October Babies #2 - midwife appointments and "scanxiety"

[TinySalmon]

Last thread was filling up so I thought I'd start a new one

Link to Thread #1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2832732-October-2017-come-one-come-all?

Current October babies list:

Puttingourhoodupdown – EDD 23rd September. Team yellow
Piraterach – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
NotMyPenguin – EDD 27th September. Team yellow
mandScookiesrule – EDD 29th September. Team yellow
jeneral – EDD 29TH September. Team yellow
Presh88 - EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Mulberry2627 – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Dinosaurkisses – EDD 30th September. Team yellow
Stickaforkinimdone EDD - 1st October. Team yellow
Emmaluggs – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
MrsMcKeon – EDD 1st October. Team yellow
Hannahjoshaw – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Sbs6jb1 – EDD 2nd October. Team yellow
Addtothechaos – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Sj3rram – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
Mummabubs – EDD 3rd October. Team yellow
10storeyloveson – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
Cineraria – EDD 4th October. Team yellow
gimbleInTheWabe – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
NannyOggsKnickers – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Emberblu – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Hometownunicorn – EDD 5th October. Team yellow
Bubbles – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Wapsmahoney – EDD 6th October. Team yellow
Powerpuff – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Rainingcats – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
BrioLover – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Tammie49 – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Conkerchops – EDD 8th October. Team yellow
Krakentoast – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Rosalyn44 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Trytowin – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
CarpeDiem83 – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Whyarealltheusernamestaken – EDD 9th October. Team yellow
Kirsty8333 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
HollyMay84 – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
Chintaria – EDD 10th October. Team yellow
DancingUnicorn – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
MerlinsBeard87 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
EmmaGarrick – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Cath1212 – EDD 11th October. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD 12th October. Team yellow
Wishmeluck16 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Starfish83 – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Pollybythesea – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
MrsCharlieD – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Zookeeper73 – EDD 13th October. Team yellow
Loopyaboutmy2boys – ELCS 13th October. Team yellow
Babycarmen – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
Asilikeit – EDD 14th October. Team yellow
JackiePaper – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
TippetyTapWriter - EDD 15th October. Team yellow
ALRM – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Fingerscrossed – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
Anotherminime – EDD 15th October. Team yellow
DaisyFranceLynch – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
TequilaSetAWatchman – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Doomkittycleo – EDD 16th October. Team yellow
Orifu – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Walikingdeadfan – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Ppleasebob – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Boxesoffrogs – EDD 17th October. Team yellow
Yellowstarred – EDD 18th October. Team Yellow
DrunkenFlamingo – EDD 18th October. Team yellow
TinySalmon – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Lovechild2016 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Abcdemma – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Emjmoore – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Iemma321q – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Luna4689 – EDD 19th October. Team yellow
Rachieg88 – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
SophieGiroux – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
Amyappletree – EDD 20th October. Team yellow
UndersecretaryofWhimsy – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
SeatOfMyPants – EDD 21st October. Team yellow
Glitterbubble – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Charmanar – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Mishmishmish – EDD 22nd October. Team yellow
Emwithme – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
DrMum83 – EDD 23rd October. Team yellow
PlayOnWurtz – EDD 24th October. Team yellow
JanuaryJuniper –EDD 25th October. Team yellow
Shinysparklythings – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
DebsOctBaby – EDD 28th October. Team yellow
88claire – EDD 29th October. Team yellow
Calmisthemantra – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Miwelaisjacydo – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Donkey86 - EDD TBC. Team yellow
Dinosaursparklepup – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Chlo22 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Thepotatoesofdefiance – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Han1984 –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rosiehukk4 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Sapphire1983 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Peabody81 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Greentreeseverywhere – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Twinklelittlestar1 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rayna – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Firsttimenearcarrier2015 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Allykatz – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Punkpuffin – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Otter16 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Reddy4no2 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Fairraid – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Missm0use – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Xxmissbrightsidexx –EDD TBC. Team yellow
Confusedat23 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
Rufus200 – EDD TBC. Team yellow
FluttershyStare – EDD TBC. Team yellow

chintaria so sad for you. Sending you a tight hug, I hope you can rest and recover surrounded by people who love you.

Good luck confused!

Hi Confused,

We have same dates! I'm also 5+5. Glad your early scan went well. I also had severe pain due to fluid around ovaries but that was result of IVF drugs. Thankfully it is calming down! My early scan is the day after your next scan... seems like a lifetime away yet! Hope yours goes well x

Hi, can i join? EDD 19TH Oct, first time and new to mumsnet!

Sorry your midwife wasn't kinder wurtz. I spoke to someone in my team for the first time yesterday, and thankfully she was lovely. But am feeling very disheartened by how far away my appts are. First one at 11+2 for booking! On 26th March! Seems sooo long to wait. At least my scan follows pretty quickly!

Generally feeling really anxious and sad and just generally different today. I know there's nothing I can do about anything at the moment other than be grateful I am pregnant today. But my rational mind doesn't seem to work like that. :(

Had my booking in appt today! (7+3) all very normal stuff just paperwork, weight and height. Back in a couple of weeks for bloods. Under consultant-led care again but I knew I would be because of problems with DD 1 and 2. I've already met my consultant when I was in EPU and he's lovely :)

Nausea hasn't been AS bad today, I've actually managed to do stuff. Seabands are helping a lot. But I'm coming down with the cold I think so I generally feel miserable! And absolutely shattered as usual.

