Preconception planners - still planning

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Hi all. thought i'd make a new thread as the old one getting close to a thousand. Don't forget to rejoin!!

Spotilly means Spotify! Sorry

@TTCWC2 that sounds super interesting!!

I've just read everyone's discussion on coffee and alcohol. Is it bad that until we start properly trying from say Nov/Dec I'm not cutting down at all? I guess I should, but my thought was more of making the most of being able to do. You guys are all so much better than me!

First time using condoms this week in years with my husband - not entirely thrilled about it 🤣

@AMS19 I was out three weeks ago drinking tequila shots and whiskey sours, I haven't put my life on hold ttc. (I don't go out often so definitely not spending every Saturday night downing shots and every Sunday morning with my head down the toilet) 🤣 but if I get the opportunity to go out with my friends and let my hair down, I do. If I knew I was pregnant I wouldn't obviously.

@AMS19 , I don't think I'm going to cut down either - if we aren't successful in the first 6 months of trying then I'll probably put more effort into the dietary side of things but if anything I'm seeing these next three months as a 'last hurrah' of my footloose, fancy-free, cocktail drinking life

What BBT thermometer did you get? I don't want to buy one from Amazon (we share a Prime account with the in-laws!) so am looking for other recommendations ...

@HeyDW96 ah good! I was worried it was just me and I was being super irresponsible. I've started conception vitamins, am running 3 times a week and generally healthy but the idea of prolonging the 9 months without alcohol and coffee im not sure I could do! I also don't go mad, but probably have 3 or so glasses of wine per week!

Hi ladies,

Just catching up on these.. that podcast sounds brilliant. Going to listen to it on my lunch break.. going to get out for a walk.

What do we all think about there being a second wave? I'm getting quite concerned, do we think there will be another lockdown?

I don't think it will effect our TTC plans but it does concern me.. always hoped my bf would be able to come to scans with me and be at the birth.. doesn't look like a vaccine is coming soon so now thinking should I not pin my TTC plans on Feb.

@AMS19 I'm no where near as good as others on here at cutting down. We're TTC this month and I'm going out this weekend to celebrate my best friend's 30th three months early since I'll hopefully be pregnant by the time her birthday actually comes round. We might just have to have a celebration every month to cheer me up if I don't get pregnant straight away 😂.
I've had a look for the postcast but I can't find it. Have you typed the name down correctly?

I know what you mean about more than 9 months going without because I think I'll end up longer than that anyway if I'm able to breastfeed again.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think lock down will end up being more local and I'm hoping they don't close all the schools again. We did some training this week on Google classroom and I'm really hoping it doesn't come to that. It'd be such a shame if partners couldn't come to scans.

Have any of you thought about whether you'd consider a home birth if you were able to so that your partner could be there with you?

Ladies has anyone come off the implant? Getting very impatient waiting for AF to appear for the first time! No signs yet
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@IAmFourEels
Sorry missed your message in my last reply!
I got the Fermometer one. Annoyingly it was from Amazon though. I have started trying it yet. My period is due today (well, withdrawal bleed from my last pill). Has started yet but hopefully tomorrow then I can start properly!

@Pebbleinthesand
Yeah I think I'll reconsider if nothing happens. We arent actually gonna start trying for another month or so, so should be okay. But maybe once we do start trying I will try to cut down a bit
The podcast was @TTCWC2 - sounds super interesting but haven't tried to find it yet

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think it is likely. I looked at private scans (I live in London so there are loads - even Groupon has 3 in my local area) and they are really reasonable so we said if my husband can't come we will just booked private scans between the NHS ones, and definitely for the first so he can come too!

I can't seem to find the podcast either but I did get 'It starts with an egg' with a free trial on audiable and found found that really interesting.. there's a section on improving egg quality.. I think it's quite easy to get obsessed though and I'm def at that point 😂

Interesting about home births.. I hadnt even considered it tbh if it meant my bf could be there then I would consider it but I'd just be scared in case there were complications and I wasn't in the best place.. so for my first I'd prob want to opt for a hospital birth.. but maybe by the time I'm in that position it'll be better.

I didn't think of private scans either.. that's made me feel better too.

It's worrying isn't it but hopefully things don't go back to how they were! Also quite selfishly I was due a promotion in April, they postponed until further notice and we got an email to say they'll be considering promotions for us again in October and I could really use the extra money to save for Mat leave etc so I hope that goes ahead... I know that makes me sound super selfish and it's def not the be all and end all so if it doesn't happen it's obv not the end of the world.

@sunflowersaremyfav93
I agree i don't think I would risk a home birth but the scans are good given you only get 2 with the NHS anyway so think knowing my paranoid mind i would want more!
Absolutely not selfish, it is sensible. My ideal plan is to fall pregnant in December and find out on 1 Jan so that, 1) I can still drink for my bday and Xmas and NYE, and 2) fits with my current holiday plans 🤣🤣
That is definitely selfish!

