TTC after MC - October 2020 (Thread 14)

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@SS123456 I am 21 trying for my first, lost my first and only pregnancy in Februaru

@ss123456 I'm 27, TTC after MC in May

Hi guys how is everyone, I'm strictly opking this month with no positive results as of yet.

Hi @SS123456. I am 28, TTC my first, had a CP in July. Currently in CD12 so ovulation due in 5 days hoping this is the month!!!

Hi everyone
@furbsies what CD are u. How many times a day are u opk'ing

Hi @SS123456 I'm TTC my 3rd. We have 2 who are 13 and almost 8. I'm 35. We have been TTC for over 3 years now. Fertility investigations were all normal. On the waiting list for IVF but not holding my breath on that one since services haven't resumed since covid hit. I was told my egg reserve is low so I don't have much time left. I had a MC in May at 5-6 weeks. It was my first BFP and it was devastating.

How are you @VP91x ? I got my peak CBD on CD13 but my temps never confirmed ovulation so neither FF or Ava have marked that I've ovulated. Can you get a peak on OPK if you haven't ovulated? Do you need temps and OPKs to confirm? Either way I don't think we've DTD enough. We are both tired and fed up. I'm now self isolating for 2 weeks anyway due to being in close contact with someone and we keep fighting as DH is off due to a 'circuit breaker lockdown' here. I really am starting to think this is a fruitless endeavour (excuse the pun).

How are you @MichT4 , you still here? X

@SS123456 I’m 33 trying for first, had mmc in July been trying ever since. Cycles have been all over since mmc but think I ovulated cd16 and now cd23 so 6dpo. Keeping everything crossed x

Hi again to the newbies! I've just finished AF so back on the wagon with a fresh cycle. Feeling good and positive this month. @SS123456 I'm nearly 30 and been trying for a year. Miscarried my first pregnancy mid-August at 5 weeks 😢 just finished my 2nd period since mc and during this time just been tracking non-medical symptoms on Clue and ovulation (badly 😛) on Femometer. Xx

Hey @chloedancer897, yeah I'm still here ☺️
Thank you for checking on me.

I come on and try and keep up to date, but it's been a busy couple of weeks. Long story short but we went to Cornwall for the weekend with my mum and she had a fall - broke her nose - so dealing with her in hospital and then she stayed with us for a week.

As before I am in the wings, trying not to be consumed. AF turned up a few days late so I had some hopes dashed. But we go again! My temps seem to stay high for a while after AF starts and I've read it can be blood stagnation. My acupuncture treatment targeted that on Monday, and I have my follow up with RMC tomorrow on my bloods. All going on in the background. Original due date coming up, apps suggesting ovulation will fall on or near that date! Really just hoping for good news by Christmas!

And that's me!

How are you doing lovely? Sorry you are having a bit of a testing time. I think you can get an OPK peak and not ovulate, like your body attempts to xxx

Hope everyone is doing well xxx

@MichT4 I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I hope she is feeling better. I'm sorry you had your hopes dashed again.I know this is going to happen for you though. Do you think acupuncture is helping? I've been doing it for months now. She never really asks what part of my cycle I'm on or anything so I don't understand how it's actually working. She just chats and sticks the needles in! If I'm not pregnant by Christmas I'm stopping all the TTC business. I need to get on with my life and 3 years is enough time to dedicate to it. I just can't continue putting my family through it all.

@2alreadywantanother I'm on cd16, my cycles are long
In the past I ovulated on CD 22/23 so hoping it's similar this time as well

I'm opking twice. Once around 2pm and once around 6pm

Where are you in your cycle

@MichT4 sorry meant to say, how will I know for certain if I've ovulated? 😭

@chloedancer897 I'm in the midst of a long cycle Day 36 for me with no reason whatsoever - so just waiting around.

