Orgasm post birth?

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I had a forceps delivery with episiotomy. Currently 8 days PP and felt ok to masturbate. Did it twice but orgasms very weak - like 3/10. Please tell me this is temporary. Is this my pelvic floor weakness? Please help!

Of course, we all know that, but 8 days is very, very early. Your body has been through a lot of trauma and change, and you’ve only just started to heal. You’re injured! How you feel now doesn’t predict how you’ll feel when you’ve fully healed and you’re not so tired and full of hormones.

It's more about orgasaming whilst having a young baby. They always find some weird shit to fantasize over and I'm still skeptical especially now with the patronising last post made to try and shut anyone who may have some concerns about the integrity of the post. Designed to shut them down and not allow questioning. That seems really suspect too.
And mnhq are skipping along in naivety.

I'm sure you orgasms will come back to full whack soon enough. Maybe you can understand your genitals may not be on top form 8 days after giving birth...

I could barely walk 8 days after a forceps and episiotomy delivery, and was still trying to have my first poo. If you're managing a wank you're doing fab. I'm sure it will all go back to normal in due course.

Some of these replies! 🙄 Don't worry, OP, it does get better 💐

My guess is, your orgasms will return to normal quite quickly; perhaps keep a little diary so you can track progress? I tend to think of healing in terms of 2-week chunks of time, in other words I'd expect to see significant improvement after two weeks, then another two weeks and so on. Orgasms are good for healing, both in terms of the physical tissue and emotionally. Don't let anyone shame you! If problems persist, don't be afraid to ask your GP for a referral to gynae. Take care and good luck x

Hormones are all over the place after birth, a lot of women do have sexual feelings due to this, not saying that I ever tried this 8 days after I had my kids but the fact that someone asking a simple question is always thought of as suspect or ' wank fodder' on here is getting bloody ridiculous.

If I can just explain my ignorance a bit: I genuinely thought if the clitoral structure wasn't cut that would feel the same. Also I have read that it encourages healing because of the blood flow! Apologies if I'm more dumb than I realised but I'm a FTM and genuinely don't know what my healing timeline should look like. Will it be days, weeks, months? I've read research articles which state it could be a year. In all honesty I just wanted a bit of reassurance. This response was completely unexpected, but reassuring at least

And thank you to all the supportive replies. I'm not gagging for an orgasm, I just want to know that I'll feel normal again one day.

(And when I read about orgasm being restorative, nothing mentioned that it would feel so much weaker)

the difficulty with your request for experiences borders on requests for personal masturbation details.
sadly asking this after an influx of sex toy ad's
having the sex topic in active
and having more males trolling the site (sex chat)
means the relies are very guarded.
i get that you're young and have been through a lot (congratulations by the way)
but healing down below will take time depending on the trauma and your activity level. by which i mean walking stairs etc. which in itself will increase swelling and damage.
do what feels right but know that it will take time and indeed might forever be different.

I think the problem people are having with this is the 8 days. 8 months would even seem quite soon. Most women are still bleeding and in terrible pain at 8 days. I cannot imagine anything worse than an orgasm at 8 days (especially if the orgasm makes your uterus contract, OUCH!!!), and I cannot conceive of (pardon the pun) any woman even being remotely horny enough to even want to masturbate until many months (if not 1-2 years, when according to this site, is the usual timeframe when many women are back to having sex) post birth. It's just not normal and no woman ever has ever posted such a thing before. It really is something that just doesn't happen.

It’s a shame it has to be this way, but women are not ‘ridiculous’ to be suspicious, guarded and to warn other women not to share when asked for experiences.

I know of 2 men on this forum that play mr nice but are actually perverted, violent men. Others are attracted to this board especially now that mumsnet is aligning itself with some very questionable men on the hook up thread.

I had forceps with my first, and my first orgasm was very weak; I'd say by about 6 to 8 weeks I felt fully healed. People's experience does vary, but if after 8 weeks there is incontinence, pain or significant loss/change of sexual function I'd suggest asking your GP for a referral.

This really is the issue.

Thinking that it's the norm to not have sex never mind a bloody orgasm for one to two years after childbirth. And unable to imagine any woman not waiting several months to masturbate!

Bloody hell! No wonder anything related to sex whatsoever seems like a troll post to some people.

1 - 2 years (to have sex or an orgasm) is clearly extreme - certainly in real life.

I'm finding it really hard to imagine that a FTM really is up for masturbating after a vaginal delivery eight days ago!

OP will certainly be bleeding, and everything down there will still be recovering, with almost certainly certainly micro vaginal tears to deal with too. I've had friends that were having sex within a month, but it was actually post-section (so vaginal area was not affected) and bleeding had stopped.

And yes - also trying to imagine the uterine contractions! 🥺

I had sex with DH at 12 days after one of my DC was born. Not sure why people are being so weird at you for having a wank. Orgasms are nice!

It's weird how unable to think people are. It's their experience or none

Bizarre responses OP. Orgasms are healing and a need for sure! I had a c section and my first orgasm was about 3 days after the birth. I found it was a bit muted - I think due to exhaustion - but not as low as 3/10, but that's probably because I was still intact below. Perhaps you're still a bit swollen? By about 4 weeks everything was back to normal for me.

Should she be wafting about in cheesecloth with no shoes, doing nothing but breastfeeding and gazing at her baby? 😂

(if not 1-2 years, when according to this site, is the usual timeframe when many women are back to having sex)

Absolute load of bollocks. It's not 'normal', especially in a healthy relationship, to NOT want sex for over a year!

You go girl! Orgasms are extremely beneficial both physically and psychologically 👌
I'm sure your new baby will benefit from having a ( relatively ) stress free mum
Congratulations on your baby!

It's just not normal and no woman ever has ever posted such a thing before. It really is something that just doesn't happen.

Just because it's not your experience doesn't mean that it just doesn't happen. We're all different and my experience is much, much closer to the OP's than yours. I'd be seriously unhappy without sex or an orgasm for 8 months, nevermind 1-2 years!

And in response to a PP - the vaginal area actually is affected following a c section. Obviously there's no injury, but there's still truama to the pelvic floor which can cause internal pain and sensitivity. But not all sex has to involve penetration you know