Hi leafs!

Dancingunicorn, hope you feel a bit more cheerful tomorrow with a new day. Each new day brings new emotions I find, so hard to keep up!!

Glad your nausea has been a little better today babycarmen

I had my first appointment with the midwife yesterday - my EDD is October 20th! First baby!
Very nervous as I've had a lot of pain (started as cramps, now is lower back ache) for the past 2 weeks so I'm hoping everything is ok!

Excited to get my first scan date through even though I have NO IDEA when they send that stuff across!

Also - can anyone talk me through what happens next. I saw the midwife who gave me my notes and loads of booklets and told me I need to make my 16 week appointment first week in may. Like, I have literally no idea what I do next or what!

Just catching up on the thread after a couple of days. I am so sorry to read such sad sad news. Thinking of you bubbles, tiny and zookeeper 😢 x

leannejade it's different everywhere but as the midwife said to book your appointment in may, book the appointment in may using whichever means she advised and until then - sit tight and try to enjoy it as much as possible! Best of luck

Sorry to hear all the sad news but congratulations to all the newbies on the thread. I have received my booking appointment for march 13th but need to figure out how to tell work I need the time off, didnt want to tell anybody at work until later on and my job means I cant book a days holiday etc, I might just have to be brave and blurt it out to my manager!

Also catching up. So sorry to hear all the sad news, hope you are all being looked after

Had a strange call from my GP today, saying she had been going through my notes and had noticed that I had a 'history of depression' (a few years ago I went through a bad patch after several tragic events and was on antidepressants for about a year). She said she needed to notify the midwife just incase. Ummm, not sure what to make of that??

App says 7 weeks today. Still veering between excitement and full on anxiety. It's a strange time. Not helped by the fact that dp is working away again this week, and the twinges and cramps that have me rushing to the loo constantly, convinced that I am bleeding...

Hope the rest of you are having a good evening.

Dancing sorry you're feeling sad, I felt like that yesterday I'm sure it's just hormones playing games with us

I got my scan date today, which is one thing to look forward to. leannejade mine was sent through as soon as my GP referred me, so took about a week.

Otherwise I've been feeling like utter shit today which is very annoying. Hard to concentrate on anything for most of the afternoon.

rainingcats can you just tell work it's a medical appointment for now rather than saying exactly what it is? Or will they not accept you being that vague?

A history of depression will simply mean they'll offer you more support. I have severe mental health issues with anxiety and depression and had severe Pnd so I'm under the consultant for my care

boxesoffrogs I also have a history of depression and the midwife made sure to note it down. She explained that normally mums are released from midwife care one week after the birth but if they think for any reason someone is at a higher risk of PND they will keep in contact for a month instead. I don't know if it's the same everywhere though.

@emvy I think I'm confused as that's my 16 week scan so I don't think I'm supposed to just wait it out for 10 weeks. I'm guessing the hospital will contact me. It's awkward because I'm moving to the other side of Manchester when I'm about 12 weeks so the midwife I saw said she's going to do everything from the hospital I'll be closer to when I'm due, so I have no idea who to contact etc until they get in touch with me.
As you can tell I'm new to this!

Oh that is confusing leannejade. It's all new to me as well so I'm probably not the best person to give advice, this is just through my own experience over the past few weeks and what I've been told to do! 16 week scans don't happen where I am though so I'm really not sure. If you have a contact number for the midwife you're under now, nearer the time you move, you could give them a call and just ask them to confirm your next steps. They should understand your anxiety with the move as well so I'm sure they won't mind.

leanne the scan should be at about 12 weeks not 16. I think 16 will be a midwife appointment to check urine etc and see how you're getting on?

Feeling mentally crap today. The tension is winding me up! Nausea completely stopped yesterday and is only very slight today. Got back ache and had a really sharp pain across my stomach. I know it's probably nothing but the constant worry is winding me up. Can't even have a drink or a hot bath to relax! And I'm so desperate for a nice cup of tea!!

This might help: www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/Pages/antenatal-appointment-schedule.aspx

Sorry to hear all the sad news. I've got a most awful cold and can't take anything :-( off work sick today. Gonna try breathe right strips to see if they help along with mango juice, raspberries for the vit c hit.

Tipperty & emvy yeah it's just a midwife appointment at 16 weeks, but I don't know if they contact me about a scan towards 12 weeks, she has written in the notes it'll be when I'm about 10 weeks.

I think I'm extra anxious as I've just had a lot of cramps and back ache and no sickness so I'm worried. Stressing about telling my manager at work when the time comes, too!

Hi I'm due with my first on 29th October - this is my first post on mumsnet! Great to feel like part of a community in this, as so far nobody knows about my pregnancy (except DH as you'd hope...) and it still doesn't quite feel real! Exciting to hear about so many babies coming into the world this October, but so sorry to hear about those who have had sad news already. X

leannejade maybe that will prompt the new place to send out a scan date for you then, then?

Welcome, autumnheart!