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Close friend died today, only 38 yrs old :(

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MABS · 04/02/2008 18:13

Says it all really, one of my dearest friends,aged 40 yrs old, suffered a massive heart attack and died immediately. I am in total shock and can't really believe it, he wasn't ill , there was no warning. I am in bits about it .

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Cam · 14/02/2008 20:59

It would have really helped them though Mabs

glitterfairy · 14/02/2008 22:27

Oh Mabs take care of yourself as well.

Sending you a big hug.

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MABS · 15/02/2008 18:36

so very true twofalls. I feel a bit better today and am meeting the brighton lot tmro for lunch so that'l be good.

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OLDroot · 15/02/2008 18:44

Glitter - I hadn't seen this when you told me.
So sorry - he sounded like a good man.

Hope you are the dc's are doing fine and hope Monday goes well

OLDroot · 15/02/2008 18:46

whoops - sorry Mabs thought this was Glitters thread by the title - so sorry to hear about your friend to.

Life can be cruel - to quote our Dean !!

glitterfairy · 16/02/2008 09:06

Thanks youngroot!

Mabs how are you?

glitterfairy · 18/02/2008 16:31

Mabs???

Have spent today with friends wife and it was lovely. She is so strong and such an inspiration.

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MABS · 19/02/2008 07:52

really startin to feel physically sick re the burial later this wk now.

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glitterfairy · 19/02/2008 09:09

Oh mabs you poor thing. Take care of yourself. Do you have a rose or flower to throw into the grave as a way of saying goodbye? How is your friends wife?

GColdtimer · 19/02/2008 14:17

I am sure you do, its an awful thing to do and I remember that feeling of dread - and you have had to wait so long. Is it on Thursday?

winnie · 19/02/2008 14:19

Mabs, I am so sorry

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MABS · 19/02/2008 14:59

His partner is terrible, v bad state. It Fri. Should i take a flower? is that what you do? never been to burial before

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GColdtimer · 19/02/2008 15:05

I am sure she is, it is such a terrible time for everyone. At the burials I have been to, members of the family often have a flower to put in and then members of the congregation are invited to put a handful of dirt in as they leave. I never have done though, its a personal choice. I have never been to one where everyone has put a flower in so I don't think it is expected.

Wishing you lots of strength for Friday. The build up is worse than than the actual event in some ways.

GColdtimer · 19/02/2008 15:06

I meant earth, not dirt

noddyholder · 19/02/2008 15:18

You don't need to take anything if you don't want to.get some rescue remedy pastilles they are really good.I will send you some reiki distance healing on friday.What time is it?

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MABS · 19/02/2008 16:10

thanks all, Its at noon Noddy

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glitterfairy · 19/02/2008 18:33

Mabs you can choose to take on or not depending on what you want to do. I will be thinking of you as well and sending positive thoughts.

His poor partner. I expect she just wants to talk and talk though.

RnB · 19/02/2008 18:38

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MABS · 19/02/2008 19:04

thanks all, am bit more tgether tonite.

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glitterfairy · 20/02/2008 19:20

I am thinking of you and will tomorrow as well Mabs.

glitterfairy · 21/02/2008 06:55

Mabs I hope it goes as well as can be expected and thinking of you at noon.

Cam · 21/02/2008 12:25

Sending you lots of love and best wishes Mabs xx

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MABS · 21/02/2008 16:49

thanks all, been so long i just can't really accept its happening tmrow.

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GColdtimer · 21/02/2008 18:16

Mabs, I hope it goes OK. I will be thinking about you tomorrow. I can imagine how much you are dreading it but you will get through it and you will be a great support to his family. xx

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MABS · 21/02/2008 18:41

thanks twofalls

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