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TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 29/04/2016 14:11

Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

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jpeg28 · 10/05/2016 17:18

I use those and I hate them!!! First response are my favourite but it adds up if you test a lot like me!

Mrsunsure123 · 10/05/2016 17:36

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redstrawberries101 · 10/05/2016 18:25

Aw sorry you are feeling like that mrsunsure. It can feel totally frustrating. Have you seen the consultant since they started you on clomid? It could be there is a reasonable explanation for it but you just haven't been told to expect this.

Writerwannabe83 · 10/05/2016 18:33

Hello all, it's been a while since I posted.

My period is about to end today so as off tomorrow I guess I'm on the TTC journey.

Me and DH haven't actually had sex since my miscarriage (start of March) because I just haven't felt able to as I was so scared of risking getting pregnant. I had bought some condoms but the packet still remains unopened.

After the miscarriage my DH wanted to TTC again straight away but I didn't want to, I wanted some time to digest it all, but I'm ready now.

I haven't actually told my DH I feel ready to TTC again yet, I think I will have that discussion with him tomorrow and just hope he hasn't changed his mind about wanting DC2 as he took a lot of convincing in the first place.

I'm going to read back through the thread now and catch up Smile

BertieBotts · 10/05/2016 18:43

I've used those Cheeky and I found them more reliable than more expensive ones. Don't like peeing in pots though!

I am feeling a bit better today but the last few days my hormones have really been battering me :( I have decided I'm going to keep my appointment on Friday in case I have any questions, but I'm going to ask if it's reeeeally necessary to do a blood test and whether I can do a urine one instead on the basis that if that is still positive (however faint) I'll have blood taken to see just how far over the 10 figure it is.

But. I have totally forgotten what time it is and lost my appointment card so I'm going to have to phone them or go in anyway, so I am tempted to just ask if I can cancel it. I don't want to be a pain. But I also really don't like needles and would rather not have any unnecessary ones.

BertieBotts · 10/05/2016 19:07

But I am feeling really frustrated at the waiting and not knowing part. I don't MIND two week waiting. At least I can get appropriately obsessive over symptoms. This is just a crappy nothing. Gah. And although I thought it wouldn't bother me that people are announcing pregnancies I'm feeling all left behind and like wait!! Wait for me! I was supposed to be on that bus, but I'm not.

Mrsunsure123 · 10/05/2016 21:30

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Writerwannabe83 · 10/05/2016 21:34

Oh mrsunsure SadFlowers

Brenna24 · 10/05/2016 21:54

Hugs Mrs. Bertie and Writer. It is a long hard struggle, which feels like it may not even end where we want but I am positive we can all do this with each others help. Flowers

HopefulKate1980 · 10/05/2016 21:58

Hugs from me too. It's impossibly difficult all this but wish us all so much luck. Hope the sun comes back soon!! Xx

Pineapple80 · 11/05/2016 04:30

Bertie - you could have taken the words right out of my mouth. I feel the same way when you hear someone is pregnant around the same time you were and I say to myself, that was meant to be me too Sad.

jpeg28 · 11/05/2016 06:14

Sending hugs mrs and bertie... It is so hard but we will all get there in the end!!
I feel the same about everyone announcing pregnancies... So fed up with it! It should have been me I keep thinking! But if we stay positive and hopeful it will happen at the right time.
Today my temp dipped way back down. So didn't ovulate. It's cd20...

pickledsausage · 11/05/2016 07:03

Hello everyone, can I join you? Have had 2 missed miscarriages now, one blighted ovum discovered at 8 week scan in October and one 8 week feutus discovered at the 12 week one (after having a very positive 8 week scan!). Had an ERPC last Tuesday and had BFN test this morning so I think I'm ready to get started again. sorry that you've all gone through this as well! It's good to know we're not alone though.

Argh pregnancy announcements, my boss told me last week when I was off recovering, that two girls in my team had just announced. Such bad timing as they must be similar time to me so will have to watch them grow/hear them talk about it - I'm genuinely pleased for them but would have just loved to have been a part of it too.

Anyway happy Wednesday to you all xx

Writerwannabe83 · 11/05/2016 09:33

Welcome pickled

I overheard the tail end of a conversation last week between two of my colleagues that definitely implied one of them is pregnant. I'm good friends with the one who is pregnant and I'm so happy for her as she's had to have fertility treatment, and I feel a bit sad that she probably feels she can't tell me about the pregnancy because of my miscarriage.

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InsufficientlyCaffeinated · 11/05/2016 09:57

Welcome pickledsausage. Good luck with trying again, I hope it goes well.

All this time I've not been bothered by seeing babies and pregnant women but the last few days with it being so hot and therefore people wearing fewer clothes I've seen great big bumps everywhere. I remember joking with DP about how grouchy I am in hot weather at best of times and how much worse I'll be in the summer when heavily pg (I would have been due in July) so it seems a bit poignant to be not in that situation and not even pg again. Really busy this month though so it's been helping to keep my mind of ttc a bit. Starting 2ww but also have 2 weeks to prepare for a big event so should keep me from symptom spotting too much.

