TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

@Anny27 not boring at all, I need to get into something else.

Thank you ladies for being so positive and upbeat and I really hope yours is a positive @mlax. Well after staring at mine for a good hour or so this morning 🤣I'm convinced its negative. If I hold it in bright light I can definitely see something but I'm just not convinced.

It's probably just self preservation more than anything.

Hope you all have a fabulous day 💗🌈

3dpo and 0 symptoms for me, not even got sore boobs which usually happens after ovulation! Guess I'll just see how things go. On the cycle I was pregnant my first symptoms were cramps at 5dpoish

P.s did you test with your DH or test by yourself and then tell him?

I used to just test whenever and then when I was pregnant I told him and he was surprised but this time he said he wants to find out together! Which is cool to get to different experiences I guess but not sure he will be on board with how early I wanna test 😅😅😅

@StephyRose same to be honest. I was holding mine in the light and moving it around to try and see a line which I did but it was only v v v faint 😩 my backache has now gone this morning so I guess it's just a waiting game for my AF to come today or tomorrow as it's been 28 days today since my last one.

@Anny27 I think if my partner knew how many times this month I've tested he'd have a fit!!! It's ridiculous how our minds go into overdrive when we want something so badly!!!

@mlax This is me! I’ve just been holding under my torch and the line I thought I saw I’m not sure I can now. Maybe I imagined it. When are you going to test again?

@Anny27 I tend to do it by myself as I do it in the morning and he leaves for work at 6:30 zzz

@becsterG ahh yes the old torch trick. Definitley done that in the past!

@mlax yep I think if my husband knew he would be shocked 🙈🙈😇😇😇

Oh my gosh, so many hopeful bfp's!!! I have everything crossed for you all! I'm 7dpo so still holding out a bit.. feel like I'm going to be tempted to test tomorrow 🙈😂

Another one who might be outing themselves here, but I work in CAMHS (child and adolescent mental health services)

Xx

non of us needs to see a negative pregnancy test after our miscarriages unless we have to
100% this. To see a negative again would be hard.

I want to be convinced and will test then. MC only finished 10th and we started straight away 11th, so I'm completely guessing everything but will need at least another week.
Of course saying all this, I bought 20 ICs last night 😆

@BecsterG well I'm due AF today/tomorrow. So far no signs of it coming but this is my 2nd after my MC in November. So not sure how accurate it'll be in terms of my cycles being back to 28 days. I'm on CD28 today. If it's not come by say Saturday/Sunday I'll test again.

I've made sure there's no more tests in the house to stop me from going crazy!!

@StephyRose that’s soooo exciting! Keep us updated!

I’m a nurse, it’s high pressure and stressful so not good for TTC 😩

Symptom spotting - I have headaches and bad sleep/dreams. I’m constipated and boobs are still sore

Not feeling too confident though 😏

@mlax if you are due tomorrow then I agree just wait. All this waiting is annoying. I miscarried at the very start of Nov too and I've had 1 full cycle and two periods. FIngers crossed.

I took two tests this morning a FRER and a cheap one from amazon. The FRER is negative I think but the other one I still see a faint line there. Ekk will have to wait until tomorrow I guess or Friday.

Unless it's a evap line of course!

The testing craze has started

I don’t feel as pregnant today :/
Got too excited yesterday...

It’s hard part of me wants to test but part of me want to wait because i am worried it won’t work out and if i just find out at 5 or 6 weeks then i won’t be as disappointed ...

I said i wanted to test tomorrow morning but to have better chance at accurate test should probably wait for 11dpo

Look at the chart i found.
Basically having a positive at 09dpo is very very lucky

But

@StephyRose a faint is goooooooood
Honestly that’s great but try to test tomorrow too :)))

@BS9790 I think you ovulate anywhere from 12-48 hours after the peak opk. The cycle I conceived I had peak opk at 2pm 15dpo, line was light again by 8pm and gone the next morning, has what I think we’re ovulation pains at about 10am 16dpo (after had no line on opk) and bbt confirmed I’d ovulated 16dpo so for me I’m guessing it was just under the 24 hours.
Hopefully it’s ovulation pains ur experiencing! Fingers crossed for ur ur TWW!

Looking forward to seeing all the pee-sticks in the coming days.

I realised that I accidentally bought OPKs instead of hpts last time, so I poas last night and this morning. I've not used them before, but read enough on these threads to have a fair idea how they work.

My app says ov is due Friday, but this morning's was lighter than last night's, so I'm assuming my surge was yesterday/overnight. Wish me luck!

I have a lot planned for the next couple of weeks, so hopefully the TWW won't be too bad. I had quite obvious symptoms well before AF in the last two (unsuccessful) pregnancies, so I may know even before then...

DH knows that I test, because I tell him, but he doesn't want to be in there with me.

Here’s another delightful progesterone/pregnancy symptom ladies...... wind!! 💨😰😂

@cruiser1 hahahahahha

@Cruiser1 yup

@Cruiser1 Haha yep! That made me laugh 🤣

I currently feel like someone has pumped my entire body full of air! Gotta love that water retention too, again progesterone AND pregnancy symptom 🙈 Also my boobs are getting out of control big and no sign of AF yet 👀🤞🏻

@terribleimagination that sounds promissing!!!!

I just read one of the threads back from when I was pregnant and I was saying "I have no symptoms guys" so atleast if I have no symptoms again it doesnt mean and news!

Realise the message above makes no sense.....

I meant I was reading a thread from when I was in my tww of my pregnant cycle and before I tested I had no symptoms**

Hi lovely people,

Thank you so much for your positivity earlier. Been in a foul mood all day because I felt really negative about TTC, felt sorry for the kids as a result of my short temper 🤣, came home to reassess the test, felt crap again.

Took another one because I'm a glutton for punishment and feel that this is stronger.
What do you guys think? Feel worried its negative as maybe it's just an evap/indent line and AF is due Saturday so surely it would be darker 🤷🏼‍♀️ but i feel that there is something there.

@stephyrose I can see it!!!🥳🥳🥳

Still early obviously but retest in morning!

@StephyRose I can see it too!!

I’d test again tomorrow (even though I know they say to test again in 48 hours as takes that long for HCG to double but I don’t think I could wait that long!! )🤞