We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Welcome thatsofunny, sorry you find yourself here with us.

My view is that you can start TTC again as soon as you feel emotionally ready and you've had a negative test. However, it took me 4 weeks to go from beta hcg of 226 to negative. You might be totally different and I don't want to depress you, but it's better to be emotionally prepared for a potential wait, just in case.

Grapefruit juice - bleurgh. That is way down my list of things to try, don't think I could ever grow to like it!

Trying to decide if I should POAS on Friday. CD26 seems a bit early, but I don't think I could wait a whole week longer and I don't want to be a naughty girl and get "fished" for rule breaking

Right penguin, I'm on day 27 on Friday with a 30 day cycle, I'll hold on til next Friday (if AF doesn't arrive) if you will...?

Felt a bit nauseous today and have now decided that I'm PUPO - pregnant until proven otherwise. Anyone joining me?

penguin and sal exciting times! I love to POAS so if I were you i'd POAS friday, but not get too down if it's negative. But i'm a POAS addict.

funny as others have said you're good to go again as soon as the bleeding stops, but it's important to check that you get a negative pg test. Sounds like everything went smoothly for you so i'm sure that won't take too long.
Also you're not insane - many people want to try again ASAP, it seems to be a normal feeling. I certainly did.

cosmic I think making lots of plans is a sensible idea. You can't just put your life on hold expecting that you'll be pg soon. I missed out on signing up for a few things because I thought I'd be heavily pg - nope. And that feeling of missing out makes me even more bitter than just the mc or lack of another pregnancy.
KS78 you should aim for plan B too! tempt the gods of fate...

Hi everyone - just marking my place. Welcome to all the new joiners and sorry that you find yourself here.
penguin and sal yes please poas on friday - it would be nice to hear some positive news before the weekend ! I will be 10 dpo (or supposed ovulation as per the opk ) after my miscarriage on Friday, so am also a bit tempted to poas, but will probably pass on it. I don't have any internet cheapies and want to save my CB HPT when there is a greater chance of my being pregnant.

I love the PUPO concept! I'll be PUPO too, have had sore boobs for a few days (probably all in my mind though).

Ooh sal, can we be that strong? Maybe we can hold on if we encourage each other!

Why not get some Internet cheapies triplespin? They are about 30p each if you buy in bulk! I'd be bankrupt by now if I stuck to CB tests

Lets be strong Penguin.

I always think its worse to test early and get a negative cos then it feels like a lifetime before AF arrives and you're just prolonging the agony. At least if you wait tgise few extra days, if AF comes, you're already into the next cycle and if she doesn't, you have a few more days of hope. PLUS, if you test at 10dpo and get a BFP there is the chance it's a chemical (boo hiss) and you only get to say that you're 3+3....which sounds crap.

We can do it.....

I've been PUPO too many times since my mc to keep up the optimism for that, but i'm glad that you guys can :)

I'm CD6 today and should be gearing up for the shagathon - but am going to be sweltering in a tent with DD from thu-mon so that's out. My strategy this month is going to be at least 3 days in a row over what i hope is the critical period. And temping to tell when we can collapse in exhaustion.
If it doesn't work this month i'm off to the docs. It's getting very depressing that i'm still here.

When was your MC Aly?

It was in Feb. This is ttc cycle 5 (or 6 if you count the wtf cycle), and I know that isn't a long time really and that lots of you are in a similar boat, but it still feels like FOREVER. Also because I got pg after 2 cycles with dd and on the first go with my mmc, I've never really actually properly experienced the frustration of ttc until now.
Also my luteal phase seems to be very short which is worrying me (having reanalysed my FF chart, it was only 10 days this last cycle).

Enough complaining from me! I'm just feeling a bit down today.
Sorry.

I should focus on the stats that say you've got roughly equal chance of conceiving every month for the first 6 or so months of trying. And if I look at my batting average it's not too bad actually. This just balances out the incredible luck I had previously. (but I think we can now safely say that DH doesn't have the super sperm he used to gloat about, haha!)

Aly you may have tarried it already but I used Vitea Agnes cactus for short luteal. I did see an improvement after 3 months. Of course that could have been time not Agnes cactus but I felt it was worth it.

TTC can be very very hard. I mentioned before how scary the idea if being back ttc is to me. For me I'm planning on trying to be busy and healthy. Will do all ttc madness but will try to limit the amount of head space I give it. Ie only obsessing 3 times a day for 15 min. This will be a Massive improvent on how I was at the start of the year!

