We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

:-(((. Temp drop this morning below cover line then brown discharge when wiped. Looks like it is all over for me this month.
Oh well dust oneself off and get on the horse again.

Lunch today with my pregnant (17weeks) cousin beach then family BBQ (with alcohol!!!!)

alyant hope your head dosen't hurt with all the bubbles last night

Hi can I come and join you please? It's 4 weeks since my erpc after a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks). We tried for 15 months before and it was my first pregnancy. The TTC was harder to to cope with than losing baby in some ways.

Very scared to find myself back here and need all the positivity ( and honest venting) going. Not yet had first AF but have plenty of signs she is on her way, just want it over with so we can start again.

Welcome cosmic, sorry you are here, but you're in good company!

Had to do a Hollywood wax on a 38wk preggo lady today. Felt fine about it did consider pulling the wax off slowly for just a split second it's more people who would be the same as me that I get a bit loopy about!!

I'm on 5DPO and had a weeny streak of blood when I wiped and some slighty tinted CM yesterday. Too early for implantation I think and way too early for AF. Could it be from OV do you think?

Welcome cosmic. Sorry to hear about your mc and ttc journey - hopefully you'll have an easier time of it this go round.

Bugger missp!! Bugger bugger bugger. Enjoy the alcohol on the beach then.

Sal it could be implantation? 6-10 is average so 5 is only one day off that. Oooh fingers crossed!

My stupidly early af is a bit heavier than usual and I'm taking that as a good sign. I've been worried that my post-mc afs have been too light, so maybe this is a delayed clear out.
Nothing like positive thinking is there girls?

I agree sal, I've two friends due any day now and I'm fine with that and super excited. It's the two due in August when I was who are more painful to see

I had no bubbles induced ill effects this morning and even went for a run . Obviously didn't drink enough

Hi cosmic, and welcome. Sounds like you have had a long hard journey to here, hope we can give you some support.

I'm not really sure what the point is of having a Hollywood wax when you are 38 weeks?

Temp this morning suggests ovulation, so I'm not holding out much hope for this month unless DH's sperm can live three and a half days

hello to cosmic

sal I think it is possible to have implantation on 5 dpo. fc for you!

missp sorry to hear af got you

penguinita I imagine so you look nice for the midwives?

I'm currently on 11dpo and all signs are pointing to af. Hoping it's not really true, but its a lot harder to kid myself that af signs are preg signs now I know what pregnancy feels like .

I was horrified to hear from a doctor friend of mine that her gynae friends sometimes comment on women's grooming during childbirth. I was like, wtf? Surely they have better things to do than care if we've gotten a bit overly hairy.
I remain convinced that they were really talking about people with serious hygiene problems.
That friend of mine made sure she got waxed before the big day...
No doubt they commented on my hairiness, but I don't care. They had many more dramatic things to worry about in the end

You'd be surprised how many 'about to pop' ladies I have to do Brazilians or Hollywood waxes for. Maybe there is a hot Gynae type doctor here in Plymouth even more reason to get knocked up....

Ha ha - just read about the hairiness. I gave up waxing after 4 months pregnant as was sooooo painful. But I do recall with dc 1 getting out the Veet a couple of days before my due date. Plus I also de haired before my erpc. And painted my toe nails. And I've heard I'm not the only one!

Sorry you are here 'cosmic' ... Sounds like a long and sad journey for you. We are all here to listen and support. Big hugs.

sal I agree it could be implantation - you could have ov'd maybe earlier or 5 dpo is possible too!! Exciting!

missp am sorry af has turned up. Hope you are ok. Big hugs

So i was on the champagne today after aly's lead yesterday.... Good plan aly!

I can't believe docs would even consider it - maybe if they had hair right down to their knees or something, but surely the messier side of childbirth (yet to experience but most of my friends are doctors so heard all the stories...) would be worse than a few pubes?!

I had to take all my toenail varnish off before surgery fedup - my DH actually did it for me, which was an oddly sweet moment amongst all the crap. Thanks for adoption tips - I wonder if it's the same in Scotland? I've heard there are moves to make it easier, that would be great. I am scared about possibly starting the process - it sounds like an emotional minefield. I'm sure I'll be happily knocked up by Christmas though, must keep the positivity up!

Glass of whisky also helping positivity :-) About to go into fertile window, this is my least hated bit of the month. Feel I can actually be productive. My silver lining to the ectopic is that we've been doing our house up over the last 6 months, and still have no kitchen - won't until at least end of Sept. I was due in a month, what a nightmare that would have been - my first child and no kitchen...

Sorry AF has lynched so many people, it's such a kicker. Whistles therapy sounds a good idea! And maybe a dart board with a pic of that woman from the Tampax advert who pretends to be Mother Nature in the middle...

Oh yes, I had to remove my nail varnish too when I got there. Wasted effort! All a bit of a blur now..

So pleased you are feeling positive seaside and I'm with you on fertile being the least hardest time of the month. I start mine mid next week. Bring on the shagathon.

Ah just think what an ace house you will have at the end of this and new baby will have a lovely kitchen to wean in and splat food all over the place

Good plan re dart board, I like it!!

Maybe they don't like pubes because it makes it harder to do the stitches???
According to my mum, when I was born it was standard practice to shave you first thing when you came in to give birth. She hippied out and refused that, had to get a special dr and all. Also my dad had to have a letter on him at all times saying that he had the docs permission to be at the birth. Sounds like I was born in the 50s right? But no, I'm only 34

Hooray for champagne, whiskey and shagathons

Welcome cosmic. Sorry you find yourself here.