It's so funny you say that, I was literally thinking the exact same thing about drinking over Xmas.. I don't drink much anyway and neither do my family so they wouldn't notice but my bf's family like a drink and there is Prosecco at every event so they'd def clock on if I wasn't drinking so I'll have to drink over Xmas when I'm with them but then it's dry jan haha!!
I guess we can be selfish now because when the baby arrives it's all about them... I acc can't wait I'm sooo ready now.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 apparently the Frexinet alcohol free one is nice, so my plan is to stock up on that as I host Xmas and NYE, and just hide my bottles so people don't see the label 🤣 but ideally, I can have the real thing. Ha, I do dry January every year so it would literally be the perfect cover for me!!!
When are you thinking of starting currently? We will definitely use condoms for this first month until I get my first period then I will probably go natural but not "try" to get pregnant, then go crazy during Dec so I can bring my plan to life 🤣🤣🤣

Hi ladies, the podcast is called 'food for thought' on Spotify and the specific episode for TTC is 'what to eat when trying to get pregnant.' Hope this helps! @Pebbleinthesand

@AMS19 Ooh brilliant idea, I'll have to get some or those or pour myself a gin and tonic with no gin 😂 we're not starting til Feb which is only 136 days away (lol) but feels like forever.
Ooh so exciting for you!! I can't wait to start.. I've literally been planning since March/April.. my bf thinks I'm crazy haha

This is also a really helpful podcast.. she suggested some ideas I'd not heard of before so worth a listen.

Just waiting for my opks to go positive
Feeling ovulation twinges today, so hoping the prediction is correct for Friday/Saturday
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baby dust for everyone

Just catching up on messages, I haven’t given up on alcohol and caffeine though I am eating healthy, and I don’t drink anywhere near as much as I used to before I had my first but yes I’m looking forward to a couple of carefree alcohol drinking, steak eating months before we TTC in December if my cycles stay as they are forecast it’s so perfect as I’ll ovulate around Christmas so wouldn’t know I was pregnant until the new year so looks like I can buy the mulled wine in for this Christmas! (Of course I know I’d be very lucky to fall first time so trying not to get my heart set on it too much!)

I was thinking about this second wave business earlier too... I don’t think I’ll let it stop me TTC, I’m not too worried about scans as we’ll just get private ones so my hubby can see the baby, and he was beyond useless in my first birth so whilst I’m sure he will be able to come to that I wouldn’t really care if he did or not. I think a home birth will be out of the question for me sadly after an “eventful” previous delivery but that might be a good option for some of you ladies!

Work has been really busy the last couple of weeks so it’s kind of helped take my mind off waiting to TTC, but now talk is turning to Christmas it feels like it’s getting closer!

Welcome to the new ladies, here’s some and whilst we still can!

@jessicalouise10

Hello! I had my implant removed 2 weeks ago and am waiting for AF. No idea how long it is supposed to take. I had pretty regular periods with it in but know they are not 'real.' Hmm it's very odd. Just waiting to see what happens I guess! I have had a bit of spotting and brown CM though (sorry! TMI!)

Hope everyone is ok. Thank goodness it's Friday! X

Morning ladies!

Finally got my withdrawal bleed from stopping my pill today. Downloaded all the apps as officially it is my first cycle in about 15 years with no form of contraception so goodness knows what is going to happen

And I concur - to a month of alcohol, morning coffee, sushi and medium-rare steak. Oh, and condoms. That last part isn't quite as exciting 🙄😒

Morning!!! So an update for me is that I still don't know when I ovulated, I had spotting on Tuesday which was CD12 then on CD13 I had proper pink wipe away spotting, although still not enough to stain underwear. I've had backache since Tuesday and leg pains too so I'm assuming it's all ovulation related. We DTD on CD10 so fingers crossed we have a pure fluke 🙈 although the realist in me is saying we're probably out. DH is working away until October so no chance of boosting our chances again this month which is why we originally said we'd officially start next month 🤭🤣 I just got carried away when I realised we had DTD in my potentially fertile week 😆

How's everyone doing? Xxx

Oh wow .. so I weighed my self this morning and half a stone has crept on ... starting slimming world today! Telling you all so I'm accountable 😂

@SparklePrincesss how will you feel if you are pregnant? I would be quite disappointed i think if it happened for me this month but from then on probably secretly happy!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 so scary how it creeps. I was super good last week, weighed myself today and stayed the same. Hoping it is because I came on and I actually lost because now I feel totally demotivated to diet and exercise! 😂

I am now 10/11 dpo. Ordered a FRER so I will test Sunday morning I think, as AF should be due Monday or Tuesday!

Haven't felt much to be honest apart from some headaches, a thirst nothing can quench and still have really sensitive nipples 🤦🏼‍♀️ don't know if any of you are cervix checkers or plan to be but my one is currently MIA, whereas I thought it would be low down for AF coming! Who knows!?

I really don't want to get my hopes up as I see so many posts on here from lovely ladies who test early then their lines begin to fade and they have had chemical pregnancies 🙁

Morning all,

@amy929292 thats so exciting!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@pebbleinthesand its good that you have a busy couple of weeks ahead, I defo imagine that will help keep your mind of things!

@ams19 welcome to the gang!! Hope you get your first real AF soon so you can start trying :) I keep saying im going to cut down on the alcohol but I haven't really. I only drink a glass or two on the weekend, so figured that cant be that bad. The caffiene however, I have tried to cut out.

@ttcwc2 that sounds interesting, i might have to give it a listen while I work away! Thank you for the tips

@sunflowersaremyfav93 hope you are feeling a bit better today! I do think we are going through a second wave right now, but I don't think the government will lock down as I dont think the economy would be able to handle it, especially with Halloween and Christmas on its way. I think they are probably more looking down the lines of curfews and banning gatherings. Defo not letting it stop me TTC.

@gems05 good luck hun!!

@sparkleprincess fingers crossed for you hun! it is possible, my sister DTD once and got pregnant straight away. I am hoping by some miracle it happens with me too lol

So my sister has now cancelled the wedding in Feb and is doing a civil ceremony this November!! Glad we decided not to wait until Nov now. You girls were right!! Defo need to eat healthy now because none of my nice dresses fit me!! My other sister is also bringing forward her TTC journey (same month as me) which will be exciting!