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DH died today and I don’t know what to do

523 replies

Pleasedontdothat · 31/10/2023 18:26

He’d just turned 57 and was really fit but he’d been feeling vaguely under the weather for the last few days. I ended up taking him to a&e this morning as he had severe abdominal pain overnight but all his blood tests etc came back normal and they sent him home with instructions to see the GP. He went upstairs to have a lie down then said he was having a shower. I was downstairs on work calls. A couple of hours later I went upstairs to see if he wanted something for lunch and realised the shower was still running. I called out but no answer so went into the bathroom to find him collapsed on the floor - he was obviously dead. I don’t know how I’m going to cope . No point in this post but in some ways it’s easier than telling wider family and friends

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MissChanandlerB0NG · 31/10/2023 19:05

So sorry, OP 💐💐💐

Foxymoxy68 · 31/10/2023 19:06

So very sorry 😞

JackieQueen · 31/10/2023 19:06

What a terrible shock for you I'm so sorry 💐

Zanatdy · 31/10/2023 19:06

OP I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope in time you get some answers but of course that doesn’t lessen the huge loss you’ve encountered. I hope you’ve got someone who can be with you.

Samcro · 31/10/2023 19:06

So sorry for your loss

Reigateforever · 31/10/2023 19:06

So sorry to hear of your loss, Flowers

Northerngirl345 · 31/10/2023 19:07

I’m so sorry OP. The same thing happened to me, my husband was 51 and he dropped dead in our bedroom one afternoon.

All I can say is that you will be ok. Definitely.

You’ve got some tough weeks ahead but you are stronger than you realise.

pumpkinpiee · 31/10/2023 19:08

I am so so sorry for your loss xxx

porridgeisbae · 31/10/2023 19:09

So sorry to hear this @Pleasedontdothat . It must be such a shock. x

HazelBite · 31/10/2023 19:09

I am so sorry, my cousin (in his 40's) died suddenly a couple of weeks ago from sepsis, it is so hard to accept and get your head around the shock of it all, please look after yourself and lean on your family and friends.

Elderflower14 · 31/10/2023 19:10

So sorry... Sending huge hugs 💕

tigger1001 · 31/10/2023 19:10

I am so sorry op. I hope you have someone with you for support.

slithytoveisascientist · 31/10/2023 19:11

I am so sorry for your loss

jesuisterriblementmarrier · 31/10/2023 19:11

How shocking for you.I am so sorry for your loss 😭😭💐.

lyingonthebeach · 31/10/2023 19:11

So sorry xxxx. Please make sure you are physically and emotionally with people who can help you. I am sending a virtual hug but hope you get real ones. Lots.

EverythingYouDoIsaBalloon · 31/10/2023 19:11

Oh OP, how tragic. I'm so sorry for your loss.

queentim · 31/10/2023 19:11

I'm so sorry for you OP. That's devastating. I hope you have someone to be there with you right now

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 31/10/2023 19:12

I’m so sorry. As other posters have said is there someone who can be with you now?

mummykanga · 31/10/2023 19:13

I am so sorry. sending love. A few days after my mum died, I put things in the diary, one a month, for the first year. It really helped having something (trip to see friends, weekend with my dad sort of thing) never more than a few weeks away in that first year. going through 2 week wait (with 2 different departments) with my husband at the moment. call a friend. xx

OhComeOnFFS · 31/10/2023 19:14

I'm so sorry. Flowers That must have been such a terrible shock. I hope you and your family have got some good support.

MrsMarzetti · 31/10/2023 19:15

I am so sorry, please make sure you have people with you. Flowers

NewFriendlyLadybird · 31/10/2023 19:16

I’m so, so sorry. As others have said, I hope you have someone with you. It must be an awful shock xxxx

EwwSprouts · 31/10/2023 19:16

I am so sorry for your loss. You took him seriously and took him to hospital. Be kind to yourself as you grieve.

Duddlepucklane · 31/10/2023 19:17

I'm so sorry for your loss op💐 you must be in shock, I hope you have someone with you now? Xx

user1471556818 · 31/10/2023 19:17

I'm so very sorry hopefully you have someone with you now.Just hugs