TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

@MrsB16 that is amazing! I know it can sound quite flippant sometimes in these awful situations we find ourselves in but I honestly think that sometimes things happen for a reason (as shitty as it is when we are in them!). It sounds like everything is starting to fall into place for you! Fingers, toes, everything crossed you can remain in this lovely bubble. Hopefully your good luck continues to spread across this thread now 🌈

@MrsB16 congratulations! This is the year of the rainbow for you! Absolutely brilliant ✨♥️👣🌈

@MilsCookie is this our threads first BFP?! This is a good way to start the next week ladies ✨👣

@MrsB16 keep us updated and also show us the test 🙏

Congratulations @MrsB16 what a great start to the year!

@toomanyleggings I hear you, definitely going to be anxious, although that sounds like a lot of extra pressure.

Was wondering if any of you know anything about spotting before AF? I’ve had a very tiny amount before last two AFs, only on toilet paper iykwim. (AF was 5 days each time after that). Then this last cycle I had 5 days of spotting followed by only 3 days proper flow. Didn’t even need a liner for the 5 days. I read somewhere you should count bleeding before or after as part of AF. So is my CD1 the first day of spotting? I had always counted from first day full flow.
Also any ideas what it means? Been doing too much googling again and panicking a bit that cycle is not getting back to normal after MC.

Hi Ladies, I have missed loads here as haven’t been on the last 2 days.
I am on day 23 but it’s post miscarriage so Iv no idea where I am really. Iv had more positives than negatives on the OPKs so that’s not too reliable either.

Anyways..... symptom spotting;
My boobs partially the nips are sooooo sore the last 2 days. Slightly more tired I think. Some nausea but mild

Head is wrecked already and at least another week of this 😫

Oh my goodness @MrsB16 I’m thrilled for you 🥰🥰 how amazing

@didslysquiddlydoo yes 100% no one has asked me how I am coping except for one of my closest friends and my husband
In fairness I don’t like to be constantly asked so not sure if I’m happy about it or disappointed that no one cares! It was the same after my first MC I felt like everyone brushed it off - ah sure it was only 6 weeks and that kind of thing 😏

@MrsB16 congatu-blooming-ations! Let's hope this is the beginning of all of our luck changing.

@Cruiser1 TWW is killing me too. The dreams keep coming. Don't want to get my hopes up at all though. Hubby says I probably am pregnant, seeing as we've had sex 4 or 5 times recently whereas previous BFPs came after just 1 dtd. Just can't allow myself to get too excited.

@BS9790 i am feeling much better today!
I guess it’s the ups and downs :)
I gave DO a present this morning and he thought it was a “im pregnant” annoucement though
I wish, i wish...

Much more positive today to just go with the flow.
6dpo - 0 symptoms but probably normal :)

Such good news @MrsB16 ! Gives me hope and definitely share the excitement !

@toomanyleggings my DP also said if we lose this one too we take at least one cycle break to let it chill... so “no pressure”.

We have a sort of deadline for relocation projects and it’s my birthday (31) in May so really hope i am pregnant by then :)

Good luck to everyone else in the TWW for whom days feel like centuries

Out of curiosity since we have the first BFP,
How many ladies on this thread TTC post MC this month?????

@michette I am trying this month, waited one month after my MMC and surgery I'm November!

It took us 3 cycles last time so hopefully I am lucky enough for a first cycle bfp this time......🤞🤞🤞🤞

@Michette I gave it a good go this month, straight after the miscarriage! I didn’t use OPK’s, but going off EWCM I reckon I’m about 10 or 11DPO today. Boobs feel a bit like they did at this stage the month I conceived before, but trying not to read into it / get my hopes up! AF should be due mid next week I reckon, but I’m seeing if I can hold off testing until the end of the month if it doesn’t show 🤞🏻🙈

Oh. My. Goodness!!! @MrsB16 I totally wasn’t expecting any BFP news when I came on the thread! I am SO happy for you!!! Huge congratulations to you and your DP. And especially with your house news too it sounds like it’s all coming together!! Praying that you have a sticky bean and it all goes beautifully well for you this time around 💫🥰. It does give me so much hope to read your story and like others I’m hoping it brings good luck to us all! 🌈 what a brilliant start to 2020 for you!! Please keep us updated with how you’re getting on 🙏✨❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Welcome @didslysquiddlydoo hope you’re ok. Yep I know how you feel, hardly anyone I know has asked me how I am since it all happened! I think a lot of people can’t understand it unless they’ve been through it themselves unfortunately.