See typos hangs head in shame, stupid phone and fat fingers combo !!

aly we could be the same person. Conceived dc1 on second cycle of trying, and the second pregnancy that ii subsequently lost to MMC was conceiced in first month of trying. Foolishly thought this ttc was going to be easy for us, even after the mc. But Mc was in feb and now 5/6 cycles down the line and been PUPO too many times to keep believing it. And super sperm also being debated in our household!! I too am giving it one more go this month then off to the doctors. Feel I had my lucky spell that's now officially run out and so don't want to leave it too long without seeking some medical advice and help.

Good luck to those in 2ww and POAS Friday... Will be looking out for some bfps!

I know it feels like forever, I'm just a month after you but it took me 6 cycles to conceive MMC and I tried for a year with my ex-husband (new balls please!), so I get your frustration!

I fear that the doc will say that if you're having regular cycles and have had what they class as a pregnancy in the last year (as well as a healthy baby), they won't see you for 12 months from the MC. I'm 36 in September and he said as I had acheived PG twice (both MC) they wouldn't see me til the end of the year. It's bollocks really, but we just can't afford to go private and our only choice is to keep going!

Grrrr....

Chuckle re 'new balls please'

I know you are right sal re doc but will devise plan b when that happens and they tell me to go away and come back in another six months. One thing at a time here!

Shame they removed that smiley!

fedup are you sure you're not me? that's freaky!

sal the new balls seem to be working already, if 6 months instead of a year is anything to go by. You are of course completely right re doc, but i'm going to go anyway. It's mostly the short luteal phase that i'm worried about and i just want them to do a scan and see if they can see anything. I'm sure they'll send me packing but it's worth a try.

cosmic thanks for the tip re agnus castus. I haven't tried it but i have heard about it. I've really only just discovered my short luteal phase because i've only just started temping/ov sticks. I might give it a try if nothing changes in the next month or two.

also great plan to not obsess and be healthy and busy. Easier said than done methinks. On that note though, I will go for a run tomorrow morning! booyah!

Hello ladies, i've been lurking ....

fedup and aly* I also had mc in February (2nd mc) and also with DD, we didn't even try to get pregnant, with 1st mc, first try again and then with 2nd mc took about 5 months!!!! That's when we were trying! When we weren't trying it just happened straight away.

I'm a bit behind you on cycles, as AF took 11 weeks to arrive after ERPC, I've now had 2 full cycles (3 including WTF cycle) and it still feels like FOREVER!!!!

I'm not sure what to think about this month.. I'm using OPK sticks, and I don't know what happened last week, I'm not sure when/ if I got the positive ... think I was a little stressed by it all and also I was POAS so early in the morning I don't think I focused properly. Anyway we DTD 3 times, Mon, Wed and Fri, DH was away the other nights .... hoping that was enough and it was at the right tme .... AF is due next Thursday (i think).

I've started acupuncture this month, more to help with stress, and she has suggested temping, so that's what i'll do next month - I see some of you do this, any advice???

Does anyone else find that they start off very healthy in their cycle and then during the 2WW start being not quite so?? I don't know the matter with me is ... today, I had some of DD chocolate covered raisins (yuk), an icelolly, some biscuits and just stuffed my face at dinner .... comfort eating perhaps?? EEK iv'e gotta get in a bikini in few weeks!

Been wonderjng where you were emki. i Just stuffed my face with Indian and I'm not even in the 2ww.
I like temping so far. I'm doing it first thing when I wake up rather than setting my alarm. That means the time varies between 5:30 this morning and 7 if I'm lucky. I know you're meant to be consistent but they seem to be relatively stable anyway.
Last cycle it was quite clear when I ov'd at least down to one or two days. So at least you know when to give up sexing.
Oh and I signed up to fertility friend and they sent me 18 days worth of emails teaching me all about it. The most useful ones were the last couple where they show a whole lot of abnormal charts and how to interpret them.

If you google 'bbt adjustment calculator' there are links that come up that will adjust your temp depending on how different your wake up time is. Clever.

Thank you!!! Shall start next week - hope you all have good days today xxx

I'm still uncomfortably full of pizza from last night!

Morning. Welcome to new people, sorry you're here.

Glad I'm not the only comfort eater! If i get BFN tomorrow, which i fully expect, i'm going to really throw myself into getting fit. I have developed a round cake tummy which is not at all good.

I started running a couple of weeks ago but its been far too hot.

I'll be 11dpo (i think as OPKs didnt really work), have no symptoms but wont be able to stop myself POAS.

Rainbow my cake tummy is awful! I've already been described as 'nice and cuddly' by someone today .

Im 16 dpo (I think) but too scared of a bfn to test. Maybe next week if no af by then.

Good luck to everyone testing tomorrow! Hoping to see lots of bfps.

Forgot to say - hello to new people