Hoping for a May BFP?

[curiousgeorgie]

Had a search for a may BFP thread and couldn't see one (please correct me if there is!) so thought I'd start one..

curiousgeorgie - TTC #2 - Testing April 29th

Anyone with me?

Crafty - Ooh, spooky, but a good omen

Winkle - We're the same, both like a few [wines] tho by Irish standards we're pretty well behaved now we have DS to look after and jobs to go to lol Far cry from the student days, eh? Anyway, think I said in an earlier post, your woman Zita West reckons it takes 3 months for any diet / smoking changes to affect your OH's swimmers, so if you guys do decide to go tee total bear in mind this is more of a long term ttc strategy, you might not get immediate results so is it worth the stress of nagging putting gentle pressure on him to quit both and having to live with an angry bear a gentleman who is experiencing withdrawal symptoms? That being said, though, obv when you get preg you'll be off the smokes and til after the LO arrives and if you're anything like me you'll be expecting your OH to keep you company in soberville, so mightn't be a bad idea to just embrace the abstinence approach now anyway?

Right all, night night, i'm away to bed with a for some dtd and a read at my book (hopefully after rather than during but such is my multitasking mind!)

But 3 months of no drinking is SO BORING!

I think my hubs is annoyed with me! He's had a bottle of beer and 3 cans. He went to have another can and I said no to him. Is that fair? He's got a friend coming to stay this weekend so he'll be drinking tomorrow night, Saturday and maybe have 1 or 2 on Sunday. I think that's too much when we're TTC, what do others think?

for Stephie

Winkle
Dh does like the odd drink or three, four or five. He generally has a drink about 3 or 4 times a week. Don't think you were out of order stopping him. Four nights is quite a lot, espec when ttc.

Oooh. It's testing day today for some people. Good luck!

I am indulging in a touch of light symptom spotting, anyone care to join me? Been to salsa (been dancing for years) & had to leave early as I was almost sick. Saying that same thing did happen a few years ago & definitely wasn't pregnant then. Felt much better after getting home, toast & marmite.

Interesting to read about everyone else's lifestyle. Would love to know how much caffeine you ladies are having? I am a healthy weight, pretty much tee total & non smoker BUT do have a caffeine habit. At least 4 filter coffees a day (each has 2 shots), 1 can of diet coke & at least one cup of tea. Ummmm..sounds even worse written down!

Well I tested and its inconclusive tbh. The faintest of lines was there, you could hardly see it and only in a really bright room. I'm not going to assume anything at this stage after what I went through last time. It may be an evap line or it may be that its just too Damn early. Will test again Monday or Tuesday and hopefully get a clear result.

Anyone else tested yet?

too I am a coffee addict! We have fresh filter coffee every morning. However, I have changed to decaff for later in the day. I also drink a couple of cans of diet coke a week. So quite a bit if caffeine here too.

winkle I'm teetotal (practically) at the moment and don't smoke. Dh has one or two beers a week atm, although not always. Not much as we don't go out much at the moment.

Morecoffee- a faint line you say? I like the sound of that! When we're you due to test? Fingers crossed for you!! X
Have a nice day everyone x

Due to test either Monday or Tuesday so quite early today.

The last time I had a bfp it amounted to nothing and seems it was a very rare false positive. So I'm going to take it easy for the next few days (even though I have to work) and test again Monday.

@morecoffee - thats annoying but I did read somewhere that even with the FRER tests that they only give u an accurate early response about 45% of the time and as some ladies on that thread pointed out, u might as well just flip a coin and save yourself £9 with those odds but if ur not due to test until next week, hopefully there will be a better response for u then...

@breathless - i've really cut back on caffeine since we started ttc last month, another zita west order tip! But its mostly because strong coffee has been 'possibly' linked to risk of early stage miscarriage, and I lost a baby when I was only 5-6 weeks preg a few years back before DS so im a bit paranoid. In saying that me and DH were in rome for the wkend a couple.of days before I realised I was preg with DS so I wasnt stinting on the wine, espresso & unpasteurised cheese and he turned out fine, so I dont know... But i've cut back to only one coffee a day anyway

@winkle - I hear ya! Boring! And who wants to be the nagging wife?? Theres two.schools of thought, one that says less stress, less arguments, more chance of BFP, another that says if u are serious about ttc u should be doing everything to giv yrself best poss chance before u hav to consider med intervention/fertility treatment. Im a bit more inclined to.stick with the.former, supplement with vitamins, cut back rather than cut out completely and hope for the.best....

Good luck anyone poas today woo hoo!

Thanks all. Hubs says having a baby is the most important thing to him but then he reaches for another beer! And then he says it's only one. Er no it isn't it's one on top of the 4 you've already had!

I did say to him that if you knew your mate was here all weekend why drink the night before on your own?!

Argghhhh

Sorry girls this has turned into me ranting!

Morecoffee - a line is a line! I really hope it gets darker!

Mild cramping here but that's more to do with me eating crap the last few days I think!

