October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

play I don't think that is a fair interpretation of what moomin said. I think everybody has been respectful and polite so far and there is no need for anyone to leave if they don't want to.

I feel like pregnancy hormones are definitely coming in to play here ....should we take it back to a positive note?!

I've eaten a whole pack of biscuits at my desk today.

Sorry but I do. I am an old fart with older children (secondary school age) who has serious physical and mental health issues and a history of recurrent miscarriages. I am absolutely petrified right now. So to read posts like moomin has written has cut right into me. Essentially she has written that everyone should be all peace and light and ignore the niggles. Well a cramp to someone who hasn't gone through what I and others have gone through can be ignored but to me it sends me running to the toilet worried I'm having another miscarriage.

I've had a horrendous run in with a vile midwife this week and am a complete mess of anxiety now. If I'm not allowed to talk about it here for fear of causing upset where can I talk about it?

Thanks all for the advice and helpful words - it's very reassuring

@Moomin Sorry you've decided to leave, I completely get where you are coming from

Cross post with @play - I'm also sorry you've had such a hard time, and I see your point of view too. I hope you feel able to stay

Hi all.

Been catching up. It's a shame that people are having disagreements but that's always going to happen with a group of women and hormones.
Sorry to hear of people having losses and great to hear of the positive scans.

So last night I had a massive bleed which continued with spotting. Had no pain with it but seriously thought I'd be bowing out today.
Went to my planned scan this morning as I had no idea of dates.

It was an internal which wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Saw a lovely blob with a heartbeat. Dated at 7 +6 with EDD of 13th Oct but will be earlier as I will have an elective c section.

I was going to say the same thing Glitterbubble but then chickened out for fear of being publicly butchered! I'm working from home today and feeling slightly guilty at the amount of sheer rubbish I've consumed in a desperate attempt to stave off the nausea. (Now wanting choc-chip biscuits thisismadness!)

Lovely women, this post is a one-off from me as I choose to use MN in a positive, empathetic and supportive mode and am not one to get into conflict. Each one of our experiences will be completely different - there will be similarities that we can bond over and support each with but, ultimately, our histories are wholly individual. We can be articulate enough to disagree, as long as we frame our subjective opinions sympathetically and carefully.

On a personal level, I find the honesty within this thread to be helpful and refreshing. This is my first, much-wanted pregnancy; I have always been quite in tune with my body and cannot help but notice every new feeling. To have others who are experiencing similar feelings for the first time, the tenth time or, indeed, are experiencing something wholly different is valuable to me, and I am grateful for it this community in the early days of his exciting and scary journey.

On a lighter note, thrilled to have just found some biscuits hiding in my bag.

⭐️ xx

Great news Ally!

Such a relief Allykatz! I had the same experience a couple of weeks ago except they were able to detect using an ultrasound rather than internal scan. Onwards and upwards! x

Great news, Ally - so pleased you had a reassuring scan. x

Love your post Starfish Enjoy your biscuits

I'd also like to add that I have had a previous MC then successful birth, then this is my 3rd pregnancy.
I will talk to anyone as I'm a massive believer of talking about MC as I feel I have dealt with first well with minimum grief. And I was completely matter of fact about everything this morning.
But that's my history if anyone needs an ear x

Had a call from my midwife today to set up booking appt.
she said 'So, you're pregnant!' And it worries me because I just think 'well, so 3 tests told me!'
It's not helpful when DH says 'ooh you could be like that lady on call the midwife who had a phantom pregnancy' THANKS!

We have a private early scan tonight, trying to think positive & not be too nervous.

I am SO hungry today, I've run out if things to eat at work

Good luck on the scan yellowfrontdoor and great news Ally

Moomin i don't want you to leave the group and i hope its not because of what i said... i think fundamentally we were stating the same point... sometimes helpful advise can actually have an adverse effect on the reader and therefore make them not worry about something problematic and could make them panic about something completely normal.

I was told cramping and sickness at 4 weeks is normal... i pushed on until 4+4 and in the end called my mum (like any good adult does) to find out what to do... only to find out that the level i was experiencing was definately not normal and had medics panicing that i had an ectopic they could not find

We all just want to give each other love and support on here and so i hope you will continue to do so ❤

Can I ask a question I am due to have an early scan 6w+3 days next Friday due to an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy due to endo-Drs requested it, is it likely to be internal or external?! I'm not fussed either way but feel i need to prepare oh!

Internal I expect

Well this wasn't something I was expecting to check in to! It's a shame as there is certainly enough room for everyone's views and experieces - all of them help in different ways.

Just realised my comment I tried to post an hour ago just sent, sorry for random placing! Think my 3G must have gone!

tigger I would assume internal at that stage but they did try external first with me to see what they could get from that first. However, my scan wasn't because of suspected ectopic so not sure if that changes things.

Hi all. I've been having some mild stomach & back pain this afternoon & reading people's posts on here feel reassured that I'm not the only one. I was a bit scared but it died down fairly quickly and also have a feeling it could just be gas...
Feel like my tummy's rounding! is it a) the miracle of life, b) gas or c) all the biscuits I've devoured with my pregnancy munchies...

Just catching up! loopy and ally lovely news about your scans, I'm really pleased for you both.

Sorry that there has been some drama, for what it's worth, I hope no one leaves. Everyone has been very polite in their opinions and I think there is plenty of room for everyone to express their own thoughts. We all have different experiences and it's that fact that makes this a great place to be as there is usually someone who can relate to what you are experiencing!

Many congrats loopy and ally so pleased for you both!