TTC - a relaxed thread.

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Looking for like-minded mums to be who are taking things as they come and fancy a friendly chat along the way.

I'm 36 and just started ttc my second. My ds is 28 mo and I still bf him once a day, most days. I understand this may affect my fertility but, although a three-ish year age gap would be nice, I'm a long way from worrying about it at this early stage. It took me a year of trying (and a mc) before ds came along so I already know what it's like to wait for good things!

Technically I'm not charting or anything (wouldn't know how) just counting roughly 10 days into my cycle and dtd as much as reasonable (!) around that time.

It might not be the most dynamic way of ttc but it suits me for now

Sorry to hear you've been feeling rubbish Dodi, I felt all over the place when I came off the pill. Hopefully it'll your hormones will sort themselves out quickly (dinner out always helps!).

Congrats InFrance!

I'm trying not to do a test until Tuesday as that's vaguely when AF is due, I've had quite sore boobs this weekend though, which I don't get with PMT.

Thanks Tamara, if my cycle is 28 days then last Wednesday, but hard to estimate as I've just come off the pill. Got some HPTs coming from Amazon, so will test again tomorrow or Tuesday!

Hi ladies. I've lurked the last fortnight but I'm taking the plunge and joining you if that's ok. I'm symptom spotting like crazy.

Basically dp and I last month decided to very casually ttc dc2. We had a not much action month (dtd once only and I thought prob just outside fertile window using guesstimating). Anyway a job I'd applied for a while ago got back in touch. Had an interview. Got th job yay. So handed in my notice.

That was 2 wks ago. Still no AF. Am now 32d from last period but have been irregular in past and have def not been paying attention in recent months. So I may or may not be late.

But have v tender breasts which does happen preAF too, but in my mind feel a bit stretchy in lower abdo.

I'm a mixture of delighted if I am, as am 37 and dd is 5 so was anticipating a much harder ttc. But also nervous as would mean no mat pay and would be a bit embarrassing to explain to a new employer.

So mostly hoping for a BFP. I know I should poas but am trying to hold out until 35 days post period so can be def sure I'm late.

Yey congrats infrance!! I feel like I need a spreadsheet to keep up with who's who and what stage everyone is at lol! I had no idea tests could be such a minefield lol I'm not looking forward to that bit!! Still got ages to go , shagathon planned for next week for me!!

I started my job three months ago, not looking forwards to having to tell them I'm pregnant when I do get my BFP. On the bright side I'm only just turned 21 so they'll probably assume it was accidental... not sure if that's good or not it's a really maternity-friendly employer thankfully.

Morning, hope everyone's ok, it's pretty rainy here this morning so dd and I are are watching TV in bed for a bit which is very relaxing apart from the toast crumbs she is spreading into the bed, luckily mainly on DHs side.

Still just over a week till AF due so keeping positive and busy.

Dodi - coming off the pill is hideous isn't it. I was put on cerelle earlier this year, terrible mood swings and feeling quite depressed so stopped it and put on a load of weight, grrrrrrrr. Absolute rollercoaster. Feeling much better now though, but took a couple of months to sorts itself out.

Today's the day AF due...no sign
In this mornings melee, I didn't test FMU. Have been feeling iffy past few days, totally off coffee which i normally cant survive without, so maybe. I'm usually spot on or early with AF! Eep! FX!!

I had really bad morning sickness with DD (had HG) lost loads of weight and couldn't eat or drink anything and still ended up with a healthy 9lb 5oz! Totally not a myth - she took it all from me! Haha

xXx

Oo FX Annat!!

HI ladies, please can I join you? I've been a lurker for a bit.
TTC number 2, I have a 6yo DD, I'm not with her dad anymore but with new partner and its his first (although he has a teenage SS - a whole other story!).
Had coil out at the end of last month and we DTD every other day for a week and a half over what I think was my fertile period (could not understand the cheapy ovulation tests that I bought from ebay) - AF not due for a few days but have had some symptoms, weird heavy feeling in my lower abdomen and unusually exhausted and a bit nauseous, convinced myself last week that I was pg and did two tests both BFN. I will test at the weekend if no AF by then and try very hard to think about something else!! I would be delighted if I was this month obviously but my OH would rather not as it would make me due very near to the date of his bro's wedding and (i think more importantly in his mind his stag do!- boys!)

