TMI- possible two fathers

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Hi all, I have name changed for this as I really need some help.

I am late on my period today by 2 days.

Conceived date was 13th Feb. I have a 28 day usual cycle, no problem. I am not on any contraception at the moment...

I had sex with this man I am seeing at the moment (man 1) he finished in me 3 times over the course of 1 day/ evening. I had been staying at his for a few days. 13th was the only day we had sex (3 times).

Man 2 (my ex) I stupidly slept with the next day but we used protection. I was stupidly quite drunk, but the next day he told me he had w**ked himself off, and then put his 'covered' fingers inside me... I will not tell you what my reaction was to that

This was when he was doing something to me....

I know this sounds really, really bad but please don't judge me. I feel silly for even asking this but I need some advice. If I do not come on over the next few days I will of course take a test.

Obviously man 1 has the most chance... but he is a heavy smoker of 15 years, I hear that can reduce the sperm quality? Man 2 is a lot more healthier

Thank you to anyone who has read this x

Congratulations. It's still your lovely baby regardless if who the father is. I'd be very surprised if it was man 2 though.

Thanks everyone. I am panicking right now.

My situation is- I had sex with man 1 multiple times in 1 day.

Man 2 we didn't have sex... he finished and then put his fingers inside me without me knowing....

So sorry for TMI. Don't have anyone I can tell at the moment.

It's likely to be man 1. Who do you want it to be?

Do you want to continue with the pregnancy? This is the first question before you move onto who the father is.

Both men sound awful, are you prepared to do this alone if needed? Or co-parent with whichever man it turns out to be?

I would assume it was man 1's. Were you trying for a baby with him?

Man 1 I would like it to be. I just never thought it was possible to actually get pregnant with sperm on fingers. Sorry TMI.

Wow what a predicament and what a wanker for doing that to you, surely that is sexual assault and a serious breach of trust given you started with protection and then he chose to try and inseminate you!

I would think it’s partner 1, but as they were so close together it’s impossible to say.

I would be upfront with both of them, but you don’t have to do that yet. Sounds like you need to take a few days and stay away from the both of them until you have it sorted in your mind of what you want to do.

Good luck x

I know it's a ridiculous situation. Thank you for all your comments.

Thank you @LosingtheTTCplot that's very good advice x

Just done a first response, so this is the second test showing positive x

Congrats ! (If it’s what you want ?!) xx

@itsemily it's what I want ! I am just kicking myself as I have been so careless

Man 1 would be very happy. X

@itsemily the fact I'm even having to say man 1 and man 2

You say you’re not using protection as you have Dec when you’re not ovulating? But then chose to have sex on day 13? Of a usual 28 day cycle? 3 times in that window was always going to be very likely to make you pregnant even if man 2 hadn’t done what he did.

I think you need to be honest with both men but have no clue how you do that!

Dec = sex

If you want to go down the paternity test route you have to wait until around 7 weeks, but even the you'd have to tell one of them!

I genuinely think it would be man 1.

And as gross as it is, do you know if he fingers were covered? I know it only takes 1 swimmer but once sperm dries up its dead so if it was only a thin amount (think sticky/clear, sorry) then the amount of alive swimmers would be less. Obviously if it's literally like he caught most of it with his fingers and not back of his hand or whatever then your chances will of increased.

@Babyshine2020 he is now changing his story to say he thinks it could of been my wetness! (Sorry)

I think there is a bit of mind playing games.

Man 2 may be physically healthier, but mentally and morlaly he is a runt.

As has been said - what do YOU want to do?

Is man 1 someone you can envisage being with for the rest of your life and being a competent father?
The smoking can be stopped and harm repaired...

@Frothybothie yes to everything for man 1.

I am worried man 2 as he is the most healthiest

I agree than man 1 is the most likely.

I’d be calling the Police about man 2.

@LouLouLoo thank you x

So man 2 put his fingers inside you without your consent /knowledge! That's sexual assult and I'm with a previous poster who said to report him!ok as for the pregnancy congrats by the way. It's much much more likely to be man 1 altho obvs only way to tell would be to have a dna test. Best of luck with everything xx

Thank you @Lillipop87 x

I am very tempted to purchase a 'sperm count' test you can buy on Amazon for £40. Apparently very accurate.

I am closer with man 1 than I am man 2 .... I know he wouldn't mind doing this for me if I asked. If his count comes back normal, I would think it's definitely him x