TTC - a relaxed thread.

[lostindubai]

Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now

Doc said I have a thundering infection somehwere in my system according to my wee sample so put me on Augmentin. So thats likely the reason for the back pain and the general shittiness.

However he said that despite that infection it was still very possible I was pregnant as he doesn't consider it worth testing until you're two weeks late!

So he has banned me from testing for the next week and he says if I am pregnant it will definately be testing positive by then. So I guess if I still havent got my period by then and its neg, it prob means just mentstrual cycle tomfoolery.

I'm at day 39 today, so I'm still on knicker watch.

libby welcome! AF means Aunt Flo i.e. Your period. TWW means the two week wait between ovulation and period coming (or not!)

Ah thanks Annarose! And sorry to hear about the infection.

Easy for the doctor to say wait until you are two weeks late! Like asking a kid to carry around xmas presents with them without ripping the corners off to peek!

Pleased you have got some answers and some meds Anna! Hope you are feeling better soon and ad doesn't come after all

Aah, it came! Day 40 FFS!

I don't even mind as I feel so poorly that I just want to draw a line under this month, iykwim. Its been exhausting!

Best of luck to everyone in October!

Booooo! Sorry Anna-at least you know for sure now xxx

Awww Anna sorry to hear that. It's all about next month draw a line and have a . Hope you feel better very soon.. It's only my first AF and I'm digging into a tub of ice cream at this very moment..

I've bought some soy isoflavins in an attempt to shorten my cycle and bring ovulation earlier. Going to start them tonight, for 4 days only.

Does that still count as "relaxed"?

Its a slippery slope!

Haven't posted for a while but congratulations to those with their BFPs.

Only 14 days until I ovulate. Focusing on that is still being relaxed, right?!

Hi everyone just found this. We are I'm 36 and ttc #3 to be honest we were happy with 2 but clocks ticking and I didn't want to regret not trying again my husband always wanted more than 2. Came off the mini pill over 3 weeks ago had no withdrawal bleed then before my ovulation tests came I had the egg white stuff we had dtd two days before then on that day aswell. 4 days later I had some lightish brown discharge for 2 days now nothing...Thought it was af starting. Took a year to get pregnant with my daughter so be shocked if it happens straight away also I won't have a clue with dates!! Xx

It's lovely to hear from you Dark and Lost! Sorry to hear you're not feeling great. I hope the sickness passes soon. Hope you're both ok otherwise.

Welcome to all newbies! Lovely to have you!

Haha Anna! I don't blame you. I'm going to buy some ovulation tests to make sure I'm ovulating when i think i am. I hope the meds kick in soon and you start to feel better.

Welcome Belle. It sounds hopeful, fingers crossed for you.

Sorry for my lack of responses, it's been mental with work recently. I can't remember who asked, but we've only been trying for 2 months. Going into our third. I know it's not been long but still very frustrating!!

Hello can I join in? DH and I ttc #1. We're on cycle 2. I know it's crazy but I was disappointed we didn't conceive first time round. Anyway we start DTD the day after my period ends. For the first week every third day then the next 2 weeks every second day. I think I'm about to ovulate so we did it 2 days in a row just in case. Hopefully this is enough - how much sex are you guys having? Xx

Forgot to mention we're using conceive plus in place of our normal lube x

Sounds like you're off to a great start Kaytee welcome to you, and Belle and Libby, good luck to you all x

Welcome Belle Kaytee and Libby!
We are at the very start of ttc #3.. We have been unsure whether or not to have a third do good to have someone in a similar boat on board.
Very relaxed indeed Fuzzy!!
And Anna yes also relaxed! I have never heard of these before.. My cycle used to be sometimes on the longer side, do they help?
Are there any other vitamins to help get your cycle back? I feel so out of rhythm having been on the pill

Hi! Pre being on the pill I had an extremely long cycle often getting up to 60 days!! People would say I'm so lucky but if your trying to get pregnant it cuts your chances in half over a year! Doctor was about to refer me after a year of trying for my second to be put on chlomid but just before I found out I was pregnant. Still had no af arrive so just waiting!! Xx

Hello everyone, Can I join? This is my first time on MN. Im 30. DH and I have been TTC baby #1 for a year now. Been both very relaxed about it, however I am now feeling very anxious and feel I should go see a doctor. I know it can take a while to get pregnant, but I don't know what I might be doing wrong!

It took me a year to fall first time Aaf (welcome btw!) Went to the Dr and basically it turned out we'd not been dtd at the right times or often enough. A bit too relaxed if you like! I was still under the impression that you could get pregnant by having sex any time even on your period, like they told us at school

So we changed tactics and started to dtd every other day, making sure we covered day 10 of my cycle (I have a 28 day cycle) and it really didn't take very long after that.

However if you've already been doing all that then I can't see why you shouldn't ask your Dr for advice. But anxiety definitely won't help, so deep breaths and try to be calm. A year to conceive is apparently average so you are perfectly normal. Good luck!

It's definitely normal I was only going to get put on chlomid after a year because of my long cycle. I bought ovulation tests just the cheap ones from amazon and it worked on the second try with them, might be worth a go so you can pinpoint ovulation. I ordered 50 for about £7 xx

Thanks very much lostindubai and Belleboo23! Going to order the ovulation tests on amazon. I haven't tried the tests yet as I was trying to listen to my body, but every month the signs are different and at different times so im never sure. Thanks xx

Welcome Aaf! No it also drives me mad to think of all those teenage panics and fear given by school etc.. It was all a lie!
I caved and ordered some amazon cheapies the other day, I found they worked really well last time. I can't remember when is the ideal time to do them? I think you should avoid your first wee but I can't remember now?? Must start tomorrow as I'm day 9
Wow Belle that is a long cycle! And has there been any sign of AF yet?!

Well I'm not very hopeful as there was definitely more red/brown today but still not like a period and no cramps so I just don't know. I have taken a test it was negative, guess it could be my body still adjusting to coming off the pill xx

Hello everyone,

Just to let you know that I have now graduated! Very surprised considering I had 10 straight days of flashing smiley and no solid smiley on my clear blue dual hormone tests last month, i really didn't think I could have ov'd at all, so it just goes to show....

Got my BFP and am now 7 weeks. Started getting nausea last week but took 5 days of it before I actually threw up this morning, quite proud of myself as last time round was much worse. Think I must have learned some tricks for dealing with MS last time which thankfully seem to be helping.

Good luck to everyone on here, hope you join the grads board too soon xx

Hey guys just popping in again hope you are all doing ok. lovely to see newbies joining more people to join us once you all graduate

Speaking of graduating I spy a BFP!! Awesome congrats Decca see you on the grads board!

Hope you are all taking care of yourselves and I wish each and every one of you all the luck in the world x

Congratulations Decca!
After 2 days of brown/red discharge I am back to it being normal. I'm 12 days after I had ewcm but my ovulation tests didn't show up in time to test. Couldn't stop myself taking a pregnancy this morning but it was negative, my heart was pounding!! Don't know what's going on with me now Xx

Hello everyone and congratulations Decca.

I am just entering my fertile week and already finding that I am not a relaxed as I want to be about it all. Not sure how I will cope with the two week wait when I found myself questioning retching when cleaning my teeth this morning, especially since ovulation will be next week!