Trying to conceive at 39!

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Hi, i have just got married and we are ttc our first! We started about 2 years ago but then my husband had an accident and we stopped then we were planning a wedding so we only just started again 3 months ago. I am 39 and my OH is 40. I'm a bit worried about my age and what steps I should be taking etc. Any advice or someone to chat to in the same boat would be lovely as I feel really alone on this journey xx

Welcome to all the new ladies!

I've not tested again, I'm too scared to get a negative. 10 days late today. Feel very pregnant(food aversion, sensitive nose, weeing loads, cramping constantly). I'll probably cave and test again tomorrow.
As I mentioned before, I had this with both my boy pregnancies, just couldn't get a positive test for weeks and weeks. Do remaining hopeful!

Is anyone here fairly recently off birth control?
I’m supposedly now 4 days late but with constant stark white bfn’s I am convinced now it’s nothing to do with being pregnant, and that I am instead just taking forever to get a ‘normal’ period after stopping the pill.

I’m just so impatient and really feel like I’ve just left it too late, and it makes me so upset and sad when I think about it as my dp is amazing with my daughters and would just make the most amazing father.

I had a Mirena coil removed 5 months ago and so don't think I qualify as being off contraception recently.
I was also one of the lucky women who still had periods with a Mirena so, as soon as it came out, the periods just continued as normal - just got heavier and more painful. Great.

@StormBaby you sound very pregnant. I'm still hopeful for you

Thanks for the welcomes. Something strange is happening to me this month: straight from negative OPKs to peak fertility - no high. Already thinking this isn't my month

AF finally arrived this afternoon, thankfully before I bought a load of tests to pee on! I'm actually relieved, hadn't mentally prepared myself to get caught straight off!
So cycle 2 here we go!...

@Moominmiss I had my mirena removed on the 11th September. So I have no idea about my cycles at all. I had a sort of period on the 13th. I've been using the purple CB OPKs and it says that I'm currently highly fertile (third day running). I'm hoping for peak fertility tomorrow.

Ladies, i think I'm going mad. I had a cp last month. Bleeding started on 9th so that was cd1. Thing is I've really "felt pregnant" since. I'm 5 dpo now and yesterday I noticed that my nipples have gone brown. Also I have got two brown marks on my face, which I have had when pregnant before. They appeared 4 days ago.

Thing is, I know I am not pregnant, and even if I am this cycle it is far too early to have any signs or anything BUT I found an ic in my cupboard and so just peed on it and there is a faint line, maybe. It came up straight away and I can see it very slightly, hard to get a picture of it though.

Far too faint for a BFP from last month and I KNOW it's too early for this month, I've not really tracked very well but normally I ovulate on cd13 and today it is only cd 18. I've attached a picture of it. It's an Evan or in my imagination isn't it?

@Whyhaveidonethis I'm being very honest here - I can't see anything ...

@Icouldstillbejoseph I need honesty!! Going to just leave it now until 7th October and see what happens

I can't see anything either @Whyhaveidonethis. Although, admittedly, I am spectacularly shit at seeing faint lines.

Hopefully you'll get better news on the 7th.

It's my birthday that weekend (I'll be 39). I won't be testing til 2 weeks after I get a sodding solid smiley face on the purple CB OPK (it's a 4th day of flashing smileys today) so I may spend my birthday in what someone on the October bus called the 'Schrödinger's pregnancy' period (where you are both pregnant and not pregnant until you can test 😂).

I told DP that I wanted a (gestating) baby for my birthday when he asked.

So a friend just told me about these tests you can get on Amazon that test FSH levels. There's 2 poas tests an you do one day 2-7 AF an the other a week later, if you get a positive result on both it means you are in perimenopause. I can order an have delivered tomorrow but I know I'm opening myself up to a whole world of pain that is not necessary, they surely can not be reliable so why am I still considering ordering! My blood test got moved to Monday but I'll prob have finished AF by then so will have to wait till next cycle to test! Wishing I didnt know about these Amazon tests, it's too tempting even though I know it'll be unreliable!

Oh and @Whyhaveidonethis I'm sorry but I cant see anything either. Have you put it through different filters on your camera? Sometimes the faintest of faint lines can show up clearer if you change the light etc or put it through a negative filter. Sorry not helpful but it's what I always used to do if I wasnt sure if I could see a line or not.

