TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

I basically thought they would only be unreliable if you were still getting positive HPTs but turns out they can still be affected x

@Michette @StephyRose thanks for your advice. I had a negative pregnancy test not long after surgery. Which was 6 weeks after finding out no heart beat. AF came 5.5 weeks after surgery. I decided to start tracking today. I bought a pack with 50 opk and 20 pregnancy tests from amazon, which you can take photos with the Femometer app and it tells you what it thinks your levels are. Just have to keep checking I guess and DTD. OH just said his Mum has asked if there’s any baby news yet. Feels like the pressure is on a bit more now, and not just from myself

@Mammacooks ye I read that online alright, that the OPKs can give false positives after miscarriage so that’s why I decided to just DTD anyway.
I was hoping I’d get a negative and then a new positive but that hadn’t happened yet 😏
Iv a lot of bloating and some cramping at the moment and I think I remember the same thing happening after my first miscarriage too.
It’s strange coz I wouldn’t normally get mid cycle bloating or cramping - anyone have any idea what’s causing it?

Ye so I’m hoping to get some info from the blood tests I had done on Friday. Hopefully something easily fixed.

Meanwhile il be back to my usual symptom spotting that turns me into a crazy person every time 😥 I can’t stop myself though 😰
Any other symptom spotters?

@GemLou88 I feel for ya, the pressure is self inflicted for me but I sympathise 😥
My 2 best friends are pregnant and I really wanted to do it with them - it hurts a bit 😥
We will get there 👍🏼

@cruiser1 @Mammacooks you mean you get negative then positive at random time but no ovulation??

Mine are pretty accurate the surge came before the bad pains. My right ovary is killing me :(

@Michette
Pain right now??
Omg
Go for it..... wake husband nowwww!!! 😂😂

@Michette sorry I saw your post from earlier.... yes that’s a definitely positive line on your OPK..... I’m delighted for you!

❤️

@MilsCookie That’s so interesting the weird taste went away and then came back... it makes sense though, cos it would be grim to have that for a whole pregnancy 🤢 (sorry this reply is super slow! I’ve spent the entire weekend putting new flooring down in my house! 🙈)

@Michette Yep I’ve used Pre-seed before! I don’t know if this is at all related or not, but I didn’t use it the first month we started trying, but I did the second month and that’s when we got pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️ could be a fluke, but I’ve been using in post-miscarriage as well. Trying to replicate exactly what we did that month basically.

Hey ladies :D going to try and be more active on here but it's so hard as thread moves quickly haha!

I am cycle day 11 today and I usually ovulate between 13-15 so hopefully in a few days! I am jealous of all the ladies already in the tww haha! Cant wait for the january bfps to start :D and please please symptom spot so we can get excited along with you 🤭

@MilsCookie cycle buddies - day 11 for me and I spotted my first EWCM today 🙌 dtd today but not got a positive opk so imagine it will be in the next few days 🤞

@StephyRose ahh that's so good that your cycles are more regular! I have heard a lot of other ladies say that seven seas worked the same way to do that :D

@terribleimagination I am also trying to replicate what we did when we conceived! We used a tiny bit of pressed and after DTD I elevated my hips for 10 mins and then laid on my front for 10 mins....dont know if it worked but it's what I did when we conceived so will do the same again ahha!

@GoldenBauble ahh really chuffed that your AF came back! It's a relief feeling isnt it!

@Michette ahh wow that's crazy line progression! Nearly tww time for you:D

Hi @Anny27 👋🏼

Anyone doing BBT? I’m new to it..... I had a high temp this morning 37.3 .... I’m thinking I possibly ovulated? Temp was 36.4 yesterday

OPK Negative yesterday and light positive the day before

Oh the confusion 😫 I wish I had a little camera in there which sent me updates on what my ovaries are doing 😂 I mean it’s 2020 we should have the technology 😂😂

@Cruiser1 my ovulation is the same! It's very strange I think I need to use the sticks every day as I'm always so unsure! I can get a negative but clear lines then nothing.. nothing to tell me I'm leading up to my peak day!

