Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 8

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Here comes the thread, you know what to do!

Glad you had a better night grumpy! I'm the same with the antenatal threads! I much prefer all you lot!

hb I can't wait till 14 eeeks so I can start yoga! Very excited aboutsome super zen preggo content with life 😂

Bit of a shit day for me! Had a little cry in the loos of the conference this morning (pathetic I know!) so my manager said ages ago that in April he'd advertise my job at the next level so I can apply and get a promotion. So April has been and gone and nothing. My colleague has been a babe and is chatting to him about it trying to get him to do it and he told me he spoke to him this morning and now he's saying it might be July. I'm so confused because I haven't told anyone I'm pregnant yet. I thought I would tell him after I got promotion, but if that doesn't happen till July I'm sure I can't keep it a secret that long. Or do I just apply for other jobs? I could tell him after 12w and then explain that I want to get promotion asap to secure my future etc so I'm gonna just apply elsewhere? Which might A prompt him to sort something out, or B be like oh great I don't have to pay for Mat leave for you! I don't want to leave my current job but I'd rather get promoted knowing that I only had to do another job for like 6 months before Mat leave. Wwyd???

Hmmmm u know I didn't think you'd have to sign in so il gonna transfer it all to a new anonymous platform and delete that spreadsheet this evening and that should sort it out, now I've had a good look and can't work out out how to view anyone but that doesn't mean someone tech savvy couldn't so safest will be to do that, so will do that ASAP!

Awww Grumpy we will always talk to you.

Buzz that's really tough. I'm sorry I can't give you much help.. But I do know if you don't ask you don't get so it's good your colleague has spoke to your boss for you. Would you not sacrifice mat benefits if you started a new job? With us I think you have to have a year of continuous service before your entitled to stuff xx

Hb I did almost take agnus castus when I first came off the pill but when I read up on it there wasn't much research done on it with regards to fertility and I got a bit scared. I'll Deffo have a look into the one you suggested! Taa girl 😉

Oh yes seven that has various benefits too... think mummy might have been giving it a go?? Could be wrong tho!

Ok I think I have sorted spreadsheet debacle, I worked out how to look at who edited the document and everyone said anonymous except for me!! Anyway I deleted the original spreadsheet, all other online platforms that allow collaboration need all collaborators to sign up which is a pain in the neck! The old link will now not work! So I created an anonymous google account and copied all the details over, the link I am sharing on here allows contributing anonymously without signing in, at least I have tested this from a desktop, so if you are not signed in to your google account you should just be able to click the link and edit away anonymously, if you are signed in maybe access it from a private browsing window or incognito mode, although everyone still said anonymous on the last spreadsheet so I'm almost sure nobody was compromised, (except maybe me but that's fine!) Now as for doing it off a phone it may get you to download sheets and then obviously if your google account is set up on your phone I guess there is a chance it could not be anonymous (although as I said I found nobody's details in the contributors list except mine as the document owner)!
So here is the link, if anyone is worried about it or doesn't want to enter anything in that's fine , I'm happy to add stats for people and also if people just want the new one taken down altogether then that is totally fine!
Sorry for the long winded post but didn't want anyone to feel worried about being compromised!!!
Here is the new list link!

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/11g-CyD0tTF5KfWTvpFPnF5m_f4nUF_azruUvkwCreXM/edit?usp=sharing

Hope that's all ok!

MrsC thank you for checking all that and sorry it was so much hassle!

Buzz that is a tough one! I'd approach manager and say you need a timeline for promotion or will need to look at other options. Then keep the pregnancy quiet as long as possible.

MrsC you're an angel! However I only use my phone and I don't want to download and use the app which could very easily out my location/phone number/whatever else... would someone mind popping my details in for me?

Glad you had a better night's sleep grumpy and I hope work is going well for you! Enjoy surfing tomorrow, that sounds amazing.

That's a very frustrating situation buzz, I don't really have any useful advice. But I would say that you're never guaranteed a promotion and (in my colleague's experience) even if you're the best person for the job you might get by-passed if they know you're pregnant. It all comes down to money, they'll have to pay you more money whilst you're on mat leave, which doesn't make sense to fat cat bosses!! I'm sure there is a limit on when you have to notify your company that you're pregnant by a certain time? I think I read that on the government website about mat leave once....

I didn't use agnus castus in the end. Bought it but then worried it would mess my cycles up. I take folic acid, vit d, vit c, zinc, selenium, aspirin, vit b complex.
I've dtd everyday this fertile week.. I feel like I should go again tonight for luck but I'm tired 😞😴 first day back at work after 2weeks and I'm flagging!!

No probs penguin! Do u want to update your stats for me here and I'll pop u on or will I go from the last list?
mummy poor you I'm sure you're wrecked from a combination of jet lag and dtd! It sounds like you covered all bases if u want a night off though!

mrsc thanks for the spreadsheet!

seven well done on dtd. No need to arrest you yet

tigger glad you're feeling better. Enjoy your spa break and the wedding!

jb I think we are at a similar stage. Don't know when I ovulated if at all so around 4-7 dpo too. Zilch symptoms!

grumpy glad you got a better nights sleep. Hope work wasn't too bad. Enjoy surfing.

buzz sounds like a tough one! Maybe have a quiet word and see what happens ?

mummy sounds like you've not missed a chance this cycle. Good luck!

