Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 12)

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A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

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Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

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Hadrian at place's you've lived! I did live in Paris for 6 months which was fab and have been fortunate enough to travel to a lot of the world, including Tokyo and Kyoto... both wonderful places and the peeps were so genuine and lovely, what were you doing in Tokyo?

Chloe I'm with velvet on early posa'ing but given I did it 4 days in a row who the hell am I to comment and I know you're probably gonna do it anyway... so fx for when you do

wellie hope the move goes well. My dh is an ozzie, so we go every other year and my best friend emigrated there about 5 years ago and has never looked back! Good luck

lili wtf cycle is sadly just that!! It could be af on her way, could be ov pains, could be your ligaments returning to normal. Have you been ttc since your mc bleeding finished? Is there any chance you could be pg again?

Velvet could dh ask bil to perhaps stay with friends on a fri or sat so you get some qt time together? Or could you two go away for a few well timed, romantic long weekends over the course of the next couple of months? Or perhaps you could just start leaving 'making a baby' leaflets all over the place in the hope bil gets the message

Zam any advice on how to stop mentalling will be appreciated here... men are really good at the box thing... except they never go back to deal with it

mummy izzy yrmotb how you girls doing?

Waves to everyone else

lili sorry m unsure as to what the pains could be, I can't remember having them (but the way my mind is at the moment that doesn't mean i didn't get them.)

i am having the weirdest af. i had bloody cm, then had brown spotting on the 28th, quite heavy bleeding yesterday but no clots or anything. medium today and seems to be petering off. I used to have 2 days heavy, 1 day very light almost nothing then 1-2 days med/heavy. Although was quite heavy yesterday just hasn't been as heavy as normal.

Hope everyone is ok.

Waves madly to everyone.

Hi Lilli8 I had pains like those, I thought it may be ovulation or cysts rupturing as my body spluttered back into action. Do watch out for:

smelly discharge
fever
chills
pain

because these are symptoms of an infection which would need to be treated immediately with antibiotics. Why not make an appointment with your GP and describe the pains to them? They might want to prescribe antibiotics as a precaution anyway.

still BFN overhere. 11 DPO today, so two days off "official" test day.

Problems between DH and me have spiralled out of control, we've just decided to go back to couples counselling, and I am also going to see a different counsellor on my own. Might seem a bit like overkill, but I am getting seriously worried that I will end up fertile again but with not DH to TTC with! Life is a bitch sometimes.

mummya so sorry you're having dh problems. It's not overkill if it helps.

Just wanted to send some big (((hugs))) to mummya sorry you and dh are struggling...this whole ttc/mc stuff is a real strain on the best of relationships and after the extra stress you've has with AS I'm not surprised you're having problems. Fwiw, I think the counselling (both lots) is a positive move forward and I really hope it helps you xx

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((mummy)) :( Hope you guys work it out xx

Thanks ladies for your thoughts/experiences.

mamapower It's not impossible that I could be pg as have been ttc since bleeding stopped. However think it's doubtful as haven't got any pg signs.

mummyabroad will look out for those signs thanks. If i'm still getting the pains in a weeks time and still no AF think I will go to my GP. On another note sorry to hear about your problems. Think you and DH obviously care about one another to work through your problems which I think is a really positive sign.

Since my post this morning I've been reading up on ovulation signs and cervical mucus. I've had a look at mine and from what I've read think I'm getting ready to ovulate! Well if I've examined it right! Think I'll have to go for it this week just in case!

mummya sorry you're going through problems. As izz says it's a real strain on both, ttc. I hope the counselling helps. It doesn't sound like overkill to me, if it makes you unhappy, try to fix it.

chloe and collie I'm in Shipley.

