More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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I've started a new thread!

hi 40 - welcome
not much optimism from me I'm afraid... :(

having a ridiculously weepy week... just feeling very low and so unlike me, feeling lacking in confidence in basic capabilities... DS had a meltdown going into nursery today, which made me weep (they think I'm a nut case there I'm sure)... had lunch at my best friends and just snivelled and sniffed.

I know it's a cycle that I have to break. Physically am struggling, have a tummy upset and a cold. Tried to stop drinking wine thinking that might help me, but didn't feel any better. So have gone back to the evil juice tonight... Am still spotting after ERPC. Don't even want to contemplate TTC at the moment.

So think I will disappear for a week or two to recover and get back on track.

Hope I come back to some BFPs and some great news.

special wave to you all xx

(good luck mslucy)

ohh jolly don't go. Just cos you're not ready to TTC again doesn't mean you can't come on here for support.

oh, lovie. you really have had a shit time recently and it is not surprising you are feeling low on confidence etc.

If you really need a break, then of course, have one and we'll all be here for you when you're ready. But I do hate to think of you off being sad.

(((())))) - loads of love from me.
xx

hello curly you were on the mc thread at the same time as me I think (I was there under another name, and left due to stalker). my dh is in a similar place to yours I think.

mslucy good luck for tomorrow. i was thinking today how hard it would be to be pg again. I can only imagine how stressful it is to go for a scan next time around.

jolls really sorry you have had a difficult week. I think it is perfectly understandable how you feel. Please do keep in touch. I hesitate to say this as you may want to keep this separate from RL, but if it would help you to meet up for coffee or summat, let me know.

40somemum won't try to out you don't worry. But you've got me intrigued now... Yes, is so shit trying to get pg in 40s. I have had no problems getting pg in the past, and now I'm in a whole different place. Not Fun

hippy well done on not temping. I think I need to break free from the tyranny of the thermometer too. I sometimes wake up several times a night because I don't want to miss the right time. and now I'm in the 2ww, watching temps gets really obsessive.If I ever do get a BFP I will have to try really hard to stop taking my temp. E the acupuncturist doesn't believe in taking temps. she says it is only necessary to chart cm. and she is going to teach me how to do that - something to look forward to then.

Good luck swi in the caravan. I can't say I had much success in ours!

lottie and 40somemum - hi and welcome to the mad-house snug. Plonk yourselves down on the sofa (don't worry about spilling the hot chocolate - sassy will be in the 2ww soon and need something to keep her occupied!)

MrsLucy - thinking of you for your scan tomorrow, hope it is good news.

Jolls - wish there was something I could say to help make things better, but I understand if you need time away from here, we will be ready and waiting for you to return.

My dilema with progesterone is that I normally m/c at 5/6 weeks, but with the progesterone it went onto 11 weeks the first time (heartbeat and all, but trisomy issue), and to 8 weeks the second time I took it. So for me is has just prolonged the agony and raised hope that was not real. But I also know that if I do by random chance hit a good egg/sperm combo, then the progesterone will help the pregnancy. Arggg the decision is stressing me.

On the positive side, I got no other weird symptoms while taking the progesterone, found it fine.

Well I am going to sit comfortably here in the snug and if no-one objects just watch some i=player programs on the screen.

jollster please don't be so hard on yourself. You have every right to be sad - give yourself a break.

Thank you for all your kind wishes.

It means a lot.

beattie when I was temping at the end of my last cycle and suspected that i may have been successful (fool I am), I got so obsessed with temping I was dreaming that the thermometer was broken or different or lost or goodness knows what. just couldn't be bothered to start again during AF and doesn't seem worth it at the moment.

CM is a great way of keeping an eye on things.

Morning ladies.I just wrote a HUGE post, then my darling 2 year old switched the power off and I lost all of it. I'm feeling really cross right now! And he is in tears!

So,, a quick post.

Jolly, I am sorry you are feeling poorly , I hope you'll come back to us soon, feeling better.

Hippy, have a wonderful time in IOW.

I'm 6 DPO and having nice high temps, but also did this time last month, so trying not to get hopeful. I will be doing a lot of gardening!!

Poor old Charlie - he knows not the sin he has commited!!

My 7 year old switched the computer off the other day when I was on mumsnet and I was not happy but fortunately I hadn't just typed a long post.

I hope you and him make up pals soon.

Glad to hear the temps are high. No testing yet! Do you hear me gum, I said NO TESTING YET

Oh JOLLY I'm sorry for your sadness and illness. You have been through quite a lot of late .... I spose you used the house move to get you through the loss and now I guess it's all hitting home. Two hugely stressful situations are bound to hit at some point - you are only human afterall - be very kind to yourself missus and give yourself time to grieve and heal. 'Time is the greatest healer' (it really is true) and you must take all you need x
If in all that you falter or get a bit wobbly then we are here for you with a virtual hug and a talk if you want it....take care

Muchlove to you xx

Oh yeah HIPPY thermometers are such a bind aren't they - one day when we've all got our bubbas or just calling it a day why don't we have a mass burning of them on a bonfire !!

It will be sooooo liberating for you not having to track your cycle and do tests through month, I bet you will be more relaxed x

Thinking of you MsLucy

Love to all x

Just wanted to share this with you, i'm sure you've heard it already. The good news for me is that I already love purple and wear it a lot - so people wont be too shocked when i just add the red hat! I also went out in my slippers the other day!!!

