AF. Hopefully it arrives after your run then!!

What annoys me is how apps tell you different days your period starts 😫😫😫

Ah thank you @akcheer yeah having him pts was the hardest thing I've had to do, but thankfully we were there for him and it was quick.

Yeah it will be our 1st. It's so funny that it's drilled into us to be careful, and use contraception, to prevent pregnancy, but it's never 100% guaranteed. Makes it seem like the minute you stop using protection, boom, it will happen immediately, but I'm learning its not quite that simple.

I'm trying not to let it take over too much. I've cut down on my alcohol intake, taking my follic acid daily, and trying to eat a little better, but then I didn't drink excessively, or have a terrible diet to start with. If I want that rum and Coke or biscuit, I'm still allowing myself to have it, just trying to get more good stuff in me too. I know this journey can take a couple of years, but it's hard not to get your hopes up every month.

It wi be really interesting to find out when I'm ovulating compared to when I think I am. I might be mistaken, but I think the cb test may even be able to confirm if I am, so that could maybe provide answers /rule out that issue if we do need to get the docs involved. I guess we'll see! Wishing us all the best of luck, and hope we all get our bfp's soon! X

Morning, just got another BFN and this is now my longest cycle ever (well since I started tracking 2 yrs ago). Confused!

Welcome @Birchybirch this really is a lovely supportive thread :) hope you get your BFP soon!

I broke my rule and tested today with a frer (11dpo) and obviously bfn. Cycle 15 I'm going on to. Don't know how much more I can take. I'm finding it harder each month, especially with so many people around me pregnant from one time slips ups, or having babies.

Ah sorry to heat about your bfn's, we've got to keep trying to believe that next time is our time 🤞 one of my friends was ttc with her second in her late 20's and it took her 2 years, so there's absolutely no rhyme or reason to any of this.

Does anyone else feel like they have implantation cramps towards the end of their cycle? On my 1st attempt I had af cramps about 4 days before I was due on, and this month, I had pinching pains on my left hand side on the day af was due (I was a day late). I know I'm probably reading too much into it, but I do wonder sometimes if it works, but then my body freaks out and rejects it... It probably isn't the case, but I'd never really noticed it before ttc... X

Hi all,
I am nearing the end of cycle 10 for my first. Feel like it's never going to happen, so many scans on social media, friends and family pregnant, all by accident or trying a few weeks! It feels so unfair sometimes, but I tell myself it will happen, I think most likely next year obviously now. Good luck girls x

Hey gals. Anyone else a golf widow lol... It's been on the Tele all weekend!! Current knitting and waiting for 10pm so I can go to bed!

Welcome @Birchybirch - so sorry to hear about your doggo, I can imagine how awful that was but how exciting to start a new chapter. I hope you see some good results on the ovulation prediction kits. I must say that I have never seen a "peak" on the femometer ones and am thinking of trying the CB ones but they're just so blinkin expensive! For something I am going to pee on!! But will probs give them a go next month as apparently they are better. I haven't had implantation cramps myself. But last month my body played tricks on me and I had so many symptoms... Headache, nausea, peeeing alot, etc... And I was just 3 days late for no reason at all ...

@Lovebug06 hey :) yep sounds like we are all in the same boat... But we will get there one day! And then we will be the people that are annoying those trying! Lol. I hope your next cycle is the one!

Okay @NatMoz have you ever tried a moon cup! I am a convert they are amazing, after the initial weirdness. It's a game changer. Good luck for your run.

@JLP256 I feel your frustration as this was me last month and even though you know you probably aren't, until you get AF there is always the "what if..." - I hope you know for sure either way soon as limbo is the worst.

Well I think ovulation is tomorrow for me, though not certain as these sticks in using are a bit naff. I do find CM is a good indication so will have a look at that tomorrow and am doing bbt. What will be will be!

Right nearly 10pm that's bedtime for me! Xx

Morning guys how are you!? AF arrived for me properly yesterday thank god so at least after this I can start again!

@Birchybirch Yes I can imagine must have her so hard. It’s so odd isn’t it. At school and everywhere it’s drilled into you about protection...and if you have sex then you will get pregnant!! Not reality because we’re having plenty of sex but bit pregnant!!

Best thing to the and relax and not let it take over your life i think. Especially if you are healthy and have a good diet then it should be ok.