@DisneyMummySince2010 if you’re only on CD18 then it can’t be AF surely? Don’t rule yourself out just yet! I’m also on CD18 today and don’t even think I’ve ovulated yet 🙈 f*ck knows what’s going on with my body!!

@toomanyleggings that must be hard hearing your DP say that. Do you have any other children or would this be your first?

@Sparkl I never used to spot before AF but the first one I had post MC I spotted for a whole day before coming on properly. I have read that you should count any bleeding as CD1 so that’s what I did. How many periods have you had since MC? It might be worth going to the doctor to discuss it and get their thoughts? Hope you’re ok though, it must be a bit worrying if it’s not what you’re used to 😘

@Michette this is our first cycle actively trying since the MC! Also I’m 31 in June so I’m hoping to be pregnant by then too!! 😊

Good luck @TerribleImagination and @Cruiser1 !! Keep us updated ✨😘

Period in 9 days apparently.... usually get lower back pain and feel bloated a week before. Last two times I was pregnant I had no symptoms. So no symptoms for me is usually a positive. Hoping this is the month ... 9 day count down xxxx

Ladies, does that look like a positive ovulation test? I tested with a pregnancy test and only a ghost of a line but I'm not sure. Surely I can't be ovulating this early. I'm 10 days past erpc

To me that’s a positive pregnancy test if that’s what you’ve used!!

@toomanyleggings Hey lovely, I don’t use OPKs so I could be wrong, but as you used a pregnancy test it will only detect the HCG hormone, rather than the LH hormone which shows up before ovulation. This suggests to me that your HCG hormone levels are still high post mc. I still got a faint positive line on a pregnancy test two weeks after my ERPC. A week later I tested again and it was negative, so it takes a while for the hormone to completely go. That being said, it doesn’t mean you aren’t ovulating in that time, but I would maybe use an OPK to see if you are. Not sure if that’s correct so maybe see what the other ladies say 😊

@toomanyleggings if you are only 10 days past MC then it could be that the OPK is picking up hcg as well, or you could be ovulating soon after, its not unhesrd of. If that is an OPK then it's very nearly positive :)

@MilsCookie I ovulated today so tww starts tomorrow (need to confirm with temp rise in the morning though!) Hope you ovulate soon lovely xx

@Michette this is my first cycle ttc, after 16week mmc in September.

Sorry I wasn't clear. That's an opk today. I tested with a pregnancy test yesterday and that was only a ghost of a line

The bottom darker line is the test line. I don't feel much like I'm ovulating though

@toomanyleggings then I would say very nearly positive, either tonight or tomorrow I would say it will be peak :)

@Anny27 eeek so exciting! Have you been doing plenty of BDing?! What’s your cm been like, if you don’t mind me asking?! 🙊🤣 I still don’t seem to have much so don’t think I’m ovulating. Even though post mc I would usually ovulate around this day (CD18). I have had that weird twinge feeling again today in my left side so hoping that’s it, but really got no clue 😩

@MilsCookie we have DTD every day for the last 3 days, exhausted haha! I have had quite a lot of EWCM -much more than usual weirdly! I ovulated a few days later than i usually would so perhaps yours might be delayed slightly? Hopefully not!

@Anny27 😀 hopefully you have caught this month then! That’s interesting, I too had a lot more EWCM than usual last month, which was around 13 days after I had the surgery. I was SO tempted to dtd then but wanted to have one period before we tried again! Yeah maybe this month things have been pushed back a few days! Just wanna know what’s going on with my body so I’m very tempted to order OPKs for next month if it doesn’t work out this month! Which ones do you use?

@toomanyleggings it looks positive to me. And when my opk was dark the ovulation pain started shortly after so perhaps you will feel the same. Keep testing three times a day if you can to see the peak :) and obviously enjoy the BDing !!

I counted 8 so far actively trying so hope to see more BFP by the end of the month 🐣

@MilsCookie for opk i use Femometer of amazon it s cheap and lots of them for daily testing :)