TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

CD16 here and I have just got my first positive on an OPK. I normally have two and then ovulate, so I expect another tomorrow and then ovulation on friday. WE have dtd every day for the last 8 days. I think we will skip tonight and do tomorrow, friday and saturday.

Hi all hope you're all ok...

Congrats grapefruit so good to hear nice news, I think it gives us all hope that it can happen.

Welcome to those joining us, so sorry you're here.

I think I ov'd in the night as my temp has gone up a little, only by 0.3 but that's enough it just needs to stay there for 3 days to confirm ov now. Have dtd 5 times in the last four days including this morning before I went to work to cover just in case. Feeling rather sore inside and exhausted now! It's definitely a left sided ov this month, that's the side I ov'd from when I mc'd and the side that had the cyst after. Again, the waiting game begins. I'm not hopeful at all this month though, I'm sure these ov pains I get aren't normal. It's so severe that when I sit down or try to run it feels like my insides are bouncing around, it does go off after a couple of days though. It's just weird and not a nice feeling at all.

No symptoms.. Perhaps the 5:2 diet has messed up my cycle.

Thanks everyone. There's so many of us on here now, rubbish really but so lovely to have the support. We've made a conscious decision not to tell anyone until the 12 week scan, we've literally known for 4 weeks already so just 4 more to go providing all goes well! I'm not going for an early scan, I had one at 8 weeks last time and it made the heartbreak all the worse when I did miscarry xx

jpeg I feel your pain with the late ovulating, I'm on CD19 and not got a positive yet either. That's not yet unusual for me though, if I don't get a positive tomorrow I'd be more surprised. Do you have other cues that you're in your fertile window? I'm on my fourth day of EWCM so planning to keep up DTD every other day until my temp goes up or CM changes.

Brenna I'm impressed by your every day for 8 days effort, that's an energetic commitment!

Cheeky if it's unusual for you to be this late is it worth testing again with FMU tomorrow if no AF by then?

Grapefruit congratulations, great to read a story of hope.

I have wondered about how reassuring they are. I was scanned at 6+6 and 7+6 for bleeding last time, Rowan died at about 8 weeks and we didn't find out until more bleeding at 10 weeks. I was quite glad when she said that she recommended waiting to 10 weeks rather than going in at 8 as knowing things are fine on that day is no guarantee for the following day. Of course I have to manage to get that far through this time.

We seem to have been on the same cycle so far, concieved at roughly the same time both times, MMC at the same time last time. I am so glad you escaped my fate this time. I really hope all is well for you.

I'm being really silly and 'pretending' that it could be good news although I'm pretty certain it's not. Just letting myself get carried away even though subconsciously I know I'm just letting myself get carried away... If that makes sense. It's strange as I have had cramps on and off and a few days ago felt like AF was turning up but it didn't arrive and now Im not getting a strong feeling of AF bring about to arrive. All very odd. I have been more stressed this month with work and potentially the 5:2 diet has perhaps messed things up.

Friday will be cd36. I only recall being this late once before like this when I wasn't preg. I'm not sure what happened that month but it felt similar to now. Just a complete genuine late.

If nothing by Friday I'll test again. Will buy a clear blue digital opposed to the Amazon pee sticks.

Good luck Cheeky you never know it could be a BFP.

lucky I have been temping and haven't had the continued rise to show ovulation yet. The last couple of days my temp has gone down. Back on cd12 I had what I thought was ov pain and was getting flashing smileys. But guessing this was all nothing! When we got pg the first time I ov on cd12. Today I think my cervix was firmer so I am just going to assume I am not ovulating this month. I suppose the MC screws everything up. I'm so annoyed. We are going to Italy with some friends for a wedding in 2 weeks and I would have been 19 weeks by then. Really wanted to be pregnant before we left. Silly really.

Brenna you are amazing for the 8 days in a row!!!

Ahh grapefruit congratulations! You must be over the moon and terrified all at the same time. Totally agree about not bothering with an early scan, I won't when I am pregnant next either after the same happened to me. Seems utterly pointless now.

cheeky everything xd for you!

jpeg it's so hard having markers like that isn't it, I was supposed to be 20 weeks for my friends wedding in June and I would so love to be preg again by then. We have to be kind to ourselves

My gut feeling is that it's just a late AF though. Can't understand why I would've got a bfn (I've tested three times using the one step Amazon sticks). Last time I tested was Tuesday (cd 31). My periods usually arrive on cd30.

I feel scared.

I would've been 30 weeks now.

Tomorrow I'll be cd 35 not 36 so actually not that late but definitely more late than I usually am. Im getting all stressed now can you tell???

It's so hard to stop counting the weeks! The reason we are going to Italy is for a wedding and I was so excited about having a bump to show off! I've been not drinking since the MC but I've decided when we are there I'm just going to enjoy myself as I won't be pg!

Good for you jpeg!

Agree, good for you jpeg.

Cheeky - could you see a doctor? Please don't be scared. I totally understand obviously but could a doctor help? Have you tried a FRER? Sending you lots of thoughts and hope.

Xx

Hugs Cheeky. It could just be that you got a bit stressed earlier this month and then ovulated late or anything really. Please don't get too stressed yet. Have a hug from me (and some chocolate).

Enjoy the wedding Jpeg. Italian wedding are always a great laugh. We had our real wedding here last year, then another wedding in Italy in september for DH's extended family. I was pregnant at that one which meant missing out on all the lovely wine and half the food, and then it was all for nothing anyway.

We had a night off last night to replsnish DH's stocks but I have mittleschmertz today, so back in the saddle tonight for the next few nights. My godmother is coming over tomorrow night to learn how to make cakes. She is not great for leaving or taking hints so I may have to boot her out the door and be blunt about ovulating and needing to get to bed, shich will make her leave but may traumatise her for life. Hopefully she has the sense not to push me.

Thanks hopeful. I feel a bit silly about seeing the doctor. I'll test one more time and then make an appt. should I try FRER or clear blue? So far only tried the Amazon cheapies.

Do you think I should do with FMU as well? I often go to the loo during the night.

Use a FRER or a Superdrug early. The clearblue are less sensitive.

as long as you don't drink much overnight then your FMU will still be more concentrated than usrine during the day.

Thanks Brenna. Missed your earlier post. That made me laugh! Telling your godmother hahahaha

Good luck cheeky.

I'm roughly 3dpo and feeling a bit flat today. Thinking about how I would've been 22 weeks by now. Generally wondering to myself when it'll happen again. I keep thinking goodness it's almost June and I'm not pregnant. I seem to be going from feeling good to feeling low again. Anyone else?

Hope you all have a good day. It's almost bedtime here in Oz!

Enjoy the wedding jpeg! We went on a holiday over Christmas time and that's when we conceived (though lost this one in Feb). I also thought stuff it I'm drinking! Once in the 2ww I'd stopped but the holiday def did me good, being away from the usual routine helped me relax and enjoy myself a bit.

Yeah i feel exactly like that. On a roller coaster of emotions. I don't actually know how I feel

Right I've bought the superdrug early detection. Tempted to test now. Going to try and wait till the morning.

Good luck Cheeky