Yeah definitley. It’s always good to at least know when you are because not everyone is the average cycle day 14!!

@JLP256 Uhh how annoying. Just hate the waiting game. How you feeling today?

@Theawkwardblonde I’m sorry to hear about your BFN. Don’t lose hope. I know it’s hard but you got to stick in there. Don’t give up. Wait until AF and it’s a new start xx

@Lovebug06 Hey how you doing!? It’s hard sometimes when you see so much on social media but like you said we have to be patient and when it’s our time it will be our time and it will the most magical moment. I’m also hoping now next year at least please!!

Hey everyone!

@AKcheer @Rose2108 thanks for the messages, AF came yesterday (right after my BFN annoyingly) so I was pretty gutted about that because I felt weirdly hopeful this month. But also glad I’m just on to the next cycle now because AF was so late and it felt like I was just wasting time waiting if I wasn’t pregnant!

I’ve been taking Pregnacare conception and I’m sure I saw someone on here saying it can mess with your cycles...does anyone know? Anyway switching to Seven Seas now.

Hope everyone’s had a good weekend x

Hey everyone,

Hope it's okay if I join! Currently cycle day 14 of cycle 8, feeling very vey very deflated the last couple of cycles. I'm finding it so hard because I know me and my husband are so ready and we both want this so bad, I just feel like it will never come and I don't know what to do :(

@JLP256 LOL it always comes just after a test!! Oh yeah! Onto this new cycle! And then it’s a fresh start!

I used to take pregnacare and boy did that mess with my cycle!! Oh god it really messed up my cycle and made me so anxious because my cycle has always been so normal!!! You’ll have to let me know what the 7 seas ones are like xx

@1izzie welcome and of course you can join! It really is hard isn’t it. You get your hopes up and then boom AF. But we’re all in this together and here to support each other so we will get through this. So if your day 14 you probably should be ovulating at some point soon if you haven’t already! Exciting! I know it’s hard, but we got to take each month as a new month and out our focus into it. Try not to be disappointed and deflated on a new cycle xxx

Honestly I really needed that, thank you so much @AKcheer! It's so nice to know you're not alone in this 🥰 yes we are baby dancing a lot at the moment, fingers crossed!

@1izzie I have felt like that the last few months, I'm right near the end of cycle ten. I think it's that initial excitement and kind of expecting it to happen and then it doesn't... It has left me deflated and kind of worried. But then I tell myself it's normal, and each month is another hope! And that there are lots of other women going through this too, like us on here. I hope your okay x
@AKcheer thankyou. Yes I feel like social media is full of scans and newborns atm! Hopefully it will be our time soon to get some good news.
@Rose2108 I weirdly hadn't thought of that. When we are over the moon there'll be another poor girl feeling rubbish about it. Ahh it's so hard isn't it. My AF is due within the next couple of days and I know it's coming i can feel it but I still have that hope... Even though I know it's silly.

Eek guys 12dpo after trying since April
Things I did this month. Started dtd every other day since cd8, ovulated cd17. So lots of dtd

I then and this is what I think helped took baby aspirin since ovulation

Early days though so will test again in a couple of days

Omg @popcorndiva this is the best news!! Congratulations girl!! Such a strong positive!! This is amazing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Ah, huge congratulations!

I'm on another couple of threads, and they mentioned taking aspirin too, so I'm really tempted to try it! X

Didn't just trust the one test so sneaked a few more when my DS went for his nap. So much better when you see the words

@popcorndiva congratulations!! There's no denying it! So so pleased for you ❤

Bad news for me ladies. Blood tests show I haven't ovulated this month. So the doctors are now of the mindset that I'm not ovulating every cycle, only on the ones where I've had a chemical. So in 14 months that would be 4 (I think) times. Have to go for additional tests on Friday then they will decide where to go from there. Devastated. I knew there would be an issue with me and I was right.

Hiya,

I hope all you lovely ladies are ok!

So we've been TTC since April and you may have seen me jump on posts before I had to take a break as I became obsessive.

Now after relaxing a little and BD every 2-3 days I'm experiencing something a little different that I wanted to share to see if this is a good sign or not, any ladies got their bfp with the following?

-tiredness like allllllll the time
-frequent urination
-period like cramps
-lots of CM
-Cervix high, soft and open

I'm currently CD25 and have a 30 day cycle so I wouldn't get a bfp until next week most likely if it's meant to be