I'm feeling nervous for my blood test tomorrow but also feel like tomorrow can't come soon enough. Really really hope it's better and there's hope that I ovulated this cycle albeit late in the cycle.

Excellent mrs! Well done :)

Thanks for advice- seven I'd stay in the same company and hope for promotion so wouldn't affect Mat leave. Just really want to get promotion so I get paid more for Mat leave! That's the dream! penguin you're right, it's 15 weeks before you go off, so I have to tell them in like August. Dunno if I can keep it a secret that long!

And you're so right penguin about getting by-passed just cause you're preggers, even if they're not allowed it happens doesn't it! I'd want to have interviews and stuff and secure the job before I was showing so I don't get shunned!

I miss a couple of days and miss so much!
Spreadsheet looks great but I only use my phone so I can't edit it.
If someone would be kind enough too, my details are...!

TTC#1
Age 29
MMC at 8 weeks discovered at private scan. Had erpc. Waiting for af and then going to try again.

Hope you're all ok. Can't wait to see some more bfp on here again soon!

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind me joining you! I have added my stats to the spreadsheet
BFP due 1st May so trying to resist the urge to poas several times a day!

Added you in para!
Welcome haribo!
buzz really hope they get their skates on now and fast track that promotion for you!
otters FX for blood test tomorrow, I really hope it shows ov occurred! Will be thinking of you x

Thank you Mrs you're a star!

buzz that sucks that the chance for promotion might come after you have to tell your employer about your pregnancy.

Welcome haribo, there are a few of us impatiently waiting for next week to test.

Good luck for your blood test otters, I have everything crossed that it shows you ovulated.

Pregnancy yoga sounds great Hb

I am super impressed you managed ED on your fertile week mummy with the jet lag!

Enjoy surfing grumpy

Loving the new spreadsheet, thank you so much :)

So happy you caught your egg orange, ovia used to drive me mad so glad you’re taking it into your own hands. Fingers crossed for you this month. Want it so badly for you x

seven definitely go for the magic lube, seems to have a pretty high success rate!

Seems like yesterday was rubbish for so many of you. Hope you’ve all had better days - Tigger so glad you’re feeling happier today and it is of course impossible not to symptom spot. Roll on testing day!

Hope you’ve had a fab day grumpy and didn’t have to work too hard :)

I never even bothered posting in the ante-natal threads. I’ve read some of them but they seem to so often be full of bad news and wasn’t helping my anxiety. You girls are much better.

Hb you’re going to be fabulously zen. Good work! I might look into something similar, see what the local area has to offer. Are you going to consider NCT classes nearer the end? In fact that question extends to all of you. I’ve been looking in to them and my friend found them really positive.

buzz that is really tough. You’ll be showing in July surely so guess they will need to know. Maybe you could give it a month, see if there is any change to dates and if not then go and discuss with your boss really honestly. I wouldn’t tell them you might be looking elsewhere though but just give a good account of what the promotion would mean and how committed you are and will be when you come back from mat leave.

Oh otters am willing a lovely high blood test reading tomorrow. When will you get the results? Remember it’s only ?4DPO so might not be as high as it would if you could have the test on Monday (stupid bank holiday).

Well done on the DTD-ing mummy thats stamina!

Welcome haribo (your user name is making me hungry.. I’ve never been one for sweeties but since getting pregnant have had massive urges for chewy sweets.. oh and opal fruits!) Sorry, I digress… welcome to the board, really hope you get your BFP next week We’ve got loads of testers after the weekend if I remember rightly.

Oh and I got my scan date today! So despite all the "they'll make you wait until week 14" scaremongering of the last week I have been offered a date for Monday 15th May! I will be 12+4 :) Technically we go on holiday that day to Plymouth but prepared to delay that for this (of course). Will have my combined nuchal testing at same time.

Its suddenly all feeling very real

Hi Haribo (absolutely craving that now!)

Opal fruits Jupiter you're showing your age there😂

I'm absolutely up for NCT later on... so many of my clients have done it and made really lovely friendship/support groups that have lasted! Obvs the info will be good too but will take it all with a pinch of salt! My sister went to NCT and tried an NHS sesh too but found the NHS one scaremongery and very focused on what could go wrong so preferred the NCT outlook. These were the vibes i also got from the midwife when we discussed it too. (Having said that nothing went to plan for my sis, after NCT & all over the hypnobirthing she was two weeks over, induced & then last minute found he was breach and had an emergency C-Sec) So i'm probably going to go into it thinking anything could happen!

Anyway, I'm waffling, felt rough all day so super early night for Mr&Mrs Hb!

Haha Hb, I'm ancient. I think the youth of today may call them starburst. Sleep well!

10 dpo... What do we think??

Another pic...

I can see it Haribo. I see the line on your first pic but not as well on the second one. I inverted your pic for you. Looks like there's something there to me! Tentative congratulations!

haribo welcome! That's definitely a line to me!!!! 🎉