TTC - First time!

[mrsjkerry]

Hello there

Is there anyone else on here trying for their first baby around the same age as me? 25/26? Would love to talk to someone about it as I am currently driving my husband mad with all the TTC chat!

Yes I hate that too misty. But it's a hard habit to break as I've always gone to clean up afterwards. Not like straight away but always within 30 mins. Hopefully what MrsJ has read is correct.

Hopefully! I have read that too! And I've always been a straight for a wipe kinda girl lol 😂 I prefer doing it in the night so I can sleep then and not think about it, in the morning I'm lying there thinking "swim! swim for your life lil fellas!!" Hahaha. Honestly we must be crazy what goes through our heads.x

It is so nice to hear like minded people say what I'm thinking though!! 😂😂

I hate sleeping with it in and always inevitably get up in the night to wipe it out. Too wet and slimy for my comfort!

Read today that sperm can live for 7 days inside of you. Have DTD twice today. On top of everyday since Monday I must be seriously loaded up!!

I'm officially an idiot. STUPIDLY tested at 8/9dpo and got a line. It's very faint but I did it and had a bath so have no idea how long it had been there!

I'm putting it down to an evap.

That's it. Anything peeable is locked away for 4 days!

I read that too MrsJ.

Oooh claire fx for you xxx

Me too! That's what I'm hoping anyway lol. I need to keep stocking up though as I'm on day 1 of fw lol. But even if I fill myself up, without ewcm, they won't last up there will they. And in regards to ewcm, does it have to be there when I pee and wipe? Or could it still be in there even though it's not coming out? Coz I've gotta be honest, I haven't ever stuck my fingers up there and done that pinching it between my fingers thing to see what's up there lol. So could I still be producing it even if it doesn't drip out? (only on one cycle have I ever gone for a pee only to feel something hanging down (gross I know, sorry) to look down and see actual stretchy egg white just dangling there (tmi!) rest of the time, I've never noticed it 😂

Claire I've got my fingers firmly crossed for you chick, it's a squinter but give it a couple more days!!🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

As for poas myself, I've just gone out and bought 20 opk cheap sticks. They were right next to the pg tests but I have NOT bought any of them! This cycle I refuse to test til af is late and that means having none in the house! Well I have one but it's an expensive one so not wasting it on my bloody symptom spotting haha x

Thanks ladies.

Still kicking myself for giving up so early on not testing.

Also were supposed to be going out for drinks tonight and me and OH are both off work. So not sure what to do now! I haven't told him yet....

Misty

I use my menstrual cup to monitor CM which probably isn't entirely accurate but I think if it's there it's there and the body is producing it! Good luck for your fertile week!

Twisted

Good luck to you too!!

Fx for everyone waiting in the two week wait and coming into the FW!

Misty - I rarely notice ewcm either but like you I'm not looking in great detail. If by end of April I'm not pg then maybe I'll look into it a bit more. That would be 6 months ttc for me.

I do notice my cervical fluid. Usually first thing in the morning after my run. I am certainly not putting my fingers inside of me!! Freaks me out...gives me the shivers.

Ahh claire fingers crossed! It would be such fab news if it is a BFP for you!

On the topic of CM - I got DH to have a little look up there with his phone torch last month . I wasn't sure if I even produce any because I've never noticed it before. He said he could see some up there though so the weirdness of it was all for a good cause .

Christ that's some togetherness you've got there ttc 😂😂😂 my hubs loves my foof, but only what he can do with it 😂 if I mention anything coming out of it, he's likely to puke... he's not particularly sensitive about what goes on biologically with women lol and I've got to be honest, neither am I 🙈 the thought of poking around up there to check myself grosses me out lol. I have thought about a mooncup though... my period usually lasts 3 days, 4 at most and only 1st day is heavy, just over 1 tampon (I only wear a tampon in work and pad in evening and overnight) Rest of the days is still one tampon, and panty liner in evening and overnight. Is there a flow limit/minimum for the cups?x

Sat here with my legs up. Third time of the day. Do not want to fail this month!

Haha Misty my DH is a doctor so if he can't handle that then I think he's in the wrong profession . Saying that he does always say obs and gynae is the last specialty he'd ever consider! I'm with you though I couldn't go prodding around to check myself, I'm far too squeamish for that!

Blimey mrsj three times in one day! You definitely mean business this month, go you!

The only thing that might interrupt progress is my diet. Having just moved into the new house it's been takeaway galore!!!

Claire - only just seen your post below!!! Fingers crossed 🤞🏻

Wow MrsJ - DH must think it's Christmas!! You are motivated!!

Told OH and we're gonna get some FRER tests tomorrow so will test on Tuesday.

So much for waiting!

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Takeaways galore sounds AMAZING!

Exciting claire keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you until tomorrow 🤞🏼

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BFN today so saving the better tests for when I've missed AF. The cheapies keep giving me squinters but the FRER was definitely negative . Only 8/9 dpo so there's still time.

How are you doing?

You're definitely not out yet claire I've read very mixed reviews of FRERs! Very early days yet so try and stay hopeful it's horrible seeing the glaring whiteness of a BFN though isn't it!

I'm good - thanks for asking just waiting for my FW to start on Wednesday to get going again! DH's cousin dropped a baby bomb today, but to be fair I'm actually really happy for them as they've been trying for nearly a year now (only told us that along with the happy news). Gives me some renewed hope for us all anyway .

Claire - when is AF due for you? Hold off until then if you can! Hoping you get your BFP this month!

I have DTD again today. Covering all bases. I've also started taking the pregnacare conception vitamins. Anyone else? And I bought some of the 'Conceive Plus' lubricant because I read that normal lube can cause a barrier to sperm. Anyone else tried this too?

My anxiety levels have been through the roof today. That won't help I know, but I can't help obsessing. I'm sure I have a form of OCD where you imagine the worst scenarios that can happen and try to come up with solutions to them...

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Ah glad to hear your DH cousin had some good news after a year... But I always get pangs of jealousy regardless of who it is! I've heard so many stories of people getting lucky after long periods of time. I was lucky enough to conceive first time but ended in miscarriage. I'm not sure what's worse waiting ages for a BFP or having one straight away and having it taken away. I know I CAN conceive though so that's something! Good luck for your FW and more importantly enjoy it!! And Oh my god the stark whiteness of those negative FRER Is awful!
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Mrsjkerry
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I estimate AF is due between the 17th and 19th (this is the first cycle tracking ovulation so I'm not entirely sure. Is it two weeks post positive ovulation test or the day after? I'm a bit new to tracking and my first BFP was a complete fluke! I'm going to hold off now. I can't bare peeing on £5 tests and not seeing a line!

Sorry to hear about your anxiety. I think I get a bit obsessed over certain things but not anxious.. Yet. Have you got any techniques to help?

I've heard good things about conception lubricants... Let us know what you think!

Mrsjkerry

Bold fail there! Not sure what happened....

Claire the ovulation test just tells you that you should be ovulating within 24 hours usually. If you ovulated and the egg wasn't fertilised then normally AF comes 12-16 days later I think. Have you had a normal period yet? It's probably better to count from the first day of your last period if you know on average how long your cycle usually is or used to be.