October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

thatgirl I can't live without hot baths. I do try and tone it down from the full scald I normally have. The risk is your core temp too high. Like undersecretary says avoid hot tubs, but a nice relaxing hot bath is a life saver when the aches and pains set in!

The advice I've read on baths is that if it feels ok for you to get straight in, you're fine. If it's so hot you have to hop on one ankle then the other til it's a manageable temp to sit down then it's too hot and should be avoided. I love a good hot bath and have just lowered the temp a degree or two from hot to v warm.

I normally love hot baths but for the last couple of weeks I can't stand them or showers. I think any increase in temp is just setting my sickness off again - was stood in shower this morning vomiting into toilet next to me! Even washing my hair is an absolute challenge. I'm on a first aid course today and I've had to not eat anything and empty my stomach before I got here just to try and get through it, but I've already had to run out 3 times.

I've got my booking in apt on Friday, I'll be 9+2. Not even got a date for my scan yet - all seems a little last minute!

Thank you for the reassurance re hot baths! I've only had the one, it was very hot but I didn't have my whole body in and didn't stay in for ages, so hopefully it's ok. I'm just being super paranoid about everything now!

I've just phoned my midwife re the aspirin and she said it won't do any harm so I'm going to give it a go. She also said to ring the EPU to see if I can bring my scan forward due to anxiety. I honestly think I'll go mad waiting another week.

Does anybody else have the blues!?!? I am having a really woe is me day today!

The nausia is starting to kick in but i'm worrying its not enough... the stomach pain in stopping a bit and now i'm wanting it back!

What is wrong with me!?!? Lol

Madness I hope EPU will be able to bring your scan forward!

@confused how far along we're you when you're sickness started? I'm 6w+5 and no sickness. Just incredible lower back ache at the moment :( x

Leanne i'm 5+6 today and it's the first day i have really felt any sickness... although i have been distracted with the pain i get from having fluid around my Ovary...

The fluid ois caused by the Corpus Lutum (i think thats how its spelt) and its producing the hormones to keep the baby alive... thats why i still want the pain lol it should only stop when the placenta starts taking over at 10+ weeks

Hi all waves currently 5+4 with my first at 39. Due 28th October I think. so excited for first appointments. Wouldn't have left it this late but I spent 14 years with the wrong guy for me who didn't want kids, before meeting the love of my life. So excited!

sammy hello - glad you finally met your baby daddy!!

confused I'm feeling a bit blue today, because I'm feeling sick I hate my job right now and feel like I'm being a crap wife, and was thinking on the way to work this morning that if this pregnancy failed I just don't think I could do it again! It's so easy to forget about the pregnancy (and childbirth 😱) and how awful they are when you want a baby, and then when you feel so ill it's a bit difficult to see the light through the trees. Bit of a ramble, sorry, I do know it's worth it in the end! My lovely colleague has agreed to swap one of my weekend shifts though so at least I don't have to work again until Sunday now.

Wish there was a pregnancy hibernation pod that you could just check into and sleep for 9 months!

Hi all. My mood is so flat today. I'm usually really upbeat but all I want to do is hit people, it's like I've got permanent pmt which I'm putting down to the progesterone. My anxiety has gone through the roof and I'm not sleeping either since I spoke to the snotty midwife. I really want to walk away from all the antenatal care and ignore it all

I'm glad I am not the only one feeling blue Char and Play

I second the thought on the Pregnancy Pod! I am just so insanely scared of losing the baby because we have been through so much for the last 2 weeks already and I am so invested in my little bubble!

The worst part is having no one to talk to about it! DH really doesn't get it at all bless him and everything he does just annoys me.

Someone (From a different cultural background to myself) sat accross the bench from me at lunch and proceeded to eat his sloppy lunch with his hands... I had to get up and storm off before I said something... and I wouldn't ever normally say anything about how someone eats!

I just want to jump to 12 weeks already! lol

I'm sorry you're feeling blue confused! You've been through so much and must still be in a higher state of anxiety than normal! Hopefully it will pass when you've seen little bubble's heartbeat.

