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It's my daughters birthday today

157 replies

naynayisay · 20/08/2021 00:23

She should be three. She died unexpectedly in her sleep last November from misdiagnosed bronchiolitis.

I don't know what to do with myself. We're going up to her grave to put up a little fence and lay down some flowers later. I don't know how to honour her without crying all day. I don't feel like I can face anyone or anything.

I miss her so much. The older children have been fine in the run up to her birthday (10 and 13) and DH is being strong. I feel like I'm the only one who's screaming inside.

OP posts:
naynayisay · 20/08/2021 07:36

@faithfulbird20 There will be an inquest from the coroner. Nothing has happened yet but I have instructed a solicitor and we're waiting on a date.

OP posts:
crouchingpheasant · 20/08/2021 07:51

What a beautiful, beautiful girl. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much love Thanks

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 20/08/2021 08:43

Thank you for sharing those beautiful photos and words about Wyatt Rose. What a happy, funny, confident little girl she looks. I am so sorry that she and you were let so badly down by people who should have taken care of her.

Sending you birthday wishes for today: I always say to my kids that their birthday is also my special day as I gave birth to them that day. So I celebrate you and all the love you have for her and the clearly happy life she enjoyed with you. Xxxx

Findahouse21 · 20/08/2021 08:48

I too remember your posts at the time and have occasionally thought of you and your family, and especially your little girl who is beautiful. I love her name too. Happy birthday to her and sending strength to you.

Hoowhoowho · 20/08/2021 09:12

I remember you and Wyatt. Sending much love.
I think our daughters are in the same cemetery.

My experience was very much that the second year was harder than the first. People expect it to be better, it isn’t.

We’re heading into year six in January and it is less acutely painful. I managed to listen to a song we played at her funeral the other day and it was ok.

I wish I had something better to say. Thinking of you today on Wyatt’s birthday.

FarmtractorJJ · 20/08/2021 09:29

I was thinking about you yesterday. I know I’m a complete stranger but I will never forget your story or your beautiful daughter Wyatt. You are brave and strong beyond measure and I cannot even begin to imagine what you have had to endure this past year. I’ll light a candle for her tonight. Thinking of you, your family and the very special birthday girl.

CheesusWept · 20/08/2021 09:36

Oh my goodness, this is heartbreaking.
I am so sorry for your loss.
You write about her so beautifully.

Frazzle76 · 20/08/2021 09:52

Oh darling I remember you and her.
Sending love and hugs and strength.
Xxx

Arrowheart · 20/08/2021 09:52

Sending you so much love. X

GU24Mum · 20/08/2021 09:53

I remember your threads about your lovely daughter last year. Thinking of you all on her birthday. x

Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 20/08/2021 09:54

I remember your gorgeous girl. What was her favourite animal op? Maybe sponsor one in her name. Some places you can have a plaque placed.
She was so adorable..
So sorry for your loss..

savemejebus · 20/08/2021 09:58

Sending you so much love and strength ❤️

MrsMaiselsRedCoat · 20/08/2021 10:01

I'm so sorry, the pain must be unbearable. She was absolutely beautiful. Thinking of you both today x

SunshineCake · 20/08/2021 10:03

I remember Wyatt and was thinking of you last week.

You are honouring her by living each day and however you spend today is the right way. Flowers.

Oldtiredfedup · 20/08/2021 10:05

I remember your post. My heart broke for you then, and it breaks for you now.

Thank you for sharing with us.

I’m so sorry she is gone and for the awful awful pain and sadness you must feel.

Misspacorabanne · 20/08/2021 10:07

I'm so sorry, what a beautiful little girl.
Im thinking of you and your family today! Flowers

wheresthehope · 20/08/2021 10:09

I also remember your posts from last year.
Happy heavenly birthday beautiful Wyatt Rose 🌹
My Thoughts are with you and your family

OliverBabish · 20/08/2021 10:10

I am so, so sorry. I don’t actually have any words but please know I am sending you love and thinking of your beautiful Wyatt today x

OldHouseDilemma · 20/08/2021 10:11

I remember Wyatt Rose also and her beautiful little face in the swing photo. Thinkimg of you on this especially difficult day. I hope with time, you are able to find ways to honour her memory, that you feel are right for her Flowers

Coffeeanddarkchoc · 20/08/2021 10:15

I'm so so sorry. I will be thinking of you, your family and your beautiful daughter today.

ElvisPresleyHadABaby · 20/08/2021 10:17

Your beautiful little girl is not forgotten, her story has stayed with many of us. Will be thinking of Wyatt and her siblings today, sending love. Flowers

SupermanWithTheGreyHair · 20/08/2021 10:19

What a gorgeous girl. And so kind with her love of animals and sneaking food to your dog. I’m smiling through tears thinking of her doing that. ❤️

I’m sending lots of love to you. Whatever you do today to get through will be the right thing. xx

Buttons294749 · 20/08/2021 10:21

I remember your beautiful DD too, I hope she is having lots of cake in heaven. I will think of you all today x

almahart · 20/08/2021 10:23

I'm so so sorry, I remember you posting about your beautiful daughter before. She was clearly a lovely lovely girl. Take extra care of yourself today, hugs to you, I wish I could do more xxx

dangerrabbit · 20/08/2021 10:25

Happy heavenly birthday to your beautiful daughter ❤️💐