I need to be more involved in this thread! I read someone else's comment about this too x

@Cruiser1 I temp :) it's all about the rise in temp versus the actual temp e.g. my pre ovulation temp is 36.0-36.2 and then my post ovulation temp is 36.5-36.7 so a rise of about 0.4-6 degrees. So I think you need to see a few days of substantial rise before OV Is confirmed:)

Ladies TMI question but does anyone else find it hard to distinguish between EWCM and leftover sperm 😬😬😂😂

@Anny27 hey cycle buddy!! 👋 eeeek so exciting you’re in the lead up to ovulation! CD12 today but I don’t usually ovulate till around CD18/19. The month I accidentally got pregnant we dtd on CD21 (me thinking I wouldn’t get pregnant as I thought I’d ovulated!) - so actually maybe I ovulate later! 🤷🏼‍♀️ 🤔 LOL - I know what you mean. Sometimes the left over sperm is there in my knickers (soz that’s so gross!) and I’m like ‘ooo is it EWCM’?! 😂 glad I’m not the only one!

Random question ladies but I have my smear test tomorrow (CD13) you don’t think this will interfere with conception do you?!

@Anny27 Yeah replicating seems the best thing to do! If it worked once eh? 🤷🏻‍♀️ The only other difference between those two months for me was that after DTD I didn’t go to the loo afterwards, just hips up for a bit and then to sleep. Super grim I know, but I just immediately put knickers on to keep it all in as much as possible! I didn’t do this the first month, and my friend who gets pregnant first time each time (but has also gone through a loss and is now 39 weeks!) said she just rolls over and goes to sleep so to try that! It feels pretty grim, but hey, it worked for me that 2nd month 🤷🏻‍♀️

And yep I also get confused with EWCM and left overs from DTD 🤢🤣 I generally go by if I’m getting it on wiping towards the end of the day then it’s EWCM 👍🏻

Hello,

Hope it's okay for me to join, I had a miscarriage at the end of October, medical management and then surgical management. It was my first month TTC #1.

In December I suddenly really wanted to start TTC again, I had a CP last week but I'm stocked up on folic acid and ovulation tests ready to try again.

Fertile window starts tomorrow!

Thank you @Anny27 it’s quite hard to get the hang of isn’t it.
Maybe my temp spike was something unrelated because 37.3 is quite high it’s not just a small jump. Il see what tomorrow’s temp is..... if it is ovulation then it should be another similar high temp in the region of 37.3? Right?

Also, does the temp spike indicate ovulation has already happened? As opposed to the LH spike indicating ovulation is imminent?

Thanks and sorry for the questions 😂

Also @Anny27 yes I do find it hard to distinguish EWCM from sperm especially when DTD so often in the fertile window

It’s like being on the waltzers and trying to read a novel 😰😂😂 it’s all moving so fast lol 😂

@cruiser we did it!

@TerribleImagination we used it yesterday and this morning but i didn’t put much... we ll see

@Anny27 this morning line was a little lighter so the surge is over and i probably ovulated in the night. Also in tiny bit of preseed strategy this time :)
I find sperm more liquid than ewcm... more watery but it’s very close to the precum for some reason so yeah hard to make the difference !

@MilsCookie
i had my smear test at cd13 when i got pregnant in November and it didnt interfere at all.
But my results were not good and it gave me anxiety ... so it’s up to you. I am waiting for colposcopy but they won’t do any treatment if pregnant and if it’s needed..

How does everyone cope with working with pregnant women? I manage a nursery and have 2 staff who are pregnant, just had to update their risk assessments and their due dates are a couple of weeks after what mine would have been. One was talking about finding out the sex next week. So far I’ve been ok around them and been able to talk about how they are getting on. But today has just hit me like a ton of bricks

Hi all,
Hoping to join you in this thread for some positivity and baby dust!
Had an early MC in October, luckily cycles came back quickly enough. Let one cycle pass to heal and have tried SMEP for the last two cycles without success. AF arrived again today and it honestly seems harder each time.
Has anyone else had different cycles after MC? I think I’m ovulating later than before. Might try the cod liver oil suggestion but any other ideas for OV earlier would be great, need ideas to try so that I feel like I’m doing something and feel less anxious.

