Trying to conceive at 39!

[Nicsfh80]

Hi, i have just got married and we are ttc our first! We started about 2 years ago but then my husband had an accident and we stopped then we were planning a wedding so we only just started again 3 months ago. I am 39 and my OH is 40. I'm a bit worried about my age and what steps I should be taking etc. Any advice or someone to chat to in the same boat would be lovely as I feel really alone on this journey xx

Sabtom I don't think it matters when you go during your cycle, my app said I was ovulating yesterday but she said she didn't think I was yet but thought I would be today or tomo. It was so interesting and she gave me lots of tips for relaxing and also knowing my own body so I don't need to use ovulation kits. I'm going to go every 2 weeks so I have once during ovulation and once during the start of my cycle and I think my OH will have a few sessions too

Well another super faint line this morning and period 8 days late. I think at this point if I start bleeding its another early miscarriage rather than period. Fingers crossed for a sticky one this time. We've been trying a long time!
Might treat myself to a first response later

Super hopeful for you @StormBaby 🤞🏻

Another bfn this morning. Period was due Sunday and still nothing as of yet.
So frustrated now. I just want af to turn up now so we can get on with the next month of ttc. It’s the not knowing how long it’s going to take for my body to get back to normal after the pill.
With my previous pregnancies I got my bfp’s relatively early, well 11dpo so today being 16dpo I know I’m definitely out.
Just no signs at all of af showing up yet

AF is playing silly games with me, I'm now cycle day 26, I've not had a cycle longer than 24 days in the lat 4 months. Expected AF yesterday but only had some spotting so was sure AF would arrive today, but nope and the spotting has stopped. I'm booked in for blood test for FSH levels on Thursday, should be day 4 of AF so I'm going to have to cancel and hope they can squeeze me in on Friday or even possibly Saturday. Test has to be done on day 4/5 of AF or in my case as I've only had 4 days max it has to be day 3/4. So frustrating I swear my body is conspiring against me to make things extra difficult!

@Icouldstillbejoseph I get you, luckily I've not told anyone we're ttc yet so not getting all the not very useful comments. I'll blab before long though so I'm sure it all start then. In all fairness your shorter cycle could be stress related, how long have you been ttc now? When you got your FSH results did you say about your mothers history and what did they say?

@Nicsfh80 so would you reccomend the reflexology? I have heard good thigs about it before so think I might give it a go.

@StormBaby really hoping its a sticky one 🤞Let us know if you get the 1st response.

@Maybebaby2 haven't been to the GP yet. This is failed month 5.

Hi everyone. I'm 38 (39 next month) and my DP (40) and I have decided (following a somewhat unexpected and urgent coil removal last month) that we really do want to TTC. I have had 2 previous pregnancies (now 19 and 10 year old boys).

Because of the coil, I have literally no idea about my cycle. So I got some OPKs and started testing yesterday. Apparently today is a high fertility day.

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@Maybebaby2 thank you for linking me in to the thread ❤️! So happy to have found you ladies be so honest and who are not afraid to call bullshit on TTC! I feel bad because I have 4 wonderful children ds 21 dd18 dd9 &dd5. I'm going to be 40in January and oh 42 next month, hes a new partner 1.5years, who was told he couldn't have children so we were overjoyed when I had my coil out in Jan and we fell pregnant in Feb!! Sadly in may we MC really badly the hospital said it was a 'freak occurrence' I had cervical shock and had to be ressucitated and have d&c etc. It was the most awful time ☹️, I felt more for oh than me because he has no children and we'd gotten so far. We've been trying again since July, had a bfp 2 weeks ago after having a late period and sadly MC that one too. But no where near like the first. It was more just like a period 🤷🏻‍♀️?! I use a cbfm and I peaked yesterday and Sunday, I managed to convince oh to dtd (he'd out me on a sex ban because I hadn't stopped spotting in between periods so been having lots of tests) so I guess it's just waiting for me again now. I'm taking folic acid, using pre-seed, eating healthy, exercising, what more can I do.... Loose a kidney sell an arm 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️! I wanna make this wonderful man a daddy, and I want to have a new bubba, I can't imagine my life without one more! How hard can it be, half the women in my town older than me are pregnant, just had babies it's a pain in my ass! So it's lovely to have a place to sulk! Any tips or advice would be so gratefully received ❤️😘 xxx

Oh gosh I feel good for writing all that 😂

@Elles1980 I'm in a similar position and a lot of what you said resonated with me. I feel like I really want to experience the joy of having a baby with my new partner who is so much better than the exH

@Icouldstillbejoseph sorry I got mixed up I thought you'd said you have high FSH but it was @Whyhaveidonethis

Hi @Elles1980 you got the link 👍I wasn't sure because my reply was quite late, anyway glad you found us! Did you have the hysteroscopy yet? Not sure exactly what a hysteroscopy is but I think it's a camera in the womb, is that right?

@WooMaWang I hope you've been did a lot!! 😂 welcome to the thread.

@Elles1980 sounds like you've had a horrible time. Hugs. I've had 3 CPs and that was bad enough. My DC are 19, 12 and 9 so big age gaps here too. Ttc at our age is shit. Would you believe ds3 was conceived in the one time we had sex and we used the withdrawal method. Who'd a thought it would be so hard now.

Don't lose hope ladies I conceived my first at 39. My DS is a perfect 8 month old now and we're about to try for a second at the age of 40.
Tips that worked for me
-losing weight (my BMI was 36) I fell pregnant after losing over a stone.
-prenatal vitamins
-ovulation sticks
-loads of shagging

It took 6 cycles with one loss (one bean just wasn't sticky).

Good luck.

Oh yes, @Whyhaveidonethis. Definitely lots of that. 😁

I'm wondering how things will go this time. Both my sons were the result of contraception failure, so I've never tried to conceive before. But I was 18 and 27 back then.

Hello
39 and ttc also

Not a single thing showing on the first response. I am now 9 days late

@StormBaby oh no. What a confusing, frustrating, annoying pain in the ass for you

That sounds really frustrating @StormBaby. Are your periods usually really reliable?

Yes @moowawang I've been tracking them for the whole 3 years we've been trying and they're usually 25 days ish. I'm now on day 33!

Oh that is frustrating.

Oh no @StormBaby how frustrating! But you are not out yet, still hopeful for you x

Still no sign of AF here and spotting has completely stopped. I hate this so much because now I'm sat looking at dates googling everything to do with ewcm, ovulation, implantation and I'm convincing myself that the spotting on Monday was implantation bleed.... but it wasnt! I have searched the house for an old stick to pee on but could only find old opks. I'm going to buy a test tomorrow after work, really desperate to poas now! But it will be negative and then AF will probably arrive the next day! Promised myself I wouldn't do any of this!

Can I join? I'm 39 and TTC number 2 since January. DD is 2.8 and took 8 cycles to conceive. I've lost weight, upped exercise, got healthier, cut out alcohol and caffeine and started reflexology. I take vitamins, use OPKs and conceive plus. I feel like I'm doing everything I can but not a hint of a BFP. I'm having blood tests next week but part of me thinks it's just not going to happen and I can't bear that thought

@BabyMoonPie welcome :)
I have that feeling too - like it's not going to happen. I obviously want to be wrong.

Morning ladies thanks for the welcome 🥰!
@Icouldstillbejoseph oh really, it's nice to have someone to relate too. TTC is tough mentally. IV gone through the whole googling stuff every single day to last night just waiting to see and obviously that was a chem. I'm trying to remain super positive (tough job also)! Just wanted to send some hugs to all of you ❤️ xxx