First time TTC - thread 2

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Thought I would create a fresh thread as the original had been going since Feb. This is for anyone TTC #1, a bit of moral support as we all attempt to embark on the scary journey that is parenthood! Join us if you are a mix of terrified and excited, don't really know what you're doing yet and hadn't heard of CM before you started reading Mumsnet!!

Thanks mojito! DH bringing back a bottle of something to help get us in the mood tonight - you know you're over dtd when you're resorting to Monday night booze...

Joining this thread very late, and new to mums net... Hello everyone :)

So first time ttc, just got married five weeks ago. 13 dpo and just got my first BFP. Freaking out!

I feel like i'm meant to do something now, and i want to tell everyone, but know its way early for that. anyone in the same position?

Haha 😅 pj nothing wrong with that, a little helping hand to get in the mood for a good cause!

Hi lottesuz and congrats. There are lots of threads in the pregnancy section for different stages and people due around the same time as you and also in the antenatal section you might find people in your area :). Give your Dr a ring and see what the procedure is in your area first things first as it seems to be different depending on where abouts you are!

Thank you MoonlightMojito i will do
now to tell my other half (he's not home yet..)

Hi lotte and congratulations. What moonlight said - pregnancy forums and GP app. Wish you a happy & healthy pregnancy.
pjs impressed with your determination! I'm the same trying to improve my CM this month so I've got evening primrose oil and green tea and drinking lots of water (and needing the toilet all the time, good practice for pregnancy!) so will let you know if the EPO & tea does actually help or not.
cinnamon so frustrating waiting. It was driving me mad waiting for AF this month and my cycle was only 2 days longer than the previous longest one
I'm on cd7 now, patiently waiting for FW, doing lots of exercise and eating healthy.. Will start opks on cd10, expect ov around cd15.

And good luck with testing pie!

All done and officially in the TWW - apps telling me to test on 31st but I think that's too early. Going to go by Smep plan advice and test 15 days after peak. If AF is going to show, she'll show beforehand and better than seeing the BFN!

I must must must remember that symptoms are most probably in my head, like they were last month!

Will try out the epo and tea as well Eva - although I'm finding it hard to drink enough fluids when OPK tests tell me not to drink too much!

Cd13 for me today and ewcm has made a show... slightly earlier than expected so wonder if I'll ov slightly early or if it'll be around for a few days. Dtd on cd 9 and 11 so will again tonight, maybe tomorrow as well as defo Thursday cd15 and go from there.

Never thought I'd be jealous of someone's ewcm - but here I am lol

Sounds promising mojito! Good work on all the dtd! I'm relieved the pressure is off now

Haha pyjamas ttc makes us all slightly mad I think! I had 2 really vivid dreams last night, I never usually dream and if I do they're not usually that clear... But it was a pregnancy symptom for me last time. Still no sign of AF, but cramps continue. Going to wait til Friday to test again, if I'm not preg this is a really mean trick from my body. If I am I definitely ovulated 5+ days late. If I am preg then I am bloody glad we never risked it with contraception before!

I'm so impatient anyone else testing any time soon to take my mind off it?

I gave in and tested on Sunday night on the instruction of my acupuncturist as she said it all seems feasible that i could have been upduffed. BFN!

Im now on CD39 and no sign of AF still.

My light spotting has stopped. Im still getting queesy on and off, but other than that nothing bar the odd headache, spot and ravenous hunger.

I keep reading into this and scared its PCOS, we are just about to buy a house and Im starting to think about stopping it so that we can use the deposit money for IVF instead. Am i crazy?

Hi there Difficult - sorry if I missed it (so hard to keep track of everyone!) but were you tracking ovulation with opks etc? Could it be possible that you ovulated late?

Currently enjoying my last day off lazing in our garden with my book and a beer Refuse to check work emails until I'm on the tube to the office tomorrow!

I wasnt tracking it with OPK's. I guessed that I ovulated around CD20, but could be totally out with that thinking back.

Im scared that Im not ovulating at all now.

I have that same fear as my ovulation (if it happens) varies so wildly (wouldn't have a clue if it weren't for opks as I have no other symptoms), but I'm putting it down to coming off the pill and Nexplanon. If we don't conceive in September - I'm going for tests. May seem early, but id rather know now than later to sort any issues out as I'm 35.

It could well be that you ovulated late though, so try not to panic. for you though - it's so hard not to let the mind wander to worrying things.

im trying not to worry too much yet, but its so hard. I was only on the pill this time for a short while, not even a year.

im hoping i ovulated late.

Fingers crossed for us :)

I've learned hormonal birth control is amazing, but it comes at a price! I was on Nexplanon for 3 years, then the pill for a few months to tide us over the wedding/honeymoon - wish we'd just used condoms now, especially now that I know how difficult it is to get pregnant!

Fingers crossed for both of us indeed - everything has a way of working itself out

Im totally surrounded by pregnant people and new babies which makes it so much harder.

I was being treated for fertility problems 3 years ago but they gave me the all clear only a few months back so thought things would be ok.

difficult even if you have no fertility issues the chances of conceiving each cycle are only 25% or something like that. It's hard not to worry but stressing about it may delay things even more (says she who is constantly stressing about it ) it's so easy to say in practise 'don't worry' but so hard to switch your head off! Maybe test again in the next few days? Opks may help if your ovulation time varies, just to let you know what to expect?

Oh pj 😂 don't be jealous... it's not exactly nice lol. I'm jealous of your time off in this beautiful weather when I've been stuck in an office all day!

Sorry you're still in limbo cinnamon :(. I had weird dreams when I got my BFP too, isn't it crazy how all the different hormones do such crazy things to us. You definately could have ovd late so fx for you xx

Sorry for the bfn difficult... hopefully something will happen soon! At least you've had the all clear recently so things should be all in working order. Like cinnamon said the odds are not in our favour but hopefully it doesn't take long for you.

I think il test again in a few weeks time.

We are DTD ever other day minimum so that's the best we can do.

Last time I didn't show up on HPT as positive at all and had to have blood test so trying not to think about that and get carried away as not too sure it'l be the same this time

Someone I know just announced she's pregnant on Facebook... 12 week scan today :'( I feel so sad and it was such a shock. So glad she didn't tell me in person!

Oh boo mojitos - sorry about the baby bomb But yes, at least you can process it in your own time instead of having to react instantly face to face. Lots of and maybe a for you.

Thanks pj I really didn't think I'd react this badly I just had no idea they were even trying, last time I saw her babies came up and she said they wanted to go on few holidays and stuff first. I don't expect her to tell me they were trying if she didn't want to and for all I know it could have taken ages it was just a shock. And to be due same week I would have been. I burst in to tears, told dp and stormed off and then he was sheding a few tears when I calmed down and came back downstairs... what a palava! Dtd is last thing on my mind tonight now but we have to really after the ewcm!

Oh mojitos I'm sorry, seeing painful/sensitive bits of your life mirrored in others can be so very difficult.

I'm spotting this eve, 10dpo, cd31. Last month was 28 day cycle... So at least I seem to avoiding super long post pill cycles! Hoping by tomorrow my boobs will be less sore 😀

It's always the unexpected that hits you harder I think moonlight, and I'm sure the connection/ timing makes it worse, being that must be close to where you would have been (think we were same no of weeks and I know I would've been around 12w now)? sending hugs your way, hope you and your dp are ok