Had a busy 2 days painting the house and decorating, busy, busy. Still got loads to do, so will try to check in tomorrow. Waves to all.

awww mummy I think counselling is fabulous. Overkill? No my lovely, the sensible way to move your relationship to a happier place... best of luck with it xx

lili looks like you have it sussed, good luck swi

Waves to cep Izzy and Nix

Evening all, sorry I've been mia for a couple of days.. too busy obsessing and POASing, not to mention the normal weekend chaos of dancing classes (not me), supermarkets, birthday parties, and (for the first time in at least 2 decades...) - roller skating! With DD, obviously...

Well, I have some exciting news...!!! A BFP at 16 dpo!! And no symptoms, unless I let my imagination run riot, of course.

I am still holding mummya and hadrian firmly by the hand and sending best possible wishes for them and everyone else on here. May your BFPs be just around the corner. x

Woo hoo emoo! Well done you.

Congrats emoo !!! Fab news!!

emoo thats fantastic news. congratulations. [bgrin]

E M O O

oh great news!!! (and its very encouraging to know that 16 DPO and no symptoms doesnt mean no BFP!!!!)
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MOOOOO !! Congratulations lovely :) :) :)

Whoop go Emoo fantastic news chica! I was stalking your chart this morning thinking it was only a matter of time until the BFP announcement!

mummy beautiful chart missus! imp dip at 8dpo perhaps?! good luck with the counselling, you've had so much going on over the last few weeks its no wonder that you both are feeling the effects now xx

EMOO WHOOP WHOOP thats fab incredible news hon xxx well done....

emoo Congratulations :)

mummya I'm a huge fan of my counselling - go for it girl and I'm actually sort of jealous that your DH would go - mine would refuse!

Chloe you asked about womb flutters.... I had them with the baby I miscarried - I thought it was the baby moving but now think it was my womb sort of contracting to try and get rid of the baby that hadn't survived. Since then I get a couple every month now (had one yesterday!) I did google womb flutters yesterday and it seems fairly common including after MC. Lots of people seem to be saying that it's caused by wind but I know that's rubbish - it's my womb definitely. Hope that helps....

Thanks for the advice collie and big congrats emoo really pleased I decided not to go to work tomorrow. Just not ready to deal with any of the crap yet xx

Emoo big whooooooop! Congrat's

If you're interested, Dachs has set up a little thread here for the recent bfp'ers so that we have a place to do our pre graduation mentaling... without causing upset!

congrats Emoo

Ahh just stopped by and saw the Emoo news!!!congrats, so pleased for you

Hello to you all nicks, mummyoracle, YRMOTB, Cep, dachs, pink,owly, knitter, mouse, lady, mamap,Kat,collie, orange, izzy, chloe, Hadrian,loola, zam, velvet and everyone I have missed

Am still I a foul mood.(sorry its a mememe) These effing opk sticks have totally done my head in. Apparently I haven't ovulated yet on cd16. First month of FF too and I don't have any sort if temp variation either.

Due date was yesterday. 2 close friends yet to drop but my best friend had her twins.

Of course I am thrilled, but a bit of me ACHES. I think it's my heart...

awww BOA I know how you feel :( there are lots of babies around me atm. It's shit isnt it when you know you should have your one too.

I ov between cd14-18 so it could be that it hasnt happened yet. The other reason could be(and I was gutted when I had one coz it was my due date month)that you are not ovulating this month. Apparently (I think the oracle told me) it is normal to have a couple of months each year when you dont ov. I tried opks for one month but i never got a positive so i stopped using them - too stressful!

Dont give up! wow it's so much easier saying that to someone else rather than doing it myself! I'm here to hold your hand if you need it - I know I definately do! Remember too - the stats are on our side.

aaah emoo that is such wonderful news, I'm so delighted! How wonderful, good for you. Have you really had no symptoms or was a tiny part of you starting to wonder?

Right then mummya, anything's possible...

Sorry to hear you're feeling low boa and a big hug to you for your due date yesterday. Hope you got through it OK. I know that ache all too well. My SIL is due 5 days before my due date in July and every time someone talks about their baby coming I think my heart is going to break. One day at a time xxx