Hi lexb! FX for you too!! Haha boys eh!! A friend of mine who's TTC and doesn't use ovulation tests as apparently there's a whole load of factors that can affect them. I'm just working out the days tbh but I'm on my first cycle so still working out what's best for us!

Thanks CakeLady - great name :)
FX to you too.

Hi ladies hoping to join!

I'm 35 & TTC no.2...this is the 2nd month TTC.

1st month just messed up as wasn't even at home the day (think) I ovulated, this time round much more " on it" (so to speak ha!).

DTD every day for 4 days running up to, on the day (checked with O stick) and day after too...fingers crossed. Now the 2 week wait begins...this depressing rain doesn't help either

Thrilled to reveal I'm BFP!!

In shock really :) did clear blue digital test this morning and said 1-2 weeks, but looking at my dates, it would be 4weeks.

Can't believe my luck!
xXx

Congrats annat!!

Fab news annat! Brilliant news. xx

Hi All,

I have been reading all the messages for a while now. Think it's about time I joined in.

I stopped taking the pill on 11th June, had normal 5day withdrawal bleed and nothing since....

I know it could take a while for everything to go back to normal, we are just going with the flow and seeing what happens....well that's the plan but now I'm just waiting for AF time seems to be dragging! It's the first time I have ever wanted AF to arrive!! Haha!

Yay congrats annat brilliant news wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months

Wow this relaxed thing seems to be a great tatic there have been a quite a few BFP's it's brilliant FX for more in the coming weeks

I agree cake we need some sort of spreadsheet or something to keep track as I'm Struggling a bit too.

AF is due in 3 days! Praying she doesn't arrive not had many symptoms tho apart from sore boobs but I get that before AF as well so we shall see

Good luck to everyone who hasn't yet got their BFP and hope you are all doing ok.

Welcome Vicky it lovely to have you join us

It's a great bunch of ladies on here and we all help each other and support one another. Hope AF arrives soon for you ( that's a weird thing to say lol) so you can start trying as soon as possible

Congrats annat!

And thanks all for the congratulations aimed my way too

Very busy with work, which may be a good distraction from the obsession of symptom-spotting (although its impossible not to check tissue every toilet visit, as this was the first sign of mc before).

Agent I'm also slightly nervous about employment situation - am going to be unemployed by mid-October (contract ends), and although will receive v. generous unemployment benefit (you get up to 70% of old salary in France), possibly starting another contract next spring, pretty close to the due date, is worrying. Not sure what might happen with paid maternity leave; I only got 16 weeks last time (standard in France, but with higher pay), but with contract work I'm not sure what I would be entitled to in UK.

OTOH there's never a perfect time in life, last time we took the plunge and it (just about) worked out ok.

Perhaps we can all give a brief bit of info for a "state of play" post we can all bookmark if someone will knock up a spread sheet-thing?
i.e.
Name, Age, any DC, cycles TTC/current state, any TTC-related problems they're happy to share or want to chat about

Here's me:
InFrance
34
1 daughter, 17 months
nearly 7 weeks pregnant, TTC before that since March 2015 (2 cycles total)
1st miscarriage at 8w early June, now trying to be very zen until 12 weeks (or earlier for heartbeat scan ).

Here's me:
40
Ds only 9 months old (gulp!) but have to get a move on for #2 cos of my age.
TTC: going into 2nd cycle, conceived 1st cycle last time.
Am using the period tracking app Clue which I highly highly recommend as it gives you a fertile week based on your cycle averages. No other thinking involved!

Congrats Annat wishing you a healthy, happy 9 months!

Apple stats

36
DD 20 months old
7 weeks pregnant, conceived on second TTC cycle (same for DD)

Congratulations annat!!!

Here's my stats -

Age: 21
DC: 1 DD, 16 months old.
TTC - Cycle 2 although we've barely DTD

DD was totally unplanned so very new to TTCing!

Here are my stats:

I'm 27
TTC for the first time, stopped pill start of June but am still waiting for first proper AF

Here's me:
37
One dd - 5 yrs
TTC 1 mo.

AF today so def bfn for first month. At least it means I won't start new job pregnant (thinking positively)