We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

Hurrah Saggy!!! I'm hoping to join you in your celebrations in approximately 12 days time!

Temp went up yesterday so obviously hopefully OV on Monday (day 16 - same as the month I got up duffed), did a quick squirt with a syringe last night as 'one for luck' and now looking forward to bits and bobs having a rest!

I kept going with the OV sticks this month and got 4 days of positives...WTF? Also had some spotting a few days before so now trying to convince myself its because loads of eggs were getting ready to pop out and I'll be rewarded with 3 babies in one hit!!

So the waiting begins......

3 at once. Now that is posifrickintivity!

sal i was just thinking about you earlier and wondering if project syringe was still going on. guess so!
3 at once sounds like a nightmare though, so I hope you've only got 2 on the go

white shorts badhair!? I'm never game to wear them, AF or not. I'm sure i'd sit in something disgusting.

We did 3 lots of syringe squirts this month. Bless him, DH put his back out on the final BD day and was laid up and piped up " I don't think I can sort you out babe, but I could kn

...knock one out if you like...."

Who says romance is dead...?

saggy. Excellent news

Ha ha sal that has made me laugh! Seriously though if you get a bfp this cycle I'm def getting my DH to 'knock one out' and deploy project syringe in our household.

White shorts - agree brave at the best of times. Today my skirt blew up in the wind and revealed my 'period pants' to all passers by. Can safely say no wolf whistles were received.

Think I'm up for a pity party thread. One where we can to vent, rant and moan which evil witch arrives without ruining the posifrickintivity of this one! Pimms welcome!

Was asked twice at work today the "you must be thinking about having a second child by now / isn't it about time you had # 2? J.O.Y.

Aaaaaaahhh Saggy i'm so happy for you! Christ you had me on tenterhooks catching up on this thread, i was desperate for you to POAS, and for the pages to load on my bloody phone!

Sal you just made me snort with laughter on the train (in the quiet coach) I think that actually is real life romance, your DH sounds a sweetie! I was impressed when mine agreed to SMEP.

We've agreed to start adoption process in new year if not knocked up by then. I know 6 months isnt long to give it, esp with only one tube, but i'm just not willing to wait 2 years. I feel like my life's on hold while we try for a kid-and it'll take so long to go through the process anyway. Then if i get up duffed during the process, we just hang fire.

Not been able to keep up to date for a few days- gutted for you Sapphire. So sorry.

Really happy for you saggy.

So sad to hear so many others aren't having any luck .

I had a dream last night that I poaclearbluedigi except I bought a German one and couldn't understand what the words said! So then I used a first response only to realise I'd accidentally used someone else's pee and the bfp was not my own. Random.

Im on 8 dpo and ashamed to say I am pinning all my hopes on conceiving this month. will not be testing for a while yet though as my cycles were averaging 6 weeks before mc. so could be another 3 weeks until af/bfp .

Out of interest, I just typed the German word that came up on the clearblue digi in my dream last night into google translate and it means...

delusion

How has this seeped into my subconscious???

trinpy that's both funny and ironic!

Glad it's not only me that has totally nuts dreams - but weird dreams are also an occurrence in pregnancy so you might not be so deluded!!

I aim for the utmost drama Seaside! I always was a drama queen!
Trin weird dreams are a good sign!

Well I am out, AF arrived this morning, with a vengeance, feel rubbish. Will teach me for being so convinced with no real evidence!

I have loads of work to do over the next few days and am feeling really fed up, looking forward to the end of term which will coincide with the fertile period, hopefully now DH will think it is ok to start trying, even though he is still not having any luck with the jobs. He was quite disappointed this morning too I think.

And saggy thanks for the hugs and understanding of jealousy and miserableness if others bfps. I'm in a group of friends of 4 - all due the same time as I was, and I'm really happy -and insanely jealous that all of their pregnancies are fine and in a couple of months they will all have bouncing babies and I will no doubt still be sobbing over bfns and blood stained bed sheets. Sorry - the posifrickintivity is lacking.

