We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Hello ladies,

I don't know if many of you will remember me because I've been off the thread for quite a long time now. saggy suggested I drop in to share my news regardless.

I'm just popping in to say that I got a bfp today. It's really really early days but nice to have some good news at last! I had a mmc at 12 weeks back in November. So it feels like its been a long time coming. And now the terror really begins!

Hello to all those I know and a hug to all those who have joined more recently x x

thunder that's fab news so happy for you!

Yay Thunder! Although flinging a trout your way for breaking the POAS Friday rule!

thunder super news. Delighted for you.

Well guys I have decided to take a break for a months of TTC really short luteal phase so started b6 today and going to keep up my acuncpuncture. No point getting pregnant only to lose again need to get myself sorted first.

I wish you all all the luck in the world and will pop in every now and again to make sure you are all up the duff.

Thanks for all the support and the laughs just need a bit of time out xxx

Thunder that's wonderful! Really really wonderful, I know it's been a long journey for you.
I hope that everything works out perfectly for you this time.

Missp that's sad news, we'll miss you very much :( take care of yourself

Aww, lovely news thunder, thanks for sharing that with us to give us all hope

Sorry you are leaving us for a while missp , we'll still be here to give you support when you need it

fedup - I haven't been using OPKs this month, but I do have a clear blue fertility monitor on my amazon wish list. If AF arrives it will be going straight in my basket!

I have a plan to try one new thing a month until I get pg. It makes me feel like I'm doing something actively about it. So I'll start with the sensible things, but if it takes a while then it might start to get a bit extreme!

greenlizard I don't think you should worry too much at this stage, it takes time to get back to normal. it took me 6 weeks to get AF and my temps were all over the place, then I ov'd and got af within a week. Although they also went all over the place when I was pg, so maybe... ?

thunder Congratulations thanks for sharing your good news.

missp Take care, hopefully hear from you soon. x

penguin I am very much like you - I have pretty much tried something new every month. It makes me feel better knowing I am actively doing something, and takes away a bit of the 'same old routine' kind of thing. This month (post op, pre-af) I am using as my opportunity to "just let nature take it's course, not 'try'"

missp sorry you are leaving us but also hope the ttc break does you good. Take care and Will be thinking of you xx

thunder yay! Thats fab news. i too had a MMC at 12 weeks too so you are giving me some hope!

I'm currently in my only 'ok' week of the month so actually feeling up beat and happy for once. Rest of the month am a hormonal, emotional wreck who sometimes thinks she could be sectioned. DTD marathon starts tomorrow. Bring. It. On.

Ah thank you lovelies for the kind words and sorry to see a few familiar faces on here. Ttc after mc is so hard, especially if it doesn't work straight away- so many conflicting emotional and physical things going on. One day at a time... For me anyway! for all of you x x

CongratulationsThunder - it really does give hope to all of us.

Misspositivity - hope you get a good rest from TTC. We all know how mentally draining it can be.

Penguinita - I am exactly the same as you re. trying something new each month. I totally agree it makes you feel like you have more control.

I had a huge snotty crying fit last night. The baby I lost on Christmas Eve along with my tube after the ectopic would have been due this month. Am relieved I don't know the actual numerical date, but think its just making me sad for the whole of July. Feel a bit calmer today though. About to start really going for it ttc wise cos AF has finally gone. Doesn't sound too appealing in this heat!

Hope everyone is feeling positive today.

Oops - forgot to add, Over - take no notice of your MIL (or whoever said that stupid comment. It makes my blood boil some of the insensitive things people say to others when they are clearly suffering and it's often family members who are the worst. I remember this happening when my Dad died as well. In fact I could write a book on what NOT to say when people are grieving. Some people are clearly deficient in emotional intelligence! Okay, rant over.....

Congratulations Thunder - great great news. Misp sorry to see you go but really hope you can relax during your timeout.

Well I was quietly positive this month as AF was a few days late and 'thought' I felt different but have woken up to cramps and spotting this morning. Bleurgh. Back to the drawing board. Not feeling very positive. But I didn't POAS. Was waiting till Friday! So no fish slaps.

flohs that's such a pity. Stupid, stupid, evil AF. Big hugs for you, and well done for no POAS!

badhair i'm sorry that you were feeling miserable. It's impossible not to with a due date looming. Glad that you are feeling a bit better now though.

fedup i didn't start temping until CD 7 last cycle, and it was still very easy to see my ovulation. This is the first cycle that i'm doing it from CD1, and I have to say that my temps are a bit all over the place so far. Apparently that's quite normal during AF. So I think you should go for it, you haven't ruined anything by not starting until now.

