TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

This was my ovulation test today, I am on cd13. I had a similar coloured line yesterday, and barely visible lines on the days previous.
Pre mc I would of expected to ovulate around cd18. I've never used these tests before. From darker lines starting to appear... When would ovulation usually then occur? Any advice appreciated x

@BS9790 mine looked like yours does there about 2 days before my peak reading so you could be close!

@michette I will be in my TWW tomorrow and already cba with the stress and symptom spotting haha! Hope it goes quick for you

@milscookie if i had ovulation pain I would class that as the actual day of ovulation- not entirely sure though as I dint get ovulation pain!

@Michette I can appreciate that, I'm currently on cd 16 and testing/AF is starting to feel a long way off. How are you feeling about this month?

@champoopapi have you ovulated yet? :D

@Michette meeee! Feeling your pain 😩😩

@BS9790 you are probably a day away from peak ! Keep testing at least twice a day tho!

@mlax @ChampooPapi @Anny27 sooooo annoyinnnnnnnng
I thought this time i will be relaxed but i am so not relaxed.
What can we do 😒

Mixed feelings for this one.
Part of me thinks ofc it will be positive because the only time i tried i got pregnant but then a part of me is terrified that it was just luck and now i am gonna join the rest and wait months to get a bfp

But i am 50/50 - what about you??

@Anny27 god knows! Not doing ovulation tests yet but the signs have been good the last few days cm wise. I am going to keep dtd all weekend, my partner goes away Monday until Thursday so makes sense.

@Michette it's so emotional being at your stage that's for sure. It's always going to be a lot of ups and downs from now until you test so just doing what makes you feel good about yourself is really important. It's a lot of hope tied up in the next week for you, I think just let yourself go! Totally allow yourself to obsess now, it's not that long and it it at least not the first week of trying again after af. Let yourself get excited 🌈👣✨

@Michette I think for me I don't think I will be but then all these symptoms I'm dreading that these would be my symptoms 2 weeks pre AF 😩 I'm feeling very anxious but want it soooo bad. Fingers crossed for us 🤞

@Anny27 I’m confused cos I haven’t had any much cm or EWCM so I don’t feel like I’m ovulating. But then have had these random left side twinges all day so who knows. I already feel like this month isn’t the month! I also don’t know if my cycles will go back to being 33/34 days post mc as I’ve only had one AF since! Trying to be relaxed about it all but it’s so hard!!

@ChampooPapi thanks :) yours words actually helped!!!

@mlax i think the symptoms are a good sign tbh. Very good sign

Will try to hold on testing until at least Friday with FMU - it will be 11dpo.

But tbh last time i had such bad cramps before bfp that i will recognise them !!

@MilsCookie i haven’t had really ewcm but my ovulation started with small twinges and then turned into proper side pain that even DTD was painful....

Hopefully this is also the start of something for you 🐣

I hope so @Michette I will definitely let everyone know anyway! Is it bad I'm wishing days away so I can actually test?? 🙄

@MilsCookie I'm thinking the same! My cycles were 28 says pre-MC so I'm hoping that they've gone back to normal but I don't know as I've only had 1 AF and this will be my 2nd! Xx

My fertile window is apparently due to start tomorrow. DH is due home shortly, so I shall break the news to him!

Woohoo! Enjoy @FireflyGirl 😉

@mlax it’s hard to know what’s going on isn’t it! I think if it doesn’t happen this month I will buy some OPKs to see when I’m ovulating as I’m just trying to figure it out by the signs I usually get from my body! But because of the mc everything could all be out of sync so I have no idea really. All I know is that we are dtd A LOT at the moment 🙈😂

Thank you @Michette I really hope so too!

@MilsCookie i usually ovulate around cycle day 14 but this month it's been cycle day 17 so shifted by a few days, perhaps post mc. My thought is that because of the operation my lining of womb was thinned so perhaps it needed an extra few days to be thick enough before my body released an egg.....I don't know I am just guessing haha

@ChampooPapi good idea! Hope you manage to catch ovulation this weekend xx

Hi all,

Hope it's ok to join!

