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It's my daughters birthday today

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naynayisay · 20/08/2021 00:23

She should be three. She died unexpectedly in her sleep last November from misdiagnosed bronchiolitis.

I don't know what to do with myself. We're going up to her grave to put up a little fence and lay down some flowers later. I don't know how to honour her without crying all day. I don't feel like I can face anyone or anything.

I miss her so much. The older children have been fine in the run up to her birthday (10 and 13) and DH is being strong. I feel like I'm the only one who's screaming inside.

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catsareme14 · 20/08/2021 11:03

I remember her too , she was such a beautiful little girl & clearly so loved . Sending you a hug x

Highfivemum · 20/08/2021 11:05

So so truly sorry to hear of your beautiful Baby girls passing.
Sending lots of love and hugs your way. 💐

Cervicalflop · 20/08/2021 11:06

I've thought of you many times OP, having read your story. Sending you all love and best wishes.

hkp288 · 20/08/2021 11:09

I only came across the original thread last week and cried. I thought this post was going to be about Wyatt before I scrolled down. Sending so much love to you and your family. Flowers

Rhythmisadancer · 20/08/2021 11:14

I am so sad about your beautiful little girl. She looks amazing. I will give our spaniel Monty a treat later, and tell him it's from Wyatt xxx

blindspots · 20/08/2021 11:15

Thank you everyone.

@naynayisay my son is Benjamin. He was 2yrs and 2 months when he died. Just a lovely little boy.

I remember reading about Wyatt last year, an absolutely beautiful little girl and such a heartbreaking story.

I think if you just want to spend the rest of the day crying that is completely fine. If you are any thing like me I find that it's better just to let the tears come when they are there. I think about him everyday, someday's are "easier" than others but nothing is easy now.

Our two little forever 2 year olds x x

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 20/08/2021 11:15

I’m so, so, sorry OP. 💐💐

Blueskythinking123 · 20/08/2021 11:15

I also remember her. She is adorable. Thinking of you and sending a virtual hug xx

bloodywhitecat · 20/08/2021 11:19

I remember Wyatt Rose too, much love to you and to @blindspots today and for every day to come Flowers

Grazka · 20/08/2021 11:27

I'm so very sorry, there are no words

Yarboosucks · 20/08/2021 11:27

This is your day. Cry, scream, do what you want. You loved her, you still love her, that will never change. It is her birthday and it is also your birthday too because you shared that event with her. Cling on to the love.

Minibea · 20/08/2021 11:38

I remember your earlier thread and I have thought about it many times since. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss and am thinking of you today and sending love and strength. She sounds like a wonderful little girl that you should be so proud of xx

Iamtheweedonkey · 20/08/2021 11:40

Oh my love, I remember your thread so clearly. Your beautiful little Wyatt Rose shares a birthday with my son, I will light a separate candle for her on his cake later. My best friend lost her daughter 2 1/2 years ago, that too made the papers. Be kind to yourself, this is first year of all the firsts... It's so hard, even breathing feels like you're being torn apart with a silent scream that never ends. Your family will be feeling it in their own ways, whether your dh is trying to be strong for you, the older DC will be feeling lost. Keep talking about little Wyatt, say her name often, remember funny little things she used to do. I am giving you a very large virtual squeeze my love, I hope you can feel the love to you, Wyatt and the rest of your family coming from mumsnet. x

RicherThanYew · 20/08/2021 11:41

Hello @naynayisay, I live near ish to you and we have a mutual friend. I remember your precious baby girl, like many of the posters here. I hope and pray that you can see from this thread alone that your beautiful Wyatt is remembered fondly, but also remembered by the people of Wales in general. There's no set rules on how to spend today, so please don't be hard on yourself. I spent the first year almost stunned, I can't remember a single day of it. We each walk this path our own way Daffodil

Igotjelly · 20/08/2021 11:44

What a beautiful little girl. Looks so full of mischief and fun, you must miss her terribly. I hope that today goes as well as it can and that Wyatt has a wonderful heavenly birthday ❤️

Notalotofinspiration · 20/08/2021 11:46

Beautiful girl ❤️ I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

Lineeyesoverhere · 20/08/2021 11:48

I remember your story and that gorgeous little face. Thinking of you x

BoneWithTheWind · 20/08/2021 11:51

@naynayisay - Your post has made me so upset. It's so unfair and cruel. Is there anything worse in the world than parents losing their child..? It's just not right...
Wyatt Rose was such a beautiful little soul and clearly she was so loved by you all. Sending you loads of love and strength. And if all you can do is cry, don't feel bad xxx

@blindspots - sending you so much love as well. Thinking of you and your son xxx

naynayisay · 20/08/2021 12:00

@blindspots I am so sorry about your son Benjamin. Our forever babies.

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naynayisay · 20/08/2021 12:03

@RicherThanYew Thank you so much DaffodilThese past nine months have been ridiculous. Most of the time I feel fine because I've repressed it and then suddenly I'll see a blonde child in Asda and start crying as I'm doing my shopping or I'll walk past her room which now belongs to DD2 and flashbacks will come of my husband saying she's not breathing when he tried to wake her up for the morning. It's the worst kind of hell because I never know if I'm expecting numbness, trauma or pure sadness.

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mistermagpie · 20/08/2021 12:03

I remember Wyatt Rose too. She was absolutely gorgeous, such a cheeky smile! She was known, we see her, we won't forget.

My heart is broken for you, I'm so very very sorry she's not here. And Benjamin too, it's so cruel.

Babochan88 · 20/08/2021 12:05

Sending so much love, healing and peace to you and your family. Ive Just shed some tears. So very sorry, she was loved so much. Happy birthday Wyatt Rose! May you feel so much love today as you have fun heaven 🤍

Mummyoflittledragon · 20/08/2021 12:10

Sending lots of love and strength to you and @blindspots Flowers

TableFlowerss · 20/08/2021 12:15

Oh OP I remember your post from last year. I remember Wyatt Rose‘s name and those really cute photos.

I’m thinking of you today xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

blindspots · 20/08/2021 12:16

Here's our candle for Wyatt

It's my daughters birthday today