I've had it the worst of both worlds, I looked about 12 until I got to my 30's and got ID'd everywhere, even at supermarkets up until then. Then I went straight from baby face to haggard. No chance anyone would mistake me for less than a woman on the cusp of 40 anymore.
I bloody love temping, and don't find it stressful in the slightest, but I am similar in mindset to @BambiOnIce80 in that I feel like knowledge is power and it gives me a sense of control. Every single cycle I've ovulated the day after a positive OPK, assumed the same this cycle, so stopped having sex the day before as we were worn out. Then my temperature didn't rise, and I felt a twinge in my pelvic region yesterday afternoon, and realised I was ovulating a day late. Managed to revive OH's interest enough for another stab at the target. Would have completed missed that if I wasn't temping.
@Amanda81 - I'm pretty sure anything more than 10 is fine, although obviously don't have a positive story myself to confirm. Mine is rarely more than 11 and I'd say my cycles are not my problem (pretty sure it's egg quality).
@edinbeezer - welcome! yeah first day is best. I record using fertility friend, i find it easy to use and understand.
@VenusStarr - you do sound completely overwhelmed. He must be worried about you. Hopefully you'll feel better placed to deal with it all with the counselling.
Sorry to hear about AF @Pinkywoo :(
Glad all is well @Darkstar4855 !