October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
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JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
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Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
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boxesoffrogs google the Hook effect in pregnancy. Your tests will start to get lighter as your hcg increases!

I know it's really hard! Focus on those positive symptoms! I've given up googling basically googling pregnancy stuff because I just freak myself out. Just sticking to mn.

I'm okay thank you it's been a tough week. So torn between thinking positively and getting my hopes up, and then trying to prepare myself for the worst. I have a few ideas of things I'd like to do if it's bad news like go to a spa for the weekend and book a holiday in the sun. It's hard to see beyond Monday though! Thank you for asking it's very thoughtful

Yep, I am going to have a self imposed google ban! No good can come of it, I have decided. No point worrying until there is evidence for it, right?

I have everything firmly crossed for you emvy, and I am so amazed by your strength. Seriously hope you get great news on mon! Do you have anything nice planned this weekend?

Always practical to have a contingency plan isn't it? I have just been going through the calendar for the next few months and thinking of all the things that are planned, just in case. Got a few weddings coming up in the summer and if this doesn't work out, then holiday over Easter, I could also do with some sun!

Potentially considering moving back to dp's home country, and we were thinking about perhaps doing it over the summer, but now sort of stuck in limbo until we know for sure if this is actually going to happen. Feel a bit in limbo!

Presh - I've been watching the replacement. Did bring back some memories as I remembered once I'd announced I was pregnant with dd1 I was treated differently. Left out of decisions, not informed about things, for easily replaceable.
Love Vicky McLure, as soon as I knew she was in it I knew it would be good.

Exactly. And even after evidence of it you just start googling that evidence potentially not going to plan and end up just being equally as stressed. Best just not to know, anxiety helps no one.

Aww thank you boxes, I'm not even sure it's strength, just one of those situations you just live through in a bit of a bubble! I think even if it's not meant to be I will go into future pregnancies very differently. I've learnt a lot about myself and how I deal with things this week and will definitely try not to get ahead of myself in future. Unfortunately a weekend of sport (on the tv that my OH just has to watch) and a wardrobe that needs to be built are keeping any exciting plans from happening this weekend.

Definitely sounds like a good idea to focus on those events you have coming up - something to aim for regardless. That's my thinking also do you have nice things planned this weekend?

I can certainly understand you feeling in limbo. Like you say, just keep busy and make that decision when you know for sure. These first 12 weeks are so tough without adding pressure of potentially moving.

Yep you are right emvy, it's not worth the stressing at an already stressful time. Staying positive and practical is the way forward.

I have just been out for a three hour dog walk with my mum in the sunshine, stopped off for lunch in a country pub, it was all very lovely. Very nearly ended up telling her, but still think the more people who know, the more it will jinx it, mad I know. Only told my sister and a two very close friends so far.

I hope you are having a nice relaxing Saturday, as far as watching sport and assembling furniture can be

How has everyone's Saturdays been? It's been a lovely day here (well it's chucking it down now, but the morning was fab!), so we went walking. My DD splashing in puddles for the first time, which was lovely. Also a productive afternoon doing DIY.

doomkitty did you make it to Val Thoren ok? I hope you enjoy the skiing and the fresh mountain air blows away the nausea!

boxesoffrogs that sounds like a lovely way to spend the day. I keep on nearly telling people too, it's just so hard to not say anything especially when it's at the fore front of our minds so much!!

Ah I'm glad you had a lovely day boxes. I hope you're feeling more chilled. I ended up ditching the jobs and going for tea and cake with my cousin and Goddaughter at my favourite coffee shop so I also had a lovely Saturday day in the end!

Definitely with you on the nearly telling people. The only thing actually stopping me is my OH wanting to keep it quiet otherwise I'd have blabbed to my close group of girlfriends already. So difficult!

Has anyone got a mini bump yet? I feel mahoosive!
I'm the same size as I was when I was 4 months with DD1

Can someone please pass me a grip.

I had no symptoms Thursday/Friday and have had some intermittent brown spotting (well, not even spotting, just a little rust-coloured discharge when I wipe), then today my boobs weren't sore when I woke up so I obviously went straight to "well I'm about to lose this lentil". Even though I wanted to throw up halfway round Asda seriously, people, soap is 12p, buy some and have felt so queasy since, I'm struggling to get my head out of "something is going wrong".

And logically I know that if something is going wrong, there's nothing I can do at this stage (am 6+5) and that it obviously wasn't Meant To Be, but emotionally I just want to get to a point where everything is OK. I spoke to a friend about this feeling and she said it's entirely normal, and it's just preparing you for the next 20-odd years .