Quick bit of info-
35 years old.

No Children.
Had MMC in September (ERPC), followed by CP in November and another CP in December.

Currently 3dpo 🙈

So sorry to read about everyone else's losses - so many sad stories but I'm blown away by the strength of people in this thread!!

Everything crossed for lots of BFPs for those in this thread 🤞🏼🤞🏼

As an aside - anyone else feeling a bit let down by the lack of support from people close to them? Nobody has asked me how I'm doing since the immediate aftermath of my miscarriage and I'm feeling a little disappointed 😞

Thank you @Anny27.
And @Michette, hope your feeling a bit happier today and that time starts to pass quickly for you over your TWW

Xx

Little update- think I’m out this month 😢 had a little spotting yesterday afternoon and again this morning. A bit of pink/brown cm when I wipe (sorry tmi)! My last three periods since ectopic have started this way. It’s only cd18 for me, so early still but I’m devastated, I really thought it might be my month.

Hi everyone,
I’m having a very exciting but weird few days. By way of background, I live in a flat in London that has been on the market for 2 years. We put it up for sale in preparation for our plans to start a family but with the housing market bottoming out in our part of London we have never been able to sell it. It’s been a source of much anxiety and stress to me for the past few years!

Also, on Thursday someone I work with announced that she was pregnant and would have been due a few weeks after me.

After a series of failed viewings since Christmas and the news of my co-workers pregnancy, on Thursday lunchtime I was sat outside my office sobbing on the phone to my mum and husband saying that “nothing is going right for us, why can’t we just catch a break?”

Now this is where it gets spooky....

2 hours later I got a phone call from my estate agent saying they had conducted a viewing at my flat that morning. I knew nothing about the viewing which meant my flat wasn’t tidy and I even had my (clean) pants out on a clothes airer in the living room! To say I was mortified is an understatement. Anyway, the couple that viewed the flat like it so much they made an offer at the asking price their and then!! After 2 years of stress, the flat had provisionally sold! The buyers want us out in 8 weeks so we have agreed to go into rented accommodation until we can find our dream house.

Wait there’s more....

I had a miscarriage in November and am currently on cycle day 72 since the miscarriage. I haven’t had a period since and I’ve been feeling really stressed about it. Anyway, in the past few days I’ve been feeling a bit off and then suddenly remembered it was how I felt when I was pregnant last time. Yes you’ve guess it, I’ve had a BPF on a clearblue test yesterday morning! I know it’s a new pregnancy as I’ve had weeks of negative tests since the mc.

In the space of 2 days everything that has caused me so much heartache and stress has been completely flipped upside down. I was in a very dark place at Christmas and New Year with everything that had happened but vowed on NYE to try and start 2020 more positively. It then looks like we then conceived on or just before NYD! I didn’t even know I was ovulating as I had none of the tell tale signs.

I’m being cautiously optimistic about everything as I know that the flat sale could fall through and I could go onto lose this baby as well. But right now my husband and I feel like we are in this beautiful bubble where all our hopes and dreams are finally coming true 🥰🥰

Thank you to everyone who makes the thread a place of support and hope and I hope we can all continue to be on the journey towards becoming parents together x

Congratulations @MrsB16 :D what an amazing start to 2020!!!! Thanks for giving us all hope :)

@disneymummysince2010 as it's so early, might it be implantation bleeding??

Welcome @didslysquiddlydoo hope the tww isnt too long for you!!

@MrsB16 how lovely! Lots of wishes for a sticky baby

@MrsB16 what an amazing little run of events! So happy for you and fingers crossed for a straightforward house sale and pregnancy!! Xxx

@anny27 I don’t want to get my hopes up. I never used to spot before my period until the ectopic and every time since I convince myself it could be implantation and it never is. I think I might take a break from TTC it’s such emotional turmoil all the time

Well dh has agreed to try again which is a relief to me but he says if I lose another one then we don't try anymore. Hands up who's going to be stressed as hell if they get a bfp!