We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

alyant. I like your thinking. I stuck my bottom lip out and he said I can have both but not in same year.
Hope your feeling a bit happier. When is AF due. I am due on Tuesday. Not even bothering to do my usual symptom spotting. It's too depressing but am temping.

sal you really make me giggle - I do hope the syringe delivers.

I am really trying not to get pregnancy envy . I know it's just not my time yet and there is a special baby Just for us and i just have to wait my turn. How's that for positivity.

fedup excellent idea.

fedup just thinking it would be better than the I pad I bought me last time which I dropped on by head whilst trading in bed at hospital. Ended up going home with a baby and a black eye.

Ouch missp how did you drop an iPad on your head?! Impressive. And liking your postifrickintivity.

Just had a cry on the train this morning so am not in quite the same boat (or train rather)! Hormones a raging.

Congratulations Saggy - Amaaaaazing news! I knew you were!

Kat so sorry the nasty AF got you..... it's v hard to be positive when that happens. But as Aly said - I've got good vibes for you - I'm sure it won't be another three years.....

Whenever I get my AF I buy myself something from Whistles! It does actually work as a silver lining. I have to be quite vague with my husband about where it came from - fortunately he doesn't know the diff between H & M and Whistles.

I'm really sorry about all the NCT stuff - my friend is in the same boat at the mo with NCT and it really gets her down......

If I have one more friend that says to me 'we weren't even really trying that much' I might tell them to s** off! I wouldn't but I do in my head.

Nothing happening here apart from the usual cramps which were pretty bad yesterday. If this month is like the last few spotting could potentially start spotting in a few days time. I really hope it doesn't.

floh I love the retail therapy post AF. I might steal that from you too - whistles here I come !

rainbow yes we managed to DTD last night, DH was grumbling though - apparently i'm ov at the wrong time of the month (not his work !). Not quite sure now though whether it will be a 2ww or 3 or 4. Should I be expecting AF to arrive 2 weeks post ovulation, if its the first cycle post mc? Or it could come at almost anytime? How has it been like for other ladies on here?

trinpy your dream made me laugh !

ooh yes, a ring for pushing. perfect plan fedup

my AF is due sundayish but my temps took a bit of a nosedive this morning so now i'm feeling all miserable and convinced that I won't even make it that long. Boo!
Here's hoping for a miracle and that they start going up again tomorrow.

I was going to POAS on my first response test tomorrow morning but in the light of my low temps I think i'll just use one of the free cheapies that came with my bbt thermometer. In fact I don't know why i'm even thinking of doing that - except it's fertile friday so I have to join in! Plus I got 10 so i might as well start using them.

fingers crossed that AF doesn't show flohs and missp and me

right, i'm off to find out what Whistles is. Sounds like it might be my sort of silver lining

triplespin my first AF actually came a bit less than 2 wks after I think i ov.

ARGH!! i've gone mad.
just been checking out other people's charts on fertility friend to see whether or not my temp drop does mean that it's all over. verdict: drop wasn't enough to be conclusive either way.

I'm going to have to ban myself from my computer for the rest of the day

thanks alyant. lets hope mine comes sooner rather than later. the wait is agonising.

Why don't you go out and enjoy the sunny weather ! I am the same, can spend hours googling and symptom spotting. Thankfully DS keeps me busy enough that I can't be attached to comp for too long - otherwise i'd drive myself (and everyone else around me) mad.

Does anyone know of you can ovulate while still bleeding. I'm really fed up - two weeks tomorrow since my Erpc (or Eric as my phone likes to autocorrect to??) and I'm still bleeding. Not sure if I will ovulate now or once I've stopped bleeding - I know the ov sticks aren't reliable after miscarriage but I'm using them anyway - like to fool myself that I'm in control. Loving the retail therapy idea when Af arrives! I've got another dream to add to the list - the other night I dreamt that my womb fell out - I took it to the doctor and asked him to sew it back on...!

Ha ha - I also treat myself to Whistles stuff (and Monsoon and Boden...) when I get AF. It eases the pain. Plus they all have sales on right now so it would be rude not to indulge. I am sat in my classroom on Mumsnet instead of marking books. Feels v decadent!