Warning - When I Am an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple

By Jenny Joseph

When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple

with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves

and satin candles, and say we've no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I am tired

and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells

and run my stick along the public railings

and make up for the sobriety of my youth.

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain

and pick the flowers in other people's gardens

and learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat

and eat three pounds of sausages at a go

or only bread and pickles for a week

and hoard pens and pencils and beer nuts and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry

and pay our rent and not swear in the street

and set a good example for the children.

We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?

So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised

When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

Hippy there is a club called something like the purple club, or wearing purple club or something like that - it has branches around the place and you join and all wear purple/do eccentric things! I told my mum about it, but she wasn't impressed!

Wow, I'm joining!!!

purple is OFFICIALLY my favourite colour .

good news from EPU.
It's alive - we even saw the heartbeat.
Have to go back in 2 weeks - guess they're keeping an eye on me, which at my age can only be a good thing!

As I said, thanks again, for being so lovely.
I feel quite at home here - must be our shared love of crisps, purple and Morrissey

Yippee FANTASTIC news !!!!!
you must be relieved - I had a good feeling for you today especially as you said you still had symptoms - at last some good news around here I guess we can do with it...

Ok can you send some of that babydust to me please......well all of us really.... but not just any babydust (marks & spencers) sticky babydust pleeeeaassseeee

of course!
scatters extra large bag of PURPLE baby dust.

Will keep you posted.
Saw fetal heartbeat with one that m/c'd, so not totally out of the woods, but yes it is a good sign.

Am tempted to join an antenatal group, but think I prefer it here!

mslucy well done. such good news.

Purple is a very spiritual and caring colour Every birthday or mother's day my boys buy me something purple.

Hippy adds a couple of purple scatter cushions to the snug.

Evening all xx

I am bloody shattered... (fingers Hippy's purple scatter cushions) OOhhhh nice Hippy - velvet - classy

That's brill news mslucy

Am off work tomorrow, so will catch up then xx

this is my favourite cushion

www.amazon.co.uk/Wise-Owl-Cushion-Cover/dp/B002VKDP2W

can I bring it along to snuggle up to?

and my slanket....

Purple has been my favourite colour since I was about 4 and I wore it on my wedding day (five years ago yesterday).

Bloody shattered here too! Just back from the most dulls-ville-esque conference ever but working from home tomorrow so will catch up then! Just saw mslucy's news though and wanted to saw congrats!!! Oh and I am already an avid wearer of purple!

Thank you Diege but it really is early days.
My last mc was at about 7 weeks, so really don't want to jinx it.

Taking it day by day - all you can do really.

Hi ladies, quick post.

I lost 4 and a half pounds today at my first Rosemary Conley weigh in and was slimmer of the week.

I am delighted.

Once we have seen the consultant and ordered the drugs for treatment we will be ready to go. I am now looking on the wait, hopefully 8 months at the end of September, as a preparation time to get into tip top condition. I need to lose a lot so my goal is two and a half stone by Christmas (which is 2 and a half pounds a week, eeeek!)

Love to you all.

Sorry this is all me, me, me.

Thinking of you all.

wow -spooky sassy the cushions WERE velvet in my head!!!

italian where are you??? Oh you turned sideways and I lost you for a second bloody well done on such a good start. You will be so slim and fit by the time your eggs come along

Ok, so I'm off to my beloved IOW at 5am tomorrow, so lots of packing to do today. Just wanted to leave a few instructions:-

Someone take the group credit card off sassy, goodness knows what she'll have bought and how much she'll have spent by the time i get back. sass am hoping for good news from you this month (fingers crossed).

gum early testing is pointless and tells you nothing! Consider yourself told.

If jolly pops in at all please someone give her a big hug from me and tell her Im thinking of her.

diege No botox whilst I'm gone - you don't need it! ps. You can still be my best mate if you like, just don't tell the others . Shall we try to be bump buddies this month?

mslucy take care - 1 day at a time, lovie.

djinnie I hope you get some answers to your missing AF soon.

muchlove Remember, you are a VIP in your own right and there are many things for you to be proud of as well as your chidren - having said that - babies are bloody cute arn't they???

beattie LOCK THE DOOR WHEN YOU ARE SWI!!!! Nuff said there i think.

italian keep up the weight loss. Did your AF show up yet??

GG I'm sure you'll be preggers again by the time I return. Good luck with the progesterone.

lia we haven't heard from you for a while and I'm thinking you must be approaching 12 weeks. News soon please.

lunatic Hoping you are well.

That's about it. So so sorry, if I've missed anyone off.

I can't quite believe I am going to be internet free for a week . There will be so much to catch up on when I get back. I will genuinly miss chatting to all you lovely ladies.

ps. I am offically mad. The new advert for McCanns chips where they show clips of different aspects of family life - makes me cry!!!! Shoot me now .

Hippy wanders off in a waft of purple to pack all her beautiful rustic yet oh so chic clothes in her purple suitcase ...... yeah right!

oh blimey. just went to the loo and i have (as enid blighton would say) lashings of egg whites. (except she was referring to ginger beer!!)

So that means I am gonna have to fit a flippin' shag in today. We are leaving at 5am tomrrow, so it will have to be today.

"Don't come in boys we're still packing!!!" Oh the things we have to do