Pregnancy after MMC

[Bells993]

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

@MrsTtobe so glad you're feeling a bit better bar the nausea! 2 more weeks of putting your feet up and you'll be reassured and you can relax more! Got everything crossed for you and sending positive vibes. Xxx

I've had a weird stomach 'ache' for a couple of days, it's not really an ache or a cramp, just a bit of a weird feeling you get before AF cramps. Not sure whether I'm symptom spotting or whether it's the curry I had on Saturday 😂 either way trying to ignore everything until Sunday! Xxx

@MrsTtobe I am so glad to hear they reassured you! And like you said all other symptoms are still present so try to relax a little if you can. A busy week will distract you i am sure! You are 100% right its so lovely having you all here as we all understand each others worries.

@msanne I am ok been busy all weekend, according to my App I ovulate today. I havent bothered with anything else juat been DTD since Wednesday and will carry on this week... 🤞 if no luck this month I think i will test next month so I have a better idea!

@msanne @Frankincense88 @Bells993
How are you all feeling thks very wet Monday!!
❤

Great news @MrsTtobe
@Leaf87 @Frankincense88 so what dates are you girls testing?

@msanne I’m good thank you! All my symptoms have dropped off the past day or so! Trying not too look into it too much and just think maybe this one is a girl and my others were boys 🤞 another scan Monday afternoon so counting down the days till that xxxx

How is everyone else doing? Xxx

@Bells993 I'm due on Sunday so will try and wait until then, I think I'm only about 8 DPO today but I did do a test yesterday after having a 3 day stomach ache just on the off chance I'd got my dates wrong but obviously it was negative! I'm now going to wait until Sunday and resist the urge. xxx

@Bells993 @Frankincense88 I am not due Af until 11th August so not testing for another week or so! I go on holiday the 7th so may test before I go.... haven't decided yet 😬
Not sure when I ovulated according to my app ut was Monday so who knows 🤷‍♀️

I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you @Frankincense88!!!

@Bells993 try not to think to much about it and let us know how your scan goes!

@MrsTtobe how are you doing this week?
@msanne any updates?

@Leaf87 ekkk how lovely you are going away! Maybe test the day before you go then you know if you can drink or not... if it’s negative atleast you can’t have a few guilt free glasses till you come on! That’s what I think anyway, they say you don’t feed the baby till 9 weeks or so till the placenta takes place so a few glasses here and there won’t hurt! But everyone thinks differently 🙈🙊

@Frankincense88 exciting your testing soon, did you do one today? Xxx

@Bells993 no sign of AF here (due today though) so been brave and ordered some FRERs. Hopefully I haven't jinxed it! They should arrive tonight and will do one tomorrow! Have had a really bad headache on and off for 3 days and cannot sleep for the life of me (I was unloading the dishwasher at half 5 this morning)! But it's a full moon tomorrow so who knows if that's what it is 😂😂 how's everything your end? Xxx

@Bells993 @Leaf87 @msanne @MrsTtobe Morning ladies! Very nervous and in complete denial but...

@Frankincense88 that is amazing!!!!!!! So so happy for you!!! 🥳🥳🥳 Good strong lines as well.

I am due Af a week Wednesday! Not testing untill Friday! X

@Frankincense88 omg im so so so happy for you! This is amazing to wake up to.
Have you told OH yet? ❤xxx

@MrsTtobe yes I woke him up at 6 o'clock and told him there was a present for him in the bathroom 😂 he wasn't very impressed but then realised what it was.

I'm only one day late today so keep saying to myself not to get my hopes up too much - I'm already full of anxiety but just trying to think what will be, will be and just to enjoy each day. Feel very different to last time, no symptoms whatsoever apart from a 3 day headache. Was anticipating some cramps or stretching but nothing 😩

@Leaf87 you're going to have to update us Friday before you go away! Xxx

@Frankincense88 OMG!!! What a dye stealer! Best news ever! Congratulations!!!! Twins? 🤪🤪🤣 you must feel on top of the world! I’ve had hardly any symptoms either! Every pregnancy is different remember and I guess our bodies are all use to the hormones as we’ve all been pregnant nearly all year 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣 that’s what I’ve been telling myself anyway! Xxx

Nearly a full house girls! Routing for you @Leaf87 what day do you go away?

Scan at 2.30 again today on my own 🥴 I was shaking last time. Dreading it but hopefully if it’s good news it will give me piece of mind for another week xx

@Frankincense88 - AMAZING news! Congratulations! Such strong lines - which is great!!! So happy for you.