AF well and truly here. Painkillers hot water bottle and tmi but it's just lump of black clots. No red blood. Not sure what's going on but something isn't right. Started 10dpo and day 25 ( have never had such a shortperiod before).

trinpy hope AF dosen't get you. We need some good news to keep spirits up.

I have to admit I got a Good wax about 1 week before I had DD. To be honest I am not sure why I bothered as I had a big pile hanging out my bum as DD was a 10lb so I am sure the docs were too busy laughing at my misfortune to notice my "tidy garden".

Are those of you thinking about adoption looking locally or abroad? Not sure how it all works. My dad has two adopted siblings but I suspect it was a lot easier back then.

Missp we seem to be in synch - both very short abnormal cycles

alynat I remember my mum telling me about being shaved when she had me too. I'm amazed that they could actually do my Erpc through the undergrowth but the minute I got pregnant I was too sick to care about my bikini line! Now I don't want to speak too soon but I think I've stopped bleeding!! Had loads of pain and bleeding so dr gave me a "hefty dose" of antibiotics to try and shift infection before we go on holiday on next week. Fingers crossed - although the thought of a bikini with my no-longer-pregnant-but-lumpy-belly is not appealing - may have to think about the old bikini line too....

Seems really quiet on here today. Maybe everyone's too busy dtd Hope everyone is doing okay!

Yesterday my MIL decided to tell me she was talking to a lady "who also has one tube, it took her 9 years to have another baby" ...is that supposed to reassure me?! Grrr.

I got a very positive OPK today. It's almost 4 weeks since my surgery. I've made the decision not to wait for AF before ttc again. I'm sure people will disagree but I feel that I've got to go with what my heart/body is telling me and I just don't want to miss an opportunity. Physically I feel okay and emotionally all I want is to be pregnant! We've had unprotected sex twice now anyway so too late to go back! Been getting Ov pains on my right (tubeless side) though so not holding out too much hope.

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Welcome cosmic x

Welcome cosmic - sorry you are here too. Your story is pretty much same as mine - 15months ttc,mmc at 11wks. i'm now 3 weeks post erpc & am starting to feel a bit more positive. Here's hoping we get sticky beans soon.

overanxious - ikwym about not wanting to wait. I've not bothered with opk's this month but we have started ttc already. If the witch gets me this month I'll start in earnest with charting & opk's next time.

Fx'd

over, I think if you feel ready you should just go for it. I felt the same in cycle 0, it was only because I hadn't had a negative pregnancy test that I ended up waiting.

Not sure i could be bothered to get a bikini wax pre-birth, surely "letting it all hang out" is one of the bonuses of pregnancy . Although maybe the re growth would be less uncomfortable than shaving rash when things are a bit tender post birth

I downloaded the Fertlity Friend app today, I'd recommend it to anyone else that's temping. Especially as it says my ovulation day is three days earlier than I thought, which is a bonus as we then DTD twice in the fertile window. So maybe I have a chance this month after all!

over I would go for it too if you feel ready. Everyone's body is different and I've discovered that it doesn't matter what anyone else did / how quickly they got pregnant as my body has its own plan and recovery times.

penguin did you opk too? Ie did your opk say you ov'd later than your temps did? I was going to temp this month but now cd 6 so probably a bit late to try!

Ks78 that's great that you've finally stopped bleeding. Horaay!

Over sounds like a good plan to me. Reckon I'd do the same.

Penguin I too think fertility friend is great. Much better than the basic period tracker app that I was using previously.

Omama I'm glad that you're starting to feel a bit more positive

Hi Ladies

I wonder if I might ask your advice? I had an ERPC 5 weeks ago after a MMC at 10 weeks. We want to try again ASAP and have been DTD for the last few weeks but I have yet to see any sign of AF. I am getting -ve HPTs but my temps have not been telling me a lot as they are hovering mid range (somewhere between pre/post ovulation temps before MC) not going up or down. For the last week I have been having cramps and a bit of spotting (pinkish/brown blood) not a lot and have had a positive OPK last week but no temp rise for ovulation or drop for AF.

I am a bit confused....any advice? How long did it take you to get your AF back? Should I be concerned/seek medical advice?

Thanks

greenlizard I had a mc 4 weeks ago and have not had any sign of AF as yet. I was told 4-6 weeks by the doctors and from reading on the forum here, it can take longer. So I don't think you should be worried as yet. The bleeding could be implanation bleeding especially as you have been TTC since the mc and also ov last week. I hope that's the case - fingers crossed for you !

hi greenlizard if you had a positive opk last week that's a good sign. wait for 2 weeks after your positive and if AF still hasn't arrived then fingers crossed for a positive pg test.

I don't know about temps as i've only just started doing them, but I think that they can be a bit screwy post mc

Hi greenlizard. It might be that you've ovulated or that your body has tried to ovulate but not quite made it iyswim. keep dtd just in case. my doctor told me it can take up to 8 weeks for first period after mc.

Im now 13 dpo so expecting af any day now. I've been having cramps for a few days, and had a load of ewcm a couple of days ago (sorry if tmi) so I think the witch is on her way. On the plus side, I'm leaving my current job in 2 weeks and hoping to have a couple of weeks break before starting new job, so I should be nice and relaxed with plenty of time to dtd around ov time .