And then I managed to fall asleep on the settee and DH just woke me up with the World's Loudest Sneeze (and I am so tired, and even though I'm tired I can't bloody sleep at night, and when I do sleep I am having the strangest dreams and apparently running a marathon, my legs are going so much!)

This growing a person lark is bloody exhausting!

Hi Em, sorry you're feeling anxious. I have been reading about how symptoms can fluctuate, and as you are still feeling queasy then I'm sure all is ok. Also, the advice is that spotting is usually ok, but maybe call your midwife on Monday to see if they recommend you go in to be checked?

I have been feeling really down today, not really sure why, but like you, am super tired but then struggling to sleep. Way too much going around my head.

Fingers crossed all is absolutely fine... And here's hoping the next few weeks go quickly for us all!

X

emwithme we all have days like those. Completely normal! The "what will be will be" thing never makes a difference to how you're feeling though - it makes no difference that you can't control it, you're panicking because you want it so badly and already have a little attachment to the growing blip in your tummy. The only thing that makes me feel better is a new day! So I would advise - tv that takes your mind off it, soak in the bath (but not so long that you start to think about it again) and bed! Tomorrow is a whole new day

rumplestiltskins yes, massive here too, already in maternity stuff and only 7+6. It's my second so I guess that explains it! Though I'm also a bit, um, blocked up, which might also explain things!

I'm also up and down with the anxiety. I just don't feel pregnant though I do have a few symptoms like sore boobs and needing to pee all the time. I guess I remember pregnancy as being like the third trimester so this early stage feels so vague in comparison. Also I'd had 3 scans by 9 weeks last time and already felt like I knew my little bean. This time I feel so disconnected from it all. I feel stupidly guilty that I'm not more 'bonded' with this bean even though I know it's sensible self-preservation not to be (don't get me wrong, I'd still be absolutely distraught if anything happened). My mood is all over the place!

Has anyone experienced generalised aching in the stomach, groin, Upper legs and lower back?

I'm really uncomfortable and can't take paracetamol as I'm allergic!

Is there any recommendations for pain relief other than paracetamol? I usually take ibuprofen but obviously can't take that!

88claire I did quote a lot a few weeks ago and found a hot water bottle was the only thing that gave me enough relief to sleep, so worth a try?

Ember

Thanks! I'm sure it's things stretching which is probably a good sign but I'm so anxious and cramps were the first sign I lost the last one.

I'll try a hot water bottle, very good idea

Feeling generally a bit rubbish and sorry for myself at the moment. Not sure how I'm gonna cope at work next week.

Bring on the second trimester!

Morning everyone! Weird change in symptoms here - have gone from feeling mega nauseous and retching in the morning to feeling extremely hungry, but only being able to eat little and often.

Bit anxious about it, and my booking in appt isn't scheduled till I'm 13 weeks, and no scan date yet... will probably book a private scan this week just to see if it's all ok. The booking in took so long last time that I'm not really up for spending 2 hours with the midwife for no reason...

My symptoms change so much everyday brio. Sometimes I "feel" pregnant and other days I just don't! I'm trying to not think about it too much.

When will you be 13 weeks? That seems late for a booking in to then have to schedule your scan after! I can understand that's annoying. What stage are you at now?

brio my symptoms change all the time too. I am having a morning so far of not feeling at all pregnant! 13 weeks does sound late for booking in as the scan has to be performed between 12-14 weeks. I guess they know what they're doing?!

I'm also considering a private scan but google so far has only come up with a My Ultra Baby clinic near us and they've got some terrible reviews. Does anyone know of anywhere in east Kent?

Apologies if I've missed any big news. I just wanted to pop on to wish everyone all the best for scans tomorrow, I know emvy has had an anxious wait I'm not sure if there was others booked for tomorrow too. Thinking of you emvy

Aww thank you moomin that means a lot I've been a nervous wreck today and been keeping myself busy cleaning the house from top to bottom! I'm having a "not feeling pregnant" day which I'm not sure is self preservation or genuine. I really do hope I don't have to bow out of the group tomorrow.

Another one who will be thinking of you tomorrow emvy I hope it all goes well.

Good luck tomorrow emvy thinking of you X

Havent been about much as have had things going on, but wanted to say im thinking of you emvy and good luck for tomorrow x
Hope all you ladies are well x