I so want to just forget it, see what happens but I can't. Im sucked into a world of SMEP, pre-seed, dates, bfns, abbreviations galore and disappointment.

However I know I will pick up and stop being so down... Just hope it's soon. Do you reckon posifrickintivity can be sold in some form of pill or injection? If so, I need it!

Are you really thinking of adopting Seaside? Do you mind if I ask how long you have been trying for after losing a tube? I have been trying since February. Got pregnant in March but lost the baby over Easter Weekend with an early miscarriage. I have secretly decided we'll try until Christmas then go down the IVF route. I'm 37 now so don't want to leave it too late. It still feels weird when I type that. I'm only 24 in my mind!

That's quite encouraging to hear that you got pg so quickly after losing a tube bighair, though so rubbish it ended in MC. It makes me more hopeful. We tried for 2 months, then had 2 months off because i started losing my mind, then the first month has just passed. I know it's really not long to wait, but i've always intended to have just the one child myself and adopt the rest-and amazingly DH's on board. So I'm thinking we might just turn the timing on its head, adopt first and get pg when it happens. I just find the waiting and hoping so draining, and i feel my life's in limbo-it affects my future plans, my career path etc. I'm 26 and a journalist, so i' trying to make plans based on kids that are taking their time to appear...I understand how you feel, that docs will say it's too early to be worrying about IVf/adopting, but you arent willing to hand around. Sometimes their timescales dont take people's actual lives into account! Will you have to go private?

Fedup I could have gone to lunch today with my nct buddies, all of whom are preggo again. But I just couldn't go and face their bumps :( I should have been further along than all of them. So rubbish.
Anyway I feel quite selfish for not going but after a positive day yesterday I was feeling really down today. On the way back up though! I've got my silver lining planned out for if when af arrives on the weekend.

Missmakes that's really rubbish :( but if you had got preggo with those dates I'd have been floored!

Trinpy: hilarious! Wunderbar! The brain really is an amazing thing isn't it?

Sal, hahaha. You make me laugh so much

'Hang' around! Typing on phone and walking! Sorry for huge post!

aly - all my NCT are too and exactly the same as you, mine was due first. I haven't seem them in weeks and really don't think they understand how hard it is for me / why I feel like I do.. Once we were all in the same place in our lives, and now they are moving on to a place i so desperately want to be. Ugh.

Sorry missmakes af got you. I'm with you on the disappointment. Big hugs

seaside local authorities have recently been given gov grants to help recruit new adopters and improve the system so it's quicker, less painful and more likely to lead to matching. I'm thinking about it too as work in a world when I see and hear about so many kids without loving families and we have a lot of love to give so why not. And if I have another child naturally then bonus.

Yeah - I reckon so, Seaside But I inherited a little bit of money when my Dad died so could kind of afford it. I could certainly justify the expense, anyway! I would really like two more children which seems like an impossible dream right now but am ever hopeful. I know what you mean about feeling drained from waiting and hoping though. But I'm determined to make the most of NOT being pregnant over the summer - including wearing my white shorts when AF has vanished....!

Fedup - I hear you re. feeling envy for all of the pregnant friends. I met a mate I hadn't seen for ages who had a baby last month and fell pregnant first time coming off the pill after 15 years and conceived on her honeymoon. She kept saying 'I can't believe how easy it is'. She was then mortified when I mentioned my own experiences and those of others I know. Our time will come. I wish so much we could all get our BFPs next cycle. Until then, am keeping positive!

DEFINATELY rock those white shorts bad hair. It's F you to af if anything!

I have medical insurance at work that have been Paying for for god knows how long. If I get past 6 months of ttc post this miscarriage am so going down that route.

I so want two more kids too. Keep dreaming of my big family. That's why I'm considering adoption if ttc fails.

DP has just informed I have a decision to make.

1/ a diamond ring. Ooohhh!!!!!!!!
2/ another baby

What do you think me answer was?????

Yey saggy am so pleased for you!

Xx

Ooooh missp!!
Your answer was of course 3. All of the above

A diamond ring once you pushed the baby out?!