Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 12)

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A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

For reference here's a link back to the previous thread

Latest stats to follow in a moment!

hadrian I vote YES to testing too. I am afraid getting all obsessed about it is a horrible post mc rite of passage. We have all been there, in my view if you fight it it only gets worse! Things do settle down later - err sort of...

Good luck!

MummyA, i assume you are abroad? Where are you?

Just being nosey!

Hadrian I also think test if you're mentalling that much already, as long as you don't feel like a BFN is going to throw you in the pit of dipair. TBH there are lots of reasons why (although a BFP would be fab!) a BFN wouldn't be so bad for you either - going on hols, you can relax, have a drink, take a bit more time to get over the shock of the MC etc. Hugs x

BOA huugs to you too lovely, you sound so down.

Dachs how are you doing today? Any more spotting? Are you managing to stay calm(ish)?

Lili welsome to this wonderful thread! These ladies have been keeping me sane these last 5 months and are amazing!

Mouse hope it went as okay as possible today and you are getting all the support you need. I'm thinking of you xxx

Nix, Owl - yep am going to stop stressing for at least 24 hours!!! I read DH your comments and he threatened to log on here as Mr Wombat and tell you all that he wholeheartedly agrees with you but that I don't listen to him, only to you lot!!

Orange I think the only reason they gave so many details at this scan was that it was a private one that we were paying for. Also, totally unexpectedly, they said they would do a free follow-up scan in up to 10 days' time. Not to go into so much detail but to check there is still a HB. So I have another booked for Monday 7 Feb!

Hugs to Cep, Emoo, Collie, Izzy, mummya (I'm still grinning for your 5 uterus!!), Lily, yrmotb, HK, Chloe* and anyone else I've missed!!

Thanks all for your good wishes. i'm still in shock

Oh I missed Velvet!

collie I live in Costa Rica. Its lovely and sunny but the medical care isnt up to much!

OK it's a BFN - I deserve a thorough slapping with the slipperiest kipper you can find.

Right then, am going to stop obsessing, stop imagining symptoms, have a fabulous holiday in Thailand and start all over again when I get back. Bring on the buckets of whisky and coke.

Thanks for the four leave clover mummya - think I'd better pass it back to you!

wombat you must be so happy. How wonderful that it's all working out

womby really pleased your scan went well. Good little wombybean! :)

Still spotting at least once a day (brown sludgy, not red or pink). I'm mentalling like crazy and I don't think this one's going to stick :(

wow 4 pages already!!

Thanks Knitter for the new home - sorry it took me soooo long - I've been dragging this comfy sofa around, having it blessed by all the fertility goddesses I can find. Old timers take a seat!

Fab news on the bean Wombat

Was taken aback at work today - my "work best friend" who has always made it quite clear she doesnt want kids yet told me today she has come off the pill and they are seeing what happens. I just KNOW she'll be updiffed before me :(

Dachs as everyone said, brown is ok and normalish this early :)

Hi to the new people - sorry for your losses

hadrian that's the spirit. Go and relax and enjoy yourself.

dachs brown is old hon, just rest and relax. fx crossed for you.

Dachs hugs - I know all too well how that worrying feells xxx

Velvet uck - that must have been a bit of a shock. On the 'bright' side - at least you've got some advance warning if she does announce she pg (and there's absolutely no reason why it shouldn't be your turn first!) xxx

Hardian noo way am I going to fish slap you when I encouraged you to test. Relax and enjoy your hols!!!

Dachs i know this wont reassure you in any way whatsoever, but both wombo and I have had brown sludgy stuff and been ok. (and look at what orange has had to endure... it goes to show that you just never ever can tell xxxx (((hugs))) though cos its frightening regardless :(

Just checking in quickly. Hcg is good and progesterone is good. Am five+6 today, scan next Friday at six weeks. Still taking things a step at a time and am doing a visioning board to stop me from feeling negative.