I'm also feeling completely down. Really struggling through work today (and really busy) but honestly all I want to do is go home and cry in bed for the rest of the day. It's a horrible feeling. I really desperately hope it passes. :'(

Just checking in and sending hugs to those who are feeling blue. 💐

So, a bit of a random question - any opinions on using St Tropez Everyday Moisturiser when pregnant? I have done my research and know that it's likely to be fine, but just wanted some 'real' opinions. Thought a slick of colour might make me feel better but, of course, wouldn't do anything to put my bean at risk!

I don't think I'm going to change the scan date. If it's bad news I'm not ready to know! I feel a bit better for crying at the midwife on the phone haha. She must think I'm nuts now... oh well!
St Tropez q I was wondering the same (similar) about putting a colour on my hair...

I think I am Dancing but there are so many of us on here and Baby Challenge that are within a few weeks of each other and feeling the same so maybe it is just a stage we all go through! I really am struggling today too... I even bought some baby bits and tickets to Friends Fest (even though I am guarenteed to bethe size of a whale by then) and I STILL don't feel any better!

Thanks for the hugs Starfish I am not sure about the ST Tropez thing to be honest, I have heard there are chemicals that can effect the baby from stuff like that but not sure if thats scare mongering I have read or not!

I can answer the question about hairdye for Madness and it's that you will need to be skin tested again as pregnancy can change what you are allergic to/make you more sensitive. It can also change the result of the colour! The best thing to do normally is to go for something like highlights that do not touch the scalp

Madness if thats what you feel hun then you need to go with that. I am sure everything with your little bean is perfect! If it helps I have already had 2 scans so far and although it is nice to see things progressing it does not get rid of the anxiety before the next scan

Personally I wouldn't recommend colouring your hair at all just now, the strong chemical fumes and the fact it touches your scalp. Later in pregnancy I would think highlights are OK or colour that doesn't come into contact with scalp, in a very well ventilated room or salon. Some people do it all the way through though so just a matter of opinion. I used natural Henna (from lush) last time I was pregnant to give my hair a boost.
Not sure about tan! I booked a spray tan for a hen do, but I'm cancelling it, more because of the fumey nature of the spray tan and breathing it in really.

Ugh just realised I was planning on cancelling spray tan but getting eyelash/brow tint with my beautician instead. That's dye duuh! ( And it probably won't take anyway because pregnant hair and brows go weird) Not sure how I am going to feel even vaguely glamorous on this hen do now. Wish I didn't have to go and be the lump in the corner

hi all popping back as so far so good.

I'm sorry for all those who a have lost or are worrying. I know it's awful

anyone had sore/swollen gums? mines really bad on one side. but apparently a good sign!

iv had awful nausea the last two weeks but luckily only sick a few times but have felt awful.

I'm 8 weeks tomorrow (fingerscrossed) and having an early scan so I hope and pray it's all good. I don't know if I can try again if it's not
hopefully be back tomorrow with good news xxxxxx

I don't know how to tag someone so apologies if I don't seem to reply to helpful comments. :) I'm trying to! TBH I can barely be honest to brush my hair at mo so will def park the dye. :)
Anyone else's husband have the look of a frightened animal? I seem to be so short tempered both with him and with my gorgeous girl. I think I need to have a chat with him. He's lovely but think I'm so hormonal and anxious and uncommunicative it's not much fun for him either. Also... anyone else gone off sex? Esp because of two previous losses, I have no desire to take any risks however small... on top of the exhaustion and eating for England (and the wind!) I have zero desire....

I had my hair dyed last week. I did it all the way through my first pregnancy and asked my midwife and she said it was fine, so I don't see any reason not to again. I'm extremely risk averse due to my history, but I'm happy to do that.

I had sore gums in the first couple of weeks after I found out, and I'm sure I read that was normal.

Had a bit of spotting last night so I'm a bit edgy today but called a super reassuring midwife earlier which really helped. It is all just so anxiety provoking!

Feeling so down today.
Not been very well so called in sick at work, you wouldn't believe the amount of bitchy comments I got back from everyone. The stress they are putting on me to work ridiculous hours is getting too much. Don't know what to do.