Orgasm post birth?

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I had a forceps delivery with episiotomy. Currently 8 days PP and felt ok to masturbate. Did it twice but orgasms very weak - like 3/10. Please tell me this is temporary. Is this my pelvic floor weakness? Please help!

Could it be lack of sensation , may be a temporary thing while your body recovers?

If you google Elaine Miller and watch her videos on pelvic floor exercises you will understand the importance of doing them properly and regularly.

I'm using Squeezy again but just worried this is permanent! Can alnyone else relate/share experiences?

You mean your baby is 8 days old and your bothered about having an orgasm 😳
Jesus Christ

8 days PP? Give the body a chance to heal before panicking about permanent damage.

This.

Your bits have had the equivalent of surgery. They need time to heal. It took me a long time to feel normal down there after a similar birth, maybe 6 months ish. I wouldn’t assume anything yet.

Being a mother and being a separate, sexual woman are not mutually exclusive. Sexual function is not trivial and I resent the idea that women have to give up a big part of their humanity for their babies. I can be a mum and still worry about this

🤔

I don’t think that comment was judging you for being bothered about it, just that it’s really early in terms of your body recovering from what’s basically quite an ordeal!

Every woman should watch Elaine Miller. She is wonderful when it comes to knowledge and understanding of women's bodies.

It was the same for me for quite a while, it came to back to how it was before eventually though. I did some pelvic floors but not religiously. Now I've got a similar thing with perimenopause as the cause.

Internal oestrogen really helps with this - Ovestin in particular as you can use it externally to plump things up as well as internally. It’s really worked wonders for me (alongside systemic HRT - but even if you don’t want or can’t have the whole HRT thing you can definitely have oestrogen cream as it’s very low dose oestrogen).

I had a similar worry after an MVA but it was back to normal after a few weeks

Firstly, remember that the female organism is massively affected by your embtal state and imagination. It is likely that with injuries that you're not getting completely in the game, so orgasms might be muted.

Also many women, when stressed, find it har dto orgasm or even attempt it, which is probably why someone posted about you only being 8 days post birth and thinking about this, letting alone reaching climax. I read it as a wow and well done, but that's probably just because what I was thinking!

Keep at it

Share your stories people! This is a prime example of why it makes no difference if the sex board is in active or not.

Well it does because this is primarily about physiology and physical changes since giving birth and then menopause. It isn’t about people getting off on stories about anal or rimming or asking for a hook up because they aren’t getting any at home. Different tone altogether really.

Could take up to a year to get your sensations back to 10/10. Nothing to worry about.

I don’t think the PP was judging you. It’s just that it’s so early on after such an ordeal that you needn’t be worried until your body gets a good chance to heal.
Congrats on your new delivery! X

It's temporary, rest assured!

True. But eight days pp? Eight weeks pp I could understand - and only just. Most women are still bleeding at 8 days and still sore. It wouldn't be on any woman's radar in fact it would be the very last thing on 99% of womens minds. You must have a seriously extremely high sex drive. Good for you I guess.

Don't worry OP, it's almost certainly a combination of hormones and general swelling etc from giving birth. I had the same (I didn't try quite so soon after birth but maybe a few weeks/months) but it went back to normal eventually.

Your body is healing from the episiotomy and post birth bruising. Give it a chance!

I'm judging, at 8 days PP I was still weeing into a cup standing up, let alone having a wank.

You've just given birth, everything is swollen, bruised, potentially cut.

Give it time. It really, really isn't a priority right now, regardless of how "sexual" you are!!!

I had the same delivery and honestly I couldn't think of anything worse.

Your vaginas been through alot, let it heal.