DP has 3 women in his office who are discussing various fertility stuff - 1 who miscarried same time as me, 1 newly pg, 1 having fertility treatment and they've really bonded over it and he's feeling a bit left out, poor thing. One of them knows about my mc (the one who also had one at the same time) and he's really broody but I can see why they'd want their chats to be women only but at the same time I know he'd love to chat about it with other people besides me.

Finished my last lot of Amazon cheapies last cycle and haven't bought any more. Think I'm just going to buy proper tests if I have a missed period but otherwise not test

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theAntsareMyFriends · 11/05/2016 12:43

Hi,
I'm jumping the gun a bit but is it ok if I join. Found out nearly 5 weeks ago that I mc at 9wks. It would have been my second. Want to jump back into TTC but still bleeding and hcg levels still 90.

I have a DS who seems to be getting older by the minute and all I can see is the gap growing between him and his potential sibling. He keeps doing things that make me feel that he would be a great big brother NOW and it makes the waiting even harder. It took ages to conceive and I had a CP in December so I'm way behind where I planned to be.

Sorry for the rant. I'm not the most patient person anyway and not knowing when this bleeding will ever end it very frustrating.

pickledsausage · 11/05/2016 12:45

Argh Writer that's such a shame. Maybe worth saying to her (if you are comfortable), any news? So that even if she doesn't feel ready to say anything just yet she'll know that you're up for hearing it.

Thanks Caffeinated feeling quite positive about everything at the mo but imagine that will wane if it doesn't happen right away! Fertility cleanse on the previous page sounds v interesting though, will definitely start that from next cycle.

Ha yes, SO MANY BUMPS! Your poor DP, he sounds lovely :)

Brenna24 · 11/05/2016 12:54

Welcome pickled and the Ants. So sorry you are here.

theAnts my bro and SIL didn't have their second until the first was 6. It has been so much fun watching him really understand what is happening. If we ever manage to have any we will be having a small gap between themas I am already 38 and we don't have much time and I now acutally feel a bit sad that the older won't be chatting to me about it all and talking to 'Bumpy' through my tummy the way my nephew did. Having said that if I was you I would be going mad by now too, so you have my full sympathies.

Grapefruit8 · 11/05/2016 15:08

Ladies I've been lurking on here for a little while, think I know some of you waves at brenna Smile hope you're all okay, I'm tentatively dipping my toe in the water... 8 weeks pregnant today. Trying not to get my hopes up (had a MMC last October at 11 weeks) but with every day that passes im feeling a little more hopeful. Had horrendous nausea and feel so exhausted!! Waiting on a scan date but keeping everything crossed.

Brenna24 · 11/05/2016 15:20

Hi Grapefruit. So glad you are pregnanat again. I have everything crossed fro you that this one sticks. I am only just over the nausea from my last one in the last couple of days, so I feel your pain. It is particularly unfair that my nausea lasted longer than the pregnancy this time. Do they do early reassurance scans where you are. When I had my MMC in october I was told to come in for one when I was pregnanat again. They normally do it at 8 weeks here but bacuse Rowan had died around that time they told me to hold off for 10 weeks.

jpeg28 · 11/05/2016 15:52

Welcome pickled, theants and grapefruit .... Congratulations grapefruit that's so exciting! And fingers crossed for a happy healthy 9 months!!!

Feeling so impatient with my cycle! I know people ovulate late but I'm so desperate now for something to happen!

MissClarke86 · 11/05/2016 17:03

I'm on CD14 and no signs of ovulation.., last month I had a positive OPK on CD17 but still a 28 day cycle, so I'm a bit worried I ovulate late.

redstrawberries101 · 11/05/2016 17:51

AF should've arrived Monday.. Never really been this late,. But test yesterday was definitely bfn. Hope hormones sort themselves out!

HopefulKate1980 · 11/05/2016 19:04

Congrats Grapefruit!! And welcome to everyone else.

Cheeky that's confusing. What test did you use? Can you get bloods done at the doctor? Do you have any symptoms??

I'll catch up later on everyone's news.

Hope you are ok jpeg. Is it worth DTD anyway do you think?

I'm on CD25 and should come on any day now. Getting increasingly bloated and swollen so it's on it's way I think. Ovia says I can test in three days so will test on Sat if nothing has happened although fully expect it will. Grrrrrr..

Xx

jpeg28 · 11/05/2016 19:52

Thanks Hopefulkate... I'm ok just impatient and want to know what's going on, haven't dtd for a couple of days. Will make sure we do tonight and every other day for a while just in case. The thing is earlier in the month I had negative OPKs but they were darker than they are now. It's all so confusing!