In terms of the CBD, I've had a couple of peaks on them but not had a peak strip OPK and no temp confirmation for ovulation. Have you got a pic of your chart? I really think that if your temps haven't confirmed ovulation then it might not have happened - hate saying this! I'm only going by my experience of when I've definitely ovulated. I've had a peak strip OPK and then definite temp rises (only twice in the last billion months 😩) xx

@VP91x oh bugger. All these months before temping and I thought I was ovulating 😭😭 here's the chart. I got a peak on CD 13 so assumed I ovulated CD14 but of course that could all be wrong. My temps have risen slightly but not enough for FF to say I've ovulated and Ava is telling me I haven't.

@chloedancer897 have you tried to doing an OPK just on the days you are getting your CBD peaks? Temping is great to confirm ovulation for me - it just doesn't ever bloody happen 😂

From your chart I would agree and say you haven't ovulated this month😔xx

@VP91x got positive OPK peaks too. Oh poo. Clearly this is the problem then. I think I'm ovulating but I'm not 😭😭😭

@VP91x this was August. I think I ovulated then. So maybe I'm not ovulating all the time? Bugger. I'm so upset now thinking I'm doing everything and I'm not flipping ovulating.

@chloedancer897 please please don't get too upset, every woman has around 20% of her cycles as anovulatory so it could just be a month like that. Your body could still try again, so if it doesn't stress you maybe do a OPK late afternoon everyday just to see what is going on.

August looks definite for ovulation. So don't think there's anything wrong with you! Xx

@VP91x I didn't realise that and of course I only
Got the Ava in August so I've been assuming I'm ovulating as normal before then. So really there's no point in doing OPKs without temping?!

@chloedancer897 it's so preferential, it depends if it will stress you out. I've read the only way to confirm for sure without a blood test is to use bbt. Because a OPK only shows a surge in LH, which doesn't always result in an egg being released. However its the progesterone rise post ovulation that causes the temp rise which would be indicative of ovulation having happened.

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@VP91x this whole TTC business is nothing but stressful. You think you're on the right track with the OPKs and then the temping doesn't confirm. I'm not even sure if I ever really ovulate except August there really. Oh well, on to next month 😭😭 I'm in the same limbo as you then!lol Have you started treatment for your PCOS? Did you try those supplements that are supposed to be brill?

@VP91x any chance my temps are just off? I've been checking them anyway due to isolating and they've been constantly low for me. 35.6-35.9. So I wonder if this is affecting my chart (aka grasping at straws)

@chloedancer897 they are only low in the range due to it being skin temp and not basal body temp. So they'll run lower anyway. The temp itself isn't an issue it's more the pattern and where there has been no distinct rise is why I would say no to ovulation.

Keep taking your temp everyday though so you get a good indicator of what a cycle looks like for you xx

I've been taking the supplements, I've not noticed a huge change but, it is meant to take 3 months anyway so let's see. I'm on month 3 almost.

@chloedancer897 I've only had two sessions so I have no idea but I just feel better that I'm taking the time to do something for me. I do lay there and envisage the making of a lovely fertile and homely setting for a bubba, so that positive mindset is nice for a while.

I think @VP91x has answered your question re ovulation. I had a peak and no temp rise a few cycles ago, but then got a second peak with a temp rise. I think your body can attempt again, or it could be an anovulatory cycle. Just means the eggs are getting nice and ready xx

@VP91x @MichT4 I doubt I'll ovulate this cycle as it's always 27-28 days which would make my LP too short. Oh well, on to the next cycle then which gives me 2 cycles until I give up 😞

Hello ladies, just checking in to say hi and that I'm still thinking of you all. Welcome to anyone new and sorry for your losses.

Update from me I am cd8 today of a new cycle after having what I think must have been a chemical last month. No definitive answers and the doctors have been useless but after having a faint positive and then negative tests and af being over a week late I can't see what else it could have been. I've been very quiet again as I'm still trying to step back - don't think I will opk again this month after a really stressful cycle with af being so late last time.

I spotted the wave of light you posted @VP91x how lovely 💕 sending lots of hugs to everyone during baby loss awareness month