Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 12)

[KnitterNotTwitter]

A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

For reference here's a link back to the previous thread

Latest stats to follow in a moment!

hi cep just seen your chart, I retract my statement about having ov'd! Your explanation seems more reasonable, I guess you will just have to watch and wait.

Just nipping in to do a whoop for Wombat Bean!!! My hospital don't measure heart rate before 12 weeks, only tell you if it looks 'normal' or not

Will you now wait until 12 week scan?

but i want to know now!!!!!!!!

[bgrin]

WOMBAT BEAN!

Fabulous news missus, am DELIGHTED for you

Now ffs allow yourself one day at least of being stress-free

MummyA step away from the peesticks! You know it's wrong!

Hooooorrrrraaaayyyyy Wombat - excellent news!

Thanks for the info on temps, I had in my head that 37 was normal for some reason. Only tracked it for 3 days. Don't ov every cycle and I'm currently on day 37 (UCL 29) so guess that could all tie up. Have signed up to FF and been reading and inputting data. If I've done it right it should be here.

MummyA I think we're all guilty of that, so don't beat yourself up. x

Thanks, Chloe, I can't understand why we aren't being monitored yet others have 3 scans a month plus bloods. Postcodes I guess

Hi Ladies

You all seem very friendly on here and I was wondering if I could join you?

I found out I'd lost my baby on 23 Dec. I had an Erpoc on 30 Dec and now feel ready to start TTC.

There's something comforting about talking to others who are TTC after miscarriage.

I'm actually hoping I'll be one of the lucky ones and get pg straight away, although it took 3 months to conceive DD and my last pg.

As I've only recently had Erpoc I don't know what cycle I'm on and so don't know when to do a test. My UCL before miscarriage was 34 days!

YAY!!!!!!!!!!! Go, WombatBean !!!!!

Woop woop wombat!

Yes mummya, I'll change them if I get on a PC today

YRMOTB on it!

THURSDAYS LIST

BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26 WTF cycle CD40?
ochaye TTC#3 cycle WTF UCL 31 CD33
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD30 BFP!
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, CD32
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27 CD31
Kat2504 ttc#1 cycle 5 ucl28, CD29
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 1 (Post AS Op)) UCL? CD24
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 1 UCL24-28 CD21
Chloe55 TTC #2,cycle5 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD20
knitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD19
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 6 UCL28-32 CD13
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle? UCL28-32 CD12
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 CD8
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, CD7
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 7 UCL 24-30 CD6
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 2 postMC#2 UCL26-28, CD6
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle6 UCL35-38,CD4
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 5 UCL33 CD3

WTTC
Barrenbrook TTC#1, MC#4 Oct 2010
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, WTF cycle
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Dec 2010

MIA
Sarahmia TTC#2, MC2
Batteryhen MC conf Oct 2010
Nurse47 TTC#2, UCL28, WTF cycle ERPC 9 Nov
Mamafoof TTC#2, MC#1 Nov 2010, WTF cycle

RECENT BFP's
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
LadyBee TTC#2, cycle 5 (round 3) UCL27 CD27
Owlbooty TTC#1, cycle 5
Nickstermum TTC#2 cycle 2 post MC UCL 30-40
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August
PenguinsMummy BFP 15th August
VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov

hi lili Welcome to the thread, sorry you have to be here. What a horrible thing just before xmas. If you haven't yet had your af (period) your on what we call the what the fuck cycle as it's all unknown. If you have had your af and are now on cycle 1 you're like me and learning as i go along. You'll find the ladies on here very helpful and full of knowledge.

Fantastic news WombatBean you must be thrilled and relieved!!

MummyA thanks for the explanation of WTF, that makes perfect sense and completley summs up how i'm feeling right now!
I also cannot slap you, as i would also have to slap myself. I've been peeing on an ov stick every day for a week!! And nothing!!!!

Did anyone else have a long cycle b4 mc? mine was 40/41 days. Technically i still have a week until AF is due, but all the signs are all over the place. What was other peoples experiences??

Hi Lili, welcome. Sorry for your loss. I only joined last night but everyone's really lovely and welcoming. I mc in Dec also. Found out on Dec 20 and mc Dec 28 [SAD]. Glad you are feeling ready to ttc again. fingers crossed for you. xx

collie my ucl was anything between 24 -28, and i have never had a positive ov stick, maybe i have a short surge or something. My last af was very similar to what i had before ds so thought it had gone back to how it was 2-3 yrs ago. but seem to be getting ready for af now so is a really short one again.

Hi lili8 very sorry for your loss. Hope you are not here too long, meant in the best possible way! Have you done a HPT to make sure the pregnancy hormones have left your body (ie. got a negative?)

collie I used a record amount of HPT's in my WTF cycle! Getting to 9DPO is a bit of an achievement! (have you discovered the cheap ones on Amazon?) My cycle pre mc was normal.

mummya you made be lol. Glad i'm not on my own in my ocd use of them!! Thanks for the link, i've got mine off ebay - similar price, but a still could be a small fortune the way i go through them!!

cep i'm sorry yours are all over the place too. Its so frustating. I know the HTPs work for me as we used them when ttc the first time. Having said that we were lucky after 1 month, hence i know absolutely nothing about ttc!!