@GemLou88 ye it’s hard.... I’m not working with anyone who is pregnant, but two of my friends are pregnant and it feels like a bullet to talk about their pregnancy’s but I am very happy for them so I just pretend all is ok 👍🏼

@GemLou88 I think it’s like most things in this crappy situation we have good days and bad. I found out just before Christmas someone I work with was pregnant with a very similar due date as I should have and it didn’t effect me. Found out last week someone else I work with is due a month after I should be and I cried at my desk all afternoon as all I could think about was watching their bump grow and me not having that.

Think all I can say is that after the bad days there will be good ones.

Hi @Sparkl - welcome to the thread and so sorry for your loss! It's reassuring that your cycles came back quickly so body is ready again. I had a similar experience - early mc in Sept, we started trying again after that but my next two cycles were much longer than before at 32 days (from 28/29 before), which was so cruel as you start to feel so positive again getting hopes up when 2-3 days late, confused with negative tests then then AF turns up saying "fooled ya" ffs. Last month was a shorter 27 day cycle after starting to take proceive, so hoping they are regulating back to normal/previous - I have no idea if it was the vitamins or that it just takes time to get back to normal. I've found getting AF has been getting harder each time too, but feeling less stressed about it this cycle so hopefully I won't hate her so much again! We used SMEP the month I got pregnant which was the first time we tried it after ttc for 6 months - so I was thrilled with it, but it's not worked for us again yet. Where are you in your cycle? I'm currently CD 28/12dpo but starting to feel like AF is on her way again.

I hope everyone is doing ok and those also in their 2ww are managing to distract themselves from frantically googling every possible symptom they think they might have had, unlike me! Distraction tips welcome :)xx

Hi all,

I’m new to mumsnet, I had to join after seeing this thread as it’s exactly what I’m going through Atm.

I miscarried in September and had medical management. It took 5 weeks to stop bleeding. I got my first proper period in Nov and have been using Ovulation sticks, but I’m still not pregnant and came on my period early this month (usually 33day cycle)

I’m thinking of trying acupuncture potentially to help with the blood flow and also to maybe relax me as I am a bit intense with tracking etc

Anyone tried it before?

(Sorry i don’t know all the abbreviations yet)

Thanks!

Hi ladies

I went to the gp this morning 8 days after miscarriage started. She reckons that I have completed the miscarriage naturally but I am going for a final scan on Thursday to be sure.

It’s my first pregnancy and I am heartbroken but she said that as soon as I stop bleeding (which I think (hope) is today tomorrow - It’s defo easing off and changing colour ( tmi ) but who knows I’ve never done this before so could start again with a vengeance but cramps are def easing ).

So basically, and maybe it’s on the basis that I have had a natural miscarriage she said get back to dtd ASAP as the Uterus has it’s best blood supply atm for accepting another pregnancy. Now this is just her advice and may not apply to everyone but said I would let you know. She said dating pregnancy is the only reason to wait for The first AF and that the scans are well able in this day and age to do the dating for us. So her modern view is get back at it as soon as emotionally ready which is not for everyone obviously. FYI she has 3 children and has had 3 miscarriages.

On the OPK - I have a clear blues in my bathroom so out of curiosity I did one today and it’s saying I am at peak fertility. I haven’t taken a hpt since miscarriage started to check that it is neg but will do tomorrow but would say the OPK is acting bonkers and giving a false ovulation reading. I’m so impatient though. I would actually go for it but 8 days for me is just too soon. Hope everyone is feeling ok today.

@Pancakes26 sorry you’re here but it’s a good place to be with these ladies and their advice all the same xx