LittleMiss no post baby hormones i'm ttc first lol but i have been on a mini pill for 3 years

Crafty I've no idea what my cycle will do next - maybe i could still be in with a chance for May

Winkle good idea for wknd - a few drinks will be fine i'm sure. Ur question about the smoking & drinking - DH doesn't drink at all total caffeine head though. We both gave up smoking as soon as we ttc, i drink very little (more so lately) 1 glass last week, i had been going months without. That hasn't always been the case for me & DH we used to drink bottles and bottles of wine a week and smoke around 10-15 each a day!

Anyway ladies i may be out but i'm not down questionable, and i will still be eagerly waiting for all of those BFPs!!

No POAS for me AF got me :( But that doesn't rule me out for a BFP in late May so I'm not going anywhere

Sorry to here that dexi, but like you say, there's still a chance for end of may. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks

I hope your weekend wait passes swiftly

I think I ovulated around th 13th April as I had loads of, sorry TMI WARNING, ewcm that day. I think we dtd 12th, twice on 13th, 14th and 15th. So if ewcm came on the 13th throughout the day, when would I have ovulated? Also, how many days post Ov should you be able to start seeing a result? If I Ov on 13th, I am now about 14 days post ovulation. I've been feeling queesy but think thats more anxiety about whether I'm getting my hopes up or not.

I'm tempted to test again tomorrow, but I am worried it will be a bfn. At the moment I'm happy with a bfmaybe. On the other hand I need to know as I have to stop work immediately due to risks associated with my job and won't be able to see out my notice.

More coffee - fingers crossed for you! A line is a line (usually :p)

I've been getting brown spotting this morning, and my period isn't due till Tuesday. I had this in my last pregnancy and then went on to miscarry so not holding out any hope, as didn't have it with my daughter....

Anyone had this?

Sorry Dexi :(

Dexi - gutted

morecoffee a faint line sounds good!!! But we won't get the banners out until it's a proper, no doubt BFP.

Georgie spotting 4 days before AF due also sounds good, could be some implantation going on in there....fingers crossed

winkle, it's really frustrating when you feel like DP isn't quite as engaged with the whole TTC as you are. You know he wants a baby and he's well on board with the trying and taking vits and stuff but you also know don't think he'd be willing to completely change his life. But then would you? I don't think I would. You could give up everything you like, only eat goji beans and quinoa, waste years of your life avoiding fun stuff and still not end up PG. It's got to be a balance, hasn't it? Cut down on the things that are known to hamper conception but don't give up all the things you get any enjoyment out of just because there's a chance it might affect getting pregnant. Most important of all though is to have sex and then have some more and then some more!!

Dexi - sorry she got you

Rue - you are right. he is totally on board with this apart from the drinking so I should cut him some slack.

Girls, I caved and tested. BF fricking N :( I'm so sick of this. I know I can go out tonight and drink wine now but I don't want to drink wine, I want a baby!

I see people around me ? including members of my own family ? getting pregnant really easily and then bringing them up, what I would call, in the wrong way yet me and hubs who are so good with kids and have planned how we will bring our kids up get nothing?! Maybe this is payback for me judging other people's parenting techniques :(

winkle its not over yet. I feel your pain. There is still a chance, you may just need to leave it a few more days. And I'm guessing you didn't use fmu? It may just be too early to show up. I would leave it a few days and test again.{{{{{hugs}}}}} x

Oh, and it is certainly not pay back. Don't think like that. When is AF due?

I was in tears at my desk and then the phone rang and I had to get back into work mode. :(

I didn't use FMU, its cause my mate was talking about going out tonight and I didn't want to drink loads of wine and be preg.

Af is due next Tues if you go by my average cycle, Sunday if you go by my shortest cycle and NEXT Sunday if you go by my longest cycle!!!

I got my smiley on day 16 last cycle and it was a 30 day cycle. I got my smiley on CD16 again this cycle so I'm presuming I'll have another 30 day cycle which is Tues.

I think too much!

Oh winkle that's awful, at work as well. But like you say, AF is still not due for a few days so it may not be showing up yet. And you.need fmu for anything to show up when testing early. I would air on the side of caution and take it easy just in case if it was me. When do you think you will test again? Please don't feel too down. There's still plenty of hope for this cycle to be the one for you x

Winkle

Really feel for you. I haven't given up on you get though, is very early days still.

Steph and dexi .. Gutted that af got you both. It is still possible to get a may Bfp so do stick around.

Morecoffee .. Was last time not a chem preg rather than false positive? If you saw a line today then that is a good sign. Doing very quiet cheers to not jinx you!!

I am counting the days to testing ... 11 to go. Busy weekend ahead and that takes me into single figures for waiting. I am going to be gutted if this is a no this month. I know it is not acceptable to say but I AM replacing the baby I lost as I feel robbed, cheated and frustrated. I should be 17 weeks and am not happy with the universe until this blip is corrected.

In terms of lifestyle, I have never smoked, I am small and a reasonable weight, have a very small glass of wine about 5 times a week but have not been drunk for 8 years. My hen do 2004, I still have 'Nam like flash backs....