Hi, am lurking around as I have no idea what my body is doing now. I had an early mc last month at 5+6 and counting the first day of bleeding as CD1 I'm now on CD34 with no sign of AF but BFN this morning. I thought I ovulated on CD17 as I had EWCM and some of it was slightly blood-tinged which I thought could be ov spotting? But that would make me 16 dpo now so I guess if I was pregnant I would definitely have got BFP by now?

Normally have 30/31 day cycles I meant to say! But is a long cycle to be expected post-mc?

Hello, I haven't been on here for a while as too scared to 'say it out loud' but I'm now pregnant again after MC over Valentines day, I have my 12 week scan booked in for tomorrow and am absolutely terrified!!
Good luck to all in here TTC!

jelly a lot of people have a long cycle straight after a mc. if you did ov when you thought that you did, it could just have implanted late. still possible to get a bfp. If i were you i'd test in another few days unless AF appears first. But it's quite possible that you didnt' ovulate, as an anovulatory cycle is quite common too.
IT's a pain the waiting!

great news christine! I remember you. I hope that the scan goes well tomorrow. fingers crossed!

Thanks Aly - feeling pretty low but I guess it's because I was so hopeful. I can't even remember what it was like to feel pregnant now. Someone told me today to not let TTC define who you are and I am really trying but it's all consuming and is such a rollercoaster. Have you got any plans for this month? I just bought grapefruit juice for the first time! I hate grapefruit juice - such sacrifices!

One month into the grapefruit juice, I can confirm that it goes from

Someone mention trying not to let ttc define you. I struggled from months 9-14 with this. I found it hard to make plans when we trying for baby. It seem rash and unwise.

18 months after the lets get pregnant and one missed misscarriage later. I feel a bit lost. I need to give my body a chance to recover and then see if we fall pregnant naturally ( was due to start infertility treatment a week after falling pregnant ).

Although we are trying (have been since getting -ve test post erpc). I can't let myself think about it too much, it's all too scary. Making lots plans for next 6 months around my career ( looking to move into environmental education from teaching). This means less supply work and more volunteering. Money wise not best plan pre baby but a voice in head tells me time for plan b. No child and a the wrong job 3 years from now is too hard to consider.

Am I mad for trying this? I figure if we have our longed for baby I can change the plan.

Hi there...please, may I join you? I had an mc last Friday at about 5 weeks (very early,...cd36 or 37,..at times my cycles go on to cd34). I know, I should be feeling more upset, but I've done the "feeling upset" bit now (been in tears and quite hysterical several times between Thursday and yesterday) and just want to move on. I'm feeling a bit like I always feel when I find out that the pregnancy test is negative yet again - we had been trying for two years to get this first pregnancy.

Any idea when we can start to ttc again? It was a natural mc, no pain, no great blood loss...just seemed to quietly and calmly slip away. My periods are worse than this... (I really do feel like someone's taking the piss by telling me I've had an mc.) I'm still spotting and lightly bleeding "dark brown stuff" (tmi), which a normal sanitary towel can easily cope with (not really needed more than a panty liner so far, but it's starting to get a little heavier...but not much).
Can we try again once I've stopped spotting? EPU told me to take a test on the weekend and it should be negative by then. HCG levels were apparently already dropping,...from a low starting point of 350 on the Thursday.
Am I just insane to want to try again so quickly? (It's not a coping mechanism,...at least I don't think it is. I'm coping ok.)

Tea - you are so right about the grapefruit juice!! Starts off horrible and then you find yourself quite fancying a glass! Cosmic I'm in the same position as you - I've been looking into getting out of teaching - the only reason I would stay at my current school is if I got pregnant. I feel like I'm at a real crossroads - stay in teaching and hope I get pregnant soon - or go for a new career. I think you should go for plan B - you're bound to get pregnant much quicker!

Thatsofunny - sorry for your lose. There are different schools of thought re trying again. Many people want wait for one period post misscarriage. The misscarriage assocation advised me that waiting for a period isn't necessary. However unprotected sex before the bleeding / spotting stops is an infection risk, so best avoided. Waiting for a - ve is probably wise too, so you can be sure a +ve is a new pregnancy ( and that you have no retained products).

Trying again is personal choice and if you're feeling ready then its right for you. I started trying the day my test was -ve. For me and my partner it felt right. In fact could cope with idea of preventing a pregnancy despite still mourning the one we'd lost.

KS78- it's hard isn't, teaching in school gives me little joy ( love the classroom hate all the rest) but teaching environmental education is amazing (and os more weighted to what i lice about education). Plan b is looking more likely. If a baby muddles it up I would be thrilled. But another supply contract would be very hard.