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Stillbirth how can this happen

125 replies

Flowerpot26 · 31/08/2020 22:31

I can't even believe this has happened, I keep praying that I will wake up, 2 weeks ago I was 34 weeks healthy, all checks were fine, I was seen the week before, good strong heart beat and then a week a later she came in the night in the car on the way to hosp, she had already gone. Its a living nightmare it's a daze, the shock is starting to wear off and the pain is unbearable I feel like I can't breathe or even lift my head with the heavyness of my broken heart. I have a toddler who and a amazing dh, but my life is broken, my toddler is so confused I'm upsetting him by crying all the time. She was wanted and loved more than anything, why is my life so shit, my first pregnancy ended at 18 weeks that was hell of earth, but this, this is to big to deal with, how do I cope?

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TokyoSushi · 31/08/2020 22:34

Oh love, I can't even begin to imagine, sending lots of love and keeping your post bumped for more knowledgeable folk FlowersFlowersFlowers

endofthelinefinally · 31/08/2020 22:34

I am so, so sorry for your loss.
There will be an investigation and you will be able to talk this through with the bereavement midwife at the hospital.
I have lost a child. There is no pain like it.
Flowers

TokyoSushi · 31/08/2020 22:35

And I'm so sorry that the flowers icon has come out as gin x

DramaAlpaca · 31/08/2020 22:38

@Flowerpot26 I'm so very sorry for your loss Flowers

@TokyoSushi I can see the flowers you posted just fine.

Flowerpot26 · 31/08/2020 22:41

They are doing an investigation and waiting results, my blood work all came back normal, my midwife thinks it will just be one of those unexplained, whatever it is it doesn't Chnage anything, I can't have this life, I've lost my mum last year, I can't have all this tragedy, I wanted her so much I was so careful, I don't drink or smoke I stayed in practically all year due to the virus, she was put future our happy ever after, to complete our family

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Peta11 · 31/08/2020 22:43

I am so incredibly sorry to hear this.
Sands is a good place for support and there are some good instagram pages such as After Evalyn .
I hope you have RL support too
. Please keep talking. I can imagine you are so overwhelmed right now,. If you would like to tell us, What is your daughters name? I'm sure she was beautiful ❤

Grumpy19 · 31/08/2020 22:43

@Flowerpot26 there are no words. I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers

RandomMess · 31/08/2020 22:44

ThanksThanksThanksThanks

So sorry that your daughter died.

Have you contacted SANDS?

Flowerpot26 · 31/08/2020 22:44

We called her Penny, she was so beautiful

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formerbabe · 31/08/2020 22:45

I'm so sorry Flowers

formerbabe · 31/08/2020 22:46

What a beautiful name x

StealthPolarBear · 31/08/2020 22:46

Oh op I'm so sorry

MeanMrMustardSeed · 31/08/2020 22:47

Penny is a beautiful name. I am so sorry, your love for her shines through your posts.

aimslou · 31/08/2020 22:49

I'm so sorry to hear this, sending ❤️❤️

Thisisnotnormal69 · 31/08/2020 22:51

I’m so sorry for your lovely Penny Flowers

Flowerpot26 · 31/08/2020 22:51

I remember watching some programme when I was a teenager and the woman had a stillbirth and I thought then, christ! That's horrific,

how can this of happened, I see no life going forward, just fake smiles for my boy, I don't want to upset him or not be the mummy he deserves, how can this ever be okay

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purpleboy · 31/08/2020 22:52

So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful name.❤️❤️

pandafunfactory · 31/08/2020 22:52

This happened to my friend ten years ago. I am still waiting for somebody to turn round and say it's a mistake, the baby is ok. Stillbirth is just wrong, fundamentally it's the world the wrong way up. Birth is about life not death.
Very sorry for your loss.

Wowcherarestalkingme · 31/08/2020 22:54

I’m so sorry for your loss, my heart is breaking for you. Penny is a beautiful name Flowers

Mamette · 31/08/2020 22:54

I’m so sorry OP ❤️

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 31/08/2020 22:55

Oh my goodness there are no words. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. I’m so very sorry

Choppedupapple · 31/08/2020 22:55

I’m so sorry for your loss, beautiful name. Sleep tight little one xx

Lougle · 31/08/2020 22:55

I'm so very sorry that you are going through this. Penny is a beautiful name. I hope you get some answers.

RaininSummer · 31/08/2020 22:56

Really sorry for your loss sweetheart.

Choppedupapple · 31/08/2020 22:57

Contact Sands, they are really good x

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