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It's my daughters birthday today

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naynayisay · 20/08/2021 00:23

She should be three. She died unexpectedly in her sleep last November from misdiagnosed bronchiolitis.

I don't know what to do with myself. We're going up to her grave to put up a little fence and lay down some flowers later. I don't know how to honour her without crying all day. I don't feel like I can face anyone or anything.

I miss her so much. The older children have been fine in the run up to her birthday (10 and 13) and DH is being strong. I feel like I'm the only one who's screaming inside.

OP posts:
siucra · 20/08/2021 10:26

Thank you for sharing your beautiful girl with us. What a terrible loss for you all and for the world. Look after yourself today xxxx

ShowerOfShite · 20/08/2021 10:29

Sending you lots of love, she was beautiful x

naynayisay · 20/08/2021 10:30

We've just been to her grave. I thought that was the hardest part over with but now I'm sat at the kitchen table and it's 10:30am. It feels like today is buffering. I just want it to be over already but I'm too emotional to sleep it away.

Her favourite animal was a dog. Hands down. If we didn't watch her carefully she'd be running off after every dog in the park trying to give it love (and snacks). We've just bought a new puppy. He's 16 weeks old. Something to help me get through the days to dote on and a friend for our pug who is absolutely lost without Wyatt following him around. She would have loved him.

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FreeBritnee · 20/08/2021 10:32

@MurielSpriggs

I've just shed a tear for her, and for you, and I'm a stranger. I can't imagine how painful it must be for you. Wishing you strength to get through the day.
Me too. What agony for you all. I’m so desperately sorry.
Notavegan · 20/08/2021 10:36

I started reading your post and thought this must be Wyatt Rose. Your story has stayed with me too. A beautiful family. Flowers

Phyllis321 · 20/08/2021 10:36

What a beautiful child. I am so terribly sorry for your great loss FlowersFlowersFlowers

SupermanWithTheGreyHair · 20/08/2021 10:37

Her favourite animal was a dog. Hands down. If we didn't watch her carefully she'd be running off after every dog in the park trying to give it love (and snacks).

Love this. What a lovely, lovely girl. ❤️

Could you take your dog and new puppy out somewhere scenic for a lovely walk maybe, to get out and maybe you could all share your memories. Thinking of you. xx

mommybear1 · 20/08/2021 10:38

I'm so so sorry OP I remember you and Wyatt from your original thread. My DS is the same age and I think of you all often. Her photos are beautiful 💕

mishmased · 20/08/2021 10:38

I remember your post about your beautiful girl. Sending you hugs ThanksThanksThanks

EnglishRain · 20/08/2021 10:39

I remember Wyatt too. Sending love to you all xx

wherethewildthingis · 20/08/2021 10:42

I remember you and I think of your beautiful little girl often. I wish you some moments of peace today. I am so sorry for your loss.

blindspots · 20/08/2021 10:43

Happy birthday to your beautiful daughter ThanksStar.

I remember your thread.

It's my sons 3rd birthday in November. Except he died of cancer in January only 3 months after diagnosis and I am dreading it,

How cruel child loss is

RandomMess · 20/08/2021 10:44
Thanks

Wyatt Rose, always remembered always loved.

Bufffy · 20/08/2021 10:45

I remember Wyatt too OP. I’m so sorry for your loss and sending you a hug on such a hard day Flowers

Phyllis321 · 20/08/2021 10:48

I’m so sorry Blindspots Flowers

ImJustMum · 20/08/2021 10:48

I remember your beautiful girls story. My thoughts were with you then and they most certainly are now. You dont NEED to be strong, you manage how best suits you, theres no right or wrong way even if that is curled in a ball crying. Xx

naynayisay · 20/08/2021 10:48

@blindspots I am so so sorry for your loss. Would you like to share about him? I'd love to hear it if you would x

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Vebrithien · 20/08/2021 10:51

Happy heavenly birthday Wyatt.

I remember your posts, and read along in horror.

I don't know if this will help or not, but your posts helped to save my DS's life.

In June, my DS (12 months at the time) started to show similar symptoms to what you described. I'd never experienced bronchiolitis before, with my older DD, or with friends/family children.

I insisted on a GP appointment, after a battle with the receptionist, who felt that he needed a Covid test before being seen. As soon as the GP saw him, she sent us straight to A&E, where he was rushed into Resus, with oxygen levels of 85%. When he was sleeping, his levels were dropping into the 70's.

He's since had 3 more hospitalisation, but I will never forget that Wyatt's story made me push for that first appointment. The doctors said that if he'd not been seen, he may not have made it through the next night.

Thank you.

Actions can be like the flap of a butterflies wing. I am so sorry for your utter tragedy, you have been so brave, and Wyatt will never be forgotten by us.

A person never dies, whilst their name is still spoken.

IDidntFloatUpTheLaganInABubble · 20/08/2021 10:52

My heart breaks for you OP sending you much love, what a beautiful girl.

@blindspots much love to you too.

So sorry for both of your losses x

RJnomore1 · 20/08/2021 10:54

Another one who remembers wyatt. I have nothing to say that will help at all but I remember her and I’m so sorry your beautiful girl isn’t with you today. Much love.

SupermanWithTheGreyHair · 20/08/2021 10:57

Sending love and thinking of you too blindspots.

PoachedPair · 20/08/2021 10:59

I'm so very sorry OP, what beautiful photos. Thank you for telling her about her. Sending you much love

feb2022 · 20/08/2021 10:59

Happy heavenly birthday beautiful angel!

I'm so sorry for what you are going through, sending you all of my strength and love @naynayisay I'll be thinking of you today and every day after 💐

PoachedPair · 20/08/2021 10:59

@blindspots I'm so sorry

feb2022 · 20/08/2021 11:00

@blindspots I'm so so sorry for your loss! 💐