I have just had to explain to my mum that my DS and I can't go and stay with her when we planned because I need to stay in London to have sex with my DP! She told me I was 'getting obsessive' which is probably true, I guess. But you never know. My luck must change sometime, eh?

Aly I LOVE fertility friend, I look at my chart and my chart from January when I got preggo at least 3 hundred times a day!

If we find each other on FF, we can obsess about each others charts....

haha badhair that must have been an awkward conversation.

ks78 I don't know about ovulating while bleeding. I tried to find the same thing out myself and never came up with a satisfactory answer. My guess would be after you stop but you never know.
My bleeding lasted for just over two weeks after my mmc and just under after my erpc... the last few days of both were more like spotting though.

triplespin good idea to get outside - i'm stuck at work though. not that a lot of work is getting done today . In fact I just popped out over lunch and in the spirit of retail therapy bought myself a nice new top in the john lewis sale. not that AF has arrived yet but I'm assuming that she will.

sal glad to hear that i'm not the only FF-obsessed loony in the house.

Badhair that really made me laugh! I would love to try that conversation with my mum.
Triplespin i figure I can count from ovulation re whether pregnant or not regardless of when AF due. I got BFP 10dpo before so I'll probably test the same stage this time even though its early - assuming its a Friday of course!

Sounds like a well dressed thread. I love Whisteles but sadly a bit too poor for shopping these days. Sale sounds tempting though....

Fingers crossed for Fertile Friday.

ah f*ck.
tiny bit of pink on wiping. 10/11 DPO that's way too late for implantation bleeding.
That's 4 full cycles post mc now, when previously i've got pg on the first cycle both times.

Do you reckon the GP will give me the time of day if i go and see them, or do you think i should wait another couple of months?? So worried that the mc has stuffed something up in there

alyant. It's not over yet. 10 days fine for implantation and a dip would signal that too. Hang on and test Sunday with a fish slap.

10 dpo is very common for ovulation. Don't lose hope just yet!

alyant i read avg is 9 dpo - so 10/11 seems reasonable. Don't give up yet. I know the natural reaction is to think the worst. Give it a few more days and then POAS. Good luck ! Seems like work is in a great location, if you have John Lewis close by.

rainbow so next Friday it is. I hope I last that long and AF does not make an appearance.

thanks for the reassurance guys but it's probably much better for my sanity if I assume the worst for now and don't get my hopes up. This is how AF started last time (but not quite so early).

I have found many charts on FF with a similar dip to mine but they were mostly all a bit earlier. I will find out tomorrow morning if it is indeed a dip anyway - maybe it will just stay low and confirm the worst.

I'm going to POAS tomorrow anyway even though i know it will be negative! Dont want to miss the chance for some POAS action on my free stick - it would be a crime NOT to POAS.

silver lining: off to latitude next weekend and it'll be much more fun if i'm allowed to drink a bit (not too much as DD will no doubt wake up in the tent at the crack of dawn. And that's EARLY these days...)

Don't POAS yet Aly. I did on day 11 and got a negative. You might get the wrong result! Hold out for a few days.

what dpo was your spotting saggy?

I don't know when I ovulated. It was days 20, 21 and 22 of an average 26 day cycle. So about 4 or 5 days before AF was due.

saggy huge congratulations! Fantastic news!

I've been away for a while, but logged on tonight and so much has been happening.

I'm in my fertile window and DH is away ......!!!! Very frustrated but have worked out that next month he will be on holiday (with me) in my next fertile window ... must get pregnant then because he goes away again after that!! May have to call on identical twin brother ....

Loving the Whistles and diamond rings talk, very good idea to get him to promise to give you a diamond ring on the day of the birth - perfect!

Think there is a sale on in Whistles right now...

{{{waves to newbies}}}} huge congrats to saggy again xxx

aly hang in there. Implantation happens 6 to 12 dpo so don't give up hope just yet. But I also know how you feel in terms of gearing yourself up for the worst. Then if its not af, even better, in fact - amazing! Hope you are ok. Big hugs xx ( plus I like any old excuse to POAS )