Aaah poor you beckyau - my last cold without my usual prop of Nurofen Cold and flu was a wretched affair as well. Have paracetamol, hot honey and lemon, vaseline to look after your nose and don't try and do too much.
Beckyau - I would have been BESIDES MYSELF in your position and his failure to then come home, whilst practically the best thing saving you both from the mother and father of all rows (sort of literally) would only have added fuel to my flames. Chatting calmly when the air has cleared is a good idea. Much of what has been said here about him being scared and reverting to a brief childhood whilst he still can is all very sensible and insightful I am sure, but he needs to know that you probably feel just as scared about how things will change and how you will cope and how your relationship will adapt and so on and to be projected into the role of the "one who is doing this to him" is rankly unfair. I think he needs to see how scared and upset that night has made you. That's my take anyway.
Mrs McJnr - are you less angry now hon?
As to meet up, if it's to be mid week in London it will need to be in the evening for me - on week of 3/9 I am free tues or Wed.
Have a lovely bank holiday all!