I'm on a mission now though!!

i was lucky after 2 months with ds. took about 6 - 8 months with last pg. When i bought my sticks aug and oct i paid 2.99 for 25 with a choice of either pg or ov tests. just had a look and couldn't see the shop i used to buy it off and now so long ago ebay won't show me my bought list from then. Have to admit though as i haven't had a positive yet i'm giving up with them when i've finished my last lot.

It does become a bit obsessive, i do ff and end up going on several times a day to look, no idea why it's not going to change while i'm off it.

YEY Wombo Bean....whoop!!! Right mrs.... pep talk time!!!!

Feet up, try and relax.... and seconding owlmummytobe stress free day

Yes owl you are a mummy to be...

Collie - don't worry - ask whatever questions you like! I had a very long cycle pre-DD, and once I started temping I realised that stress always significantly delayed my ovulation. Since then I have chilled out, obviously! The temping sometimes helps with working out what you are doing with your cycle, but as cep will tell you, it takes a while to get into the swing of things and work out what your body normally does. From your chart, cep, I think your temps might be too erratic this month to be interpreted sensibly - if you're confident you saw EWCM, I'd use CD14 as a guesstimate of ovulation. I did stop temping for years after DD, and the disappearance of EW was always a good predictor of when to expect my period.

Lily, cep - I'd recommend nosying round the FF chart gallery, to get an idea of the sorts of patterns different people get in different circumstances, and how varied people's "normal" temp is.

Knitter - that sounds like a really positive outcome of your complaint. I got the impression (from when Emoochick was in the neonatal unit) that the doctors/nurses appreciate complaints/feedback about the system not working, because it gives them ammunition to use to improve funding/services that they have wanted for ages anyway.

YRMOTB - thanks for the kind comment on my chart, and good luck with the SMEP! I remember being very proud of DD when the stabilisers came off... didn't last long though... ended up mopping up scraped knee shortly after! Our age gap will now be at least 8 years, so I know how you're feeling a bit.

HK - glad you're hanging in there - when is your next significant date? Scan?

MummyA - tiny wee haddock for you - 9dpo is only a squidgim too early... hope you get your BFP in a few days!

Wombat - huge congrats on Wombat Bean!!! [bgrin] [bgrin] [bgrin]

Lili - ooh it's going to get confusing with a whole bunch of lilies around here... So sorry for your loss, but glad you feel ready to start again. I'd also recommend doing a pregnancy test now to make sure it has turned negative so you save yourself stress and confusion later on if you do get pg again quickly.

Hey guys, just popping on to mark the thread. Feeling a bit low but won't go into it.
So happy for you wombat
And so pleased for you mummya that you are scar tissue free...
mouse so very sorry for your loss
fx for you dachs

to everyone a big wave

emoo thanks, i'm having a look now.

boa sorry you're feeling so low today.

OK ladies get your kippers ready. I am doing some grade A mentalling.

Here is my story so far:
MC started on Christmas Eve.
I got a negative pg test on 12th Jan.
Randomly on the 13th Jan I decided to pee on a Clear Blue ov stick and got a smiley face.
Also on the 13th Jan I had my final MC follow-up appointment at the hospital. The doctor told me I was all clear but not ovulating, although she could see some 'healthy activity' in my ovaries.
13th-21st Jan some cautious SWI
Nothing since then...except the odd moment of nausea and a funny metallic taste in my mouth from time to time. Which could well be the product of an over-obsessive mind.

So shall I POAS?

A BFP would be amazing but feels so unlikely...and if I'm honest I'm pretty anxious about the thought of being pg and potentially going through all the horror of MC again. A BFN would make me sad but then I'm going to Thailand next weekend and it would be good to go knowing I can relax and have a good time and make a fresh start when I get back.

What should I do? Should I wait for a few more days? I feel as though TTC is dominating my life already and I've only just recovered from the MC...why is this all so hard?!

ps hello to lili, congrats to wombat and your lovely big bean and a big hug to boa. Sorry, am a bit self-obssessed today

hadrian what test was the 12th jan with?? Maybe test just to settle your mind.

Speaking of Thailand reminds me wine is v expensive over there, sometimes is more expensive than the whole meal. If you want to drink local drinks are a lot cheaper. I once asked for a glass of whiskey and coke they brought me a bottle it was a thai rice whiskey and was cheaper buying the bottle than having a brand whiskey and coke.

hadrian from the sound of it you'reentalling anyway so you might feel a bit better if you POAS rather than just speculating and worrying

Thailand.... Samsung Whiskey and coke served in a bucket!! That reminds me of being 21!

I think test! but then i do have a slight obession with peeing on sticks. If its a no you can try out one of those buckets!!!

PS i know you'll already know, but its not that unlikley you are pg. A friend of mine gave birth last week after getting pg without AF after her mc.

xxx

I would test Hadrian, and if it's -ve then test again on Monday. We are at our most fertile straight after pregnacy apparantly so you very easily could be.