HI ladies, first things first, congratulations wombat I'm thrilled for you xx

Today went as well as it could but I didn't get discharged until 4.30pm as my blood pressure was v low. I'm ok now though and have decided to ask the gp to sign me off for at least next week. I got upset as they wheeled me down as I knew it would be the last time I'd be with my baby but the staff at the hospital have all been fab.

Right, DH is making tea and I think I'll have a look online for a summer holiday...

mousebacon so glad you are signed off for next week. I'm a teacher too so I know the pressure you are under.

hairy glad to hear you are doing well

Have been reading all the comments and support given and would love to join thread too. TTC # 2, Cycle 3, 3/4 MC (dr's can't decide)UCL 28. As its soooooooooooooo much effort persuading my DH to have sex every couple of days in fertile bit of cycle have resorted to the peeing on a stick route so now he only has to perform twice a month. Got a smiley face this morning and am watching him fall asleep in his favourite pit on the sofa now so the pressure's on to rev him up! Having s..t time at work too, was doing shift work then was put in an office environment after 3rd M/C, found out yesterday they want to send me back to shift work so have been stressing beyond belief about that which is the last thing I need. Don't want to go sick as I'll have too much time to wallow in self-pity at home obsessing about BFP and staying PG.

Dachs I also had the brown spotting - which seems to be far, far more common than I think any of us had realised beforehand. Positive thoughts, my lovely x

Mouse so glad you've got some time off work and also that you've been well treated at the hospital, hope you are feeling much better very soon.

Hairy Great news on the hcg :) I found drawing pie charts helped me be more rational, odd though that may sound :)

Hadrian Am v.jealous of your lovely holiday! Hope you have a fantastic relaxing time with your DH and ENJOY the buckets of whiskey and coke - I had banana pancakes out there and they were v.v.nice

Big hug to BOA

Waves to Mr Wombat hope he realises you don't listen to us lot either? Hehehe.

Pooch Hi, welcome. I'm new too. Sorry to hear about your work. I think stress at work is the last thing you need at this time. I totally understand. I work for a primary care trust and it couldn't be a more turbulant time. I've never seen such an industrial scale reorganisation and its sooo stressful worrying about if i'll have a job, trying to prove my worth and desperately wanting that BFP but wondering what will happen if i do!! Aghhhh

Hairy, seen you in mc threads so glad to hear your fab news and that your doing well

Hadrian sorry for your BFN. Enjoy your holiday though and take the time to relax. Sometimes thats all it takes.

I'm a bit fed up. My dh has been away in the states for 12 days. He's supposed to be back home tomorrow and its sodding snowing in philadelphia and his flight keeps getting delayed. Last time they were out there it took 3 days to get home Stupid weather!!

Hello all!

Welcome to the newbies, sorry for your losses and that you find your way here. Its a lovely reassuring place to be in the circumstances though.

Erm ok trying to remember what's been going on.....

owly what are your pie charts of?? Do tell, you know I'm a big geek too and anything to stop me from being quite so deranged will be gratefully received!

hairy fab news about the BFP! I'd missed that news! What's a vision board? It sounds good-again, anything I can chuck into the Positivity plan will be v helpful!!

Hadrian sorry about BFN, prob worth doing one again with morning wee before holiday, just to be on the safe side

izz good work on booking up the weekly acu appointments. That's what I've been doing and although it burns through the cash I genuinely think it's made a massive difference.

velvet huge hugs hun, I know EXACTLY what you mean. We've got really good mates who we see at least once a week who proudly announced they are now trying for a baby a month ago or so-I had a complete mentalling fit when I got home and DH was cross with me because he said it's not a race and it doesn't actually affect me but for some reason it really got to me. It's like they're so arrogant to assume it's going to go so smoothly and easily they are announcing trying as if they have as good as got a
baby in their arms.... I'm not telling them about the BFP this time-I did before and she told me with great glee about how I had a 1 in 3 chance of it all going horribly wrong-thanks for that, like I needed
reminding...

