I am apalled at our AP - she let DS poo in the park

[OneLieIn]

I have not posted this under AIBU because I know I am not. DS is 5 and more than capable of holding it in.

What do you think of this? This is a park as in with fields and trees, not swings and slides. He wiped his bum on a leaf!

I hope she cleaned it up.

would you rather she let him poo in his pants? maybe he was desperate? he must have been desperate too poo not in a toilet at 5 IMO. did she take him somewhere discreet at least?

I don't think she cleaned it up?

He would not poo in his pants. He could have waited. I will talk to him later.

Are you sure he could have held it in? TBH if DD (3.5) was busting, I'd let her do a wild poo. I'd take it home with me though (eurgh).

Yes, but he is 5!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Surely it depends on how desperate he was. What if he was at the stage where he couldn't hold it any longer. It would have been far more distressing for him to poo his pants.

As long as he knows that this is not the norm, it was a one off desperate measure and they were discreet, then I can't see what she did wrong.

LOL.

I think it's ok...

Where's the drama?

So you think leaving a human dump in teh park is OK?>

Dogs do it. As long as she cleaned it up, I would be less than appalled, I'm afraid. Sometimes people just CANNOT hold on any longer, and she is not his mother, you'd have been even more appalled if she had allowed him to shit his pants because he couldn't hold it any longer.

Just send her back with a pooperscooper.

I would rather he did it wild than poo his pants tbh...

as long as not in he middle of a path, then ok in an emergency.

using a leaf to wipe his bum shows ingenuity!

No, leaving it in the park is not good. She should have cleaned up. But doing it in the park in desperation is not the end of the world.

DH has been known to dig a hole for a child to poo in and cover it up.

It was probably an unusual and desperate situation. I don't think it's worthy of such levels of horror tbh.

What does AP stand for btw?

Au Pair

maybe he just could not hold it in? maybe he has a tummy upset?

far more distressing and upsetting for a 5 year old to poo in his pants

please don;t make him feel bad for this.. even grown ups can have accidents of this nature, i am sure it must have been an emergency for him to have to go right there in the park

Digging hole v good.

DP once dangled DS over a rubbish bin...

It is not ideal but it is also not that big a deal. If she is a caring and fun AP I would let it go. and I would certainly not give out to your ds for it.

I don't think 5 year-olds are good at waiting for v long, are they?

Trees and fields sounds like a little way from home - how far from home o toilets were they?

Top of the slide a definite no-no, however.

Well, what do you want her to do if your ds says he has to go and can't wait?

So he did it by a log (as in off the path) that makes me feel better. But she did not clean it up and that I think is really gross.

Maybe just maybe (and I will give him the benefit of the doubt) he could not keep it in, but I have told him we do not do that FULL STOP.