One more @Leaf87 - then we will have a full house!! Everything crossed for you!

@Bells993 - good luck for your scan today - let us know how it goes xx everything will be fine.

@MrsTtobe - how are you doing? Hope you're feeling better too xx

I've got my scan on Friday at 9am. Been feeling god awful all week and nauseous all day long - hoping this phase passes asap as not dealing too well with it.

Exciting times ladies -

@Bells993 @msanne good luck with your scans ladies. Let us know how you get on - got everything crossed that it'll be a stress free experience! 💕

This has to be the luckiest thread on MN! @Leaf87 I truly believe you wont be far behind lovely. Got absolutely everything crossed for you. 🙏

@Frankincense88 I'm not going to lie, the anxiety of pregnancy after loss is god awful but just take each day as it comes and it will go much quicker than you think. Im 12 week's on Friday!! Its mad how fast it's gone!

@msanne yes our scan on Friday! Mine is the c afternoon, 2pm! Im petrified!! Ive not lost any more brown etc and still feeling soooooo sick 🤢 also I swear my belly is growing by the day! 😳 I definitely won't be able to hide it for much longer.

@Bells993 how has your scan gone lovely? How many weeks are you now, is it coming up to 8?
Like you say we have spent most of the year pregnant. No wonder we're exhausted. Our poor bodies have been through so much. Ive had hardly any stretching or round ligament pain this time but strangely had lots with my mc. But feel more sick this time than last time!

Xxx

@MrsTtobe - the nausea is a good sign. I only had nausea (although not this bad) with my son. My daughter was just headaches (literally) :P I am inclined to think that this one is a boy too.

In regards to stretching - I have had some of this already - around my belly button, it burns....so I am applying lots of bio oil. Hopefully it will reduce any more appearing. I definitely look pregnant now though - i'm in my maternity yoga pants - they are SOOOOO comfortable. They are positively the only good thing about feeling so crap right now!

Can't wait to hear all of your updates!

xoxo

Hey girls! All went well thank you!
8 weeks 2 days! I was waiting for the scan pictures to be emailed to me so I could show you all! Baby has a spine, brain, 4 buds for its arms, legs and a strong heartbeat so far! Can’t believe the jump in size & I couldn’t get over how clear the internal scan was!
So relieved! Hopefully the next four weeks goes just as well 🤞

@MrsTtobe no way are you nearly 12 weeks! Wow that’s flown!

Can’t wait for your twos scan Friday 🥰

@Bells993 ahhh that's so exciting! Bet you feel so relieved.

I'm in two minds whether to book an early scan or just wait it out. I'm so terrified of a repeat scenario, a part of me doesn't want the stress of going early and no heartbeat detected again then the worry and pain of waiting 2 weeks for further bad news. I'm going to give it a few more weeks before I even arrange a booking appt because I'm so bloody scared 😩 on the plus side I've still got 4 weeks off work to relax and just take each day as it comes! Xxxx

@Frankincense88 up to you isn’t it hun! Personally I’ve found it easier having one every two weeks to have a smaller count down and goal if you like! It’s cost me but especially having no symptoms its given me peace of mind! Also I don’t like the idea of carrying on for weeks before finding out something’s wrong!

Other hand you might want to do it like @MrsTtobe and ride it out till the end! I really don’t know how she’s done it 🙌🤣 amazing really!

My gyno told me off for worrying today. He said the one of MC is SO common I’ve just got to forget and get on with it and enjoy my pregnancy! He’s so right! Don’t let it taint your experience 🥰🥰

@Bells993 very true! I'm such a worrier naturally I find it really hard to switch my brain off. Tempted to start some meditation over the holidays to take my mind off it!

Are they allowing partners to private scans yet? I think I'd manage the experience better if I could bring my husband. Don't think I could face it alone! Xxx

I can't believe how positive this monday has been great news all round!!! @Bells993 @MrsTtobe @Frankincense88ike you say there is no right way. You need to make sure you do what feels right!!

Feeling the pressure for a full house now!!! 😬😬

@Leaf87 you will get there! We will all be thinking about you and sending out positive thoughts and prayers 🙏🏼

Got the pictures! 🥰🥰

@Bells993 wow!! The difference between your two pics is crazy!! How exciting!

I'm going to do my other frer tomorrow then I'm going to stop testing. I became obsessed with it last time and it did me no good! Xxx