Has anyone seen Kat?

YRMOTB how are you doing today?

mousey glad today went ok under the circumstances. I'm glad you've got a week off-see how you're doing towards the end of the week and get signed off again if you're not ready to go back.

pooch sorry you've had such a hard time of it. The shift work thing sounds like a heap of extra pressure :(

mouse just wanted to pop by to say I am really sorry to hear your sad news. Its so hard to deal with, especially so soon after your first MC. Your boss is being an absolute tit, suregery aside, losing a baby is not something you just get over in a few days. Take as much time as you need, your GP will support you. Don't give up hope either, I know when it happens again all sorts of thoughts go through your head. I had 2 MMCs within 7 months and now have happily reached 24 weeks - you will get there too. Take care pal.

Womabt that's bloody great news!! We'll keep a spot for you on the grads thread for when you're ready. Go Wombatbean!!

Dachs hope there's no more spotting and you are staying positive.

Happy new thread lassies, hope its a good one with many a BFP for you x

cep I haven't had my AF yet so definitely on the what the fuck cycle! I'm thinking if my AF hasn't arrived in the next 2 weeks I'll take a test then.

Mummyabroad & Emoo Yes took a test on the 9th Jan and it was negative so I guess that means all hormones are gone and I'm good to go!

Thank you to everyone for all the welcoming messages I'm feeling better already! Wishing us all the best of luck :)

wombat fab news.

Sorry ladies...needing some time away at the moment. Stuff going on at home / work / etc is occupying my mind and time. Still clinging on to positivity but I think I need to keep myself in the real world a bit more at the moment. Won't be forever, just reading a few too many - "had heartbeat then it died" messages recently, and need to concentrate on possibility of it working this time.

Good luck for those testing in the next week or so (I'm sure I'll be back after that - can't stay away)

9 dpo?! Hope you've got a good stock of cheapie peesticks! Fx one of them's a bfp before next week!

mouse glad you are home safe. Look after yourself and gets lots of tlc from those around you.

pooch welcome to the thread and sorry for your loss. You will find lots of support here. There are a few of us with only intermittently cooperative men, so you are not alone.

mummya and Hadrian - sorry about the bfns. I am afraid I have been mentalling all day too. I had been trying really hard not to poas, but when I saw that you two had, I couldn't hold out any longer! Guess what - bfn. Aaaaarrrrgggghhhhh

In other news, my friend had a baby boy this morning and I seem to be fine with it so far. And dd little sod has decorated the radiator with pink nail varnish.

Day off and I'm lying awake at an ungodly hour! Dh flight delayed, but at least it took off!! Yay. Sorry, just missed him lots and need him to ttc

I POAN last night. Realised from your posts I should have taken a test for BFN after my mc, which I got.. . I know it's a good thing as it means things are settling down, but it really sucked!!

Sorry for being me me me. Just needed to get that off my chest.

Hoping everyone has a good day today! Xx

Good Morning lovelies!!

Havent been in all week. Hope theres some good luck for everyone in this shiny new thread.

Dachs I´ve missed your progress over last week or so.....fingers x

Just thought Id update my stats too, as AF was here last weekend. Still TTLW (trying to lose weight) rather than TTC. Its going well so far. Today Im knackered after zumba last night. Painfull!!!!!

FRIDAYS LIST

BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26 WTF cycle CD41?
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD34
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD31 BFP!
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD32
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD31
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD30
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD25
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 1 UCL24-28 CD22
Chloe55 TTC #2,cycle5 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD21
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD20
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 6 UCL28-32 CD14
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle? UCL28-32 CD13
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 CD 9
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, CD8
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 7 UCL 24-30 CD7
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 UCL26-28, CD7
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle6 UCL35-38,CD5
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD4

WTTC
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Dec 2010

MIA
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

RECENT BFP's
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27
Owlbooty TTC#1, cycle 5
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov