Orgasm post birth?

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I had a forceps delivery with episiotomy. Currently 8 days PP and felt ok to masturbate. Did it twice but orgasms very weak - like 3/10. Please tell me this is temporary. Is this my pelvic floor weakness? Please help!

It's more likely to be hormonal rather than physiological.
You'd be surprised at how much our hormones drive our sexual enjoyment.

It's more likely to be hormonal rather than physiological.
You'd be surprised at how much our hormones drive our sexual enjoyment.

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You want stories from new mums about masturbating days after giving birth? 🤔

Impressed OP!

I don’t think that sex or anything to do with it entered my head for at least six months after having my babies.

I too am judging at 8dqys pp.
This thread seems like it's some fetishist posting to get some new mums wanking stories.

Not nice

Exactly 🤔🤔🤔

You're probably still swollen and healing from the birth. Maybe get a check that all is healing well from the midwife, internal swelling takes a while to heal, plus your hormones are still settling down. I'm sure you'll be orgasming away soon.

I thought that other comment was judgy as hell, but perhaps that poster could clarify.

Anyway op, probably is a bit pelvic floor related - give it time and also pelvic floor toning exercises. But probably also hormonal. Right now you have tons of breastfeeding and caring hormones flooding your body. My body response is muted when my hormones are out of whack

I had the same delivery and never recovered decent sexual sensation and orgasms are pretty dull now. (Even 5 years on).
I understand that I am in the minority and most recover better.
Definitely commit to pelvic floor exercises.

But I also agree that it's a bit crazy to be worrying (and trying IMO) about this 8 days pp.

Said no woman ever. Do you know what a forceps delivery and an episiotomy does to you? Presumably you do, as you’ve had them, and are now looking after a new baby. You’re untypical, that’s all I can say.

I don't want stories of "mums masturbating" - I just wanted reassurance that sexual function and intensity will come back. I don't think a fetishist would come onto mumsnet given that there is a surplus of porn on the internet? I'm not even masturbating out of sexual need per se, but I use it to relieve stress, connect with myself and also to see whether it is as numb as I thought down there. I'm not some crazed sexual beast

Op, I am really sorry you are getting a hard time. People are a bit obsessed with an influx of sex posts right now and you are getting the backlash.
I personally find it totally normal and of course you would want reassurance everything is going to be okay after a hard birth.
I really think this is mainly hormonal, don't worry

Given the intensity of the reaction to this question I feel reassured anyway! I'm hoping it's something I can work on over time and it sounds like the ability to feel anything at all is a positive/unusual so I'll roll with that!!

It seems the pearl clutches cannot fathom there are different people with different tastes, rather than just shouting omg

Thank you. I'm stressing because I was adamant that I didn't want a c section and opted for forceps instead - regretting this now a bit. I didn't realise that reduced sexual function would be a side effect and I'm still spaced out/sleep deprived from a semi traumatic birth and just trying to make sense out of what's happened to me

A lot of people in these comments need to get a fucking grip

If you're used to having regular orgasms, why would you not be missing them after a while? Do people not realise how beneficial they are to us?

"I don't think a fetishist would come onto mumsnet given that there is a surplus of porn on the internet?"

Sadly you'd be wrong.

This. Having an orgasm just feels like a fundamental part of my humanity. I'm not a crazed sex fiend, and I find this response bizarre and quite sexist frankly

It's fine to be thinking about sex after having a baby. You don't stop being a sexual being after having a baby.

If anything, I was more into wanting it after my babies were born because I had that huge oxytocin rush that made me want to be as close to my husband as possible. Obviously sex was off the cards a couple of weeks so next best thing was myself.

I can't comment on the forceps but I had lots of stitches with three out of four of my babies (third degree tear with one of them) and it did feel a little different to begin with. However, I think hormones can play a huge part especially if you're breastfeeding.

I could be totally wrong but I have it in my head from somewhere that because physically we are incredibly fertile after birth,'our body does things to make sex seem less appealing to out us off, if you get me?

I'm sure it will come back. It did for me!

I think your hormones are all over the place you don't seem to be thinking straight from what your saying your coming across as a sex addict!!!

You've given birth 8 days ago. Allow your body to heal it'll be sore, Focus on being a new Mum. You do not need to orgasm at this stage it is not essential at all.

Stop being so bloody desperate to have an orgasm your body needs time to heal and moreover your priority at this time should be your child.

I had the same and it baffles me that you can be doing this 8 days on 🫣 Christ. Give it actual time to heal but ffs learn about your core and pelvic floor.

And this. Sleep deprived and traumatic birth (which was also me) yet you're busy getting yourself off.