I'm laid in bed with a stinking cold 5dpo and thought with all this time on my hands of research how likely is be to have a healthy pregnancy after 2 MC this year and being just about 40.... Well all IV succeeded in doing is making myheadache Worse and scaring the shit outta myself 😭!! Why does Google even have to exist.... Please someone come take my phone away!! Also bring medicine 😂😭🤦🏻‍♀️! Hope all you ladies are well Xxx

Elles1980 : STEP AWAY FROM GOOGLE! Sorry for shouting and I hope you feel better soon but it is a truth universally acknowledged that when looking for comfort on Google it kicks you up the posterior (been there recently reading about secondary infertility)

Oh yes. Step away from google, @Elles1980. Under no circumstances will that make you feel better about anything.

This morning I finally got a solid smiley face on the CB OPK, after 5 flashing ones. Annoyingly DP's mum is currently staying which he found quite off-putting this morning. She leaves at lunchtime though.

Any advice please on what I should do because I'm really winding myself up here. I didn't get the Amazon FSH test an I'm glad because I wouldn't have trusted the results. My FSH blood test is tomorrow but as I predicted AF is on her way out after 4 days I'm just spotting today so will have finished by tomorrow... so should I go and have the blood test anyway or wait till next cycle? I don't know how much of a difference it makes but I assume they ask you to have it mid AF for a reason. If I go tomorrow I won't be sure that results weren't affected but if I have to wait till next cycle I'm going to stress the whole time. What would you do?

@WooMaWang fab on the positive opk, time to get at it!

@Maybebaby2 this link says cd2-4 so I'd go for it. labtestsonline.org.uk/tests/fsh-test

Thanks @Whyhaveidonethis but I'm on cd5 today so I've cancelled. I found this which explains why it needs to me on a particular day.

I also found this interesting NHS article if anyone else is worried about their hormone levels. It basically says as long as you are still producing eggs and not fully in menopause you still can convince no matter what your FSH levels sre. It was a really comforting read and I will get test next cycle but I'm not going to stress so mich about it.

www.nhs.uk/news/pregnancy-and-child/hormonal-fertility-tests-waste-time-and-money/

that should say still conceive*.... too many typos, my brain is not functioning this morning! 😂

Aw ladies this is exactly what I need.... Kicking up the bum and shouting at!! Still a little stuffy from this cold and had the tiniest bit of blood this morning 🤷🏻‍♀️, I'm presuming that's my old cervical erosion! So I should have introduced myself properly,
Hi gals I'm Elle 39 (40 January), oh 42.
I have 4 kids 21,18,9&5. Oh has none. Was told he was infertile so we were overjoyed when we tried and fell first month together 😱. Sadly ended in a severe MC in may I went into cervical shock and hemorrhaged pretty badly, had to be rescucitated. Oh witnessed the majority and freaked out. We got over that and had a chemical last month. He again was the more upset one (I hope I don't sound rotten I was upset also but it affects him so badly). In between this IV been having internal and external scans Wheely Neely for continuous spotting bright red blood every morning. Have been diagnosed with cervical erosion. IV received an appointment to have a hysteroscopy through also but I'm 7dpo today so will wait to next week to make that. had a stinking cold Friday when I got the letter to make it and wasn't sure what to do, but IV not bled this month except my actual (don't know wether to call it period or MC 😩) only this morning had the teeniest spot of blood ever 🤷🏻‍♀️! So that's me, also massive symptom spotter and doer of my own head lol! Xxx

Hi @Elles1980 welcome!! I'm 8dpo today af due on Sunday. Trying not to test early as I've had 3 CPs in the last 5 cycles.

Hi can I join in please! I am nearly 37 and I have a 12 year old.

My husband and I are trying for a baby! But he said when happens it happens. He will not do it to a sex schedule, which is so unfair as I need to swap my nights around if I ovulate. But he gets funny if I plan it, he thinks I only want to have sex for a baby. He doesn’t understand 😔

Anyway I’m 2 days past ovulation, no signs!

Though I had sex day before OV, not on day as I was doing night shift.

Do you think there’s a chance?

Hello!!! Can I ask ... do you have any symptoms? I have none.

I thought CM was meant to increase and not be sticky?
In my last pregnancy I had symptoms from day one, which ended in MC

Sorry for being so blunt!

Hello! I can off the pill a month ago, I had all the ovulation signs but maybe it just didn’t happen?
I am 2 DPO, no symptoms. I had sex the day before OV, I hope there’s s chance!