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Toddler in hospital. Need a handhold.

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sobsanta · 04/11/2020 13:54

DD is 2 and has been ill for about four days with what we presumed to be a heavy cold. She hasn't slept much and today took a turn for the worse where we had to call an ambulance due to her breathing being laboured while sleeping and sucking in under the ribs with every breath. Paramedics think some kind of upper respiratory infection as her chest appears clear. Epiglottitis was mentioned or possibly severe tonsillitis but they didn't want to check her mouth at home in case it panicked her.

DH went to the hospital with her as he's calm and collected and only one parent is allowed due to coronavirus restrictions. She's a daddy's girl anyway so she'll feel safe with him but I'm kicking myself that I can't be with them both. Haven't heard anything yet and they've been gone about an hour.

Am terrified and need distraction as I know there's nothing I can do and she's with the best people.

Message from MNHQ: Please note, very sad update further down the thread

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AnathemaPulsifer · 06/11/2020 17:18

So sorry for your loss.

MrsIronfoundersson · 06/11/2020 17:19

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss OP Flowers

dottiedodah · 06/11/2020 17:20

There are no words .I am so so sorry for all of you .I cannot imagine anything worse .Please accept love and hugs for you both .xxxx

CurryForever · 06/11/2020 17:20

Oh darling girl and husband. I'm so very sorry.

Brownfrown · 06/11/2020 17:21

I’m just so sorry for your loss. Can I just tell you that your love and care shone through in all your posts. You did everything right - taking her to hospital in the first place, checking on her, sleeping in the same room as her. Your husband was with her when she passed away, she would have felt safe and loved.

Sending love. Xx

itsmeagainagain · 06/11/2020 17:21

Oh my goodness that is shocking to hear I am devastated for your loss I can’t even imagine what you are going through... sending love x

toastfiend · 06/11/2020 17:22

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Just2MoreSeasons · 06/11/2020 17:22

You must be in unimaginable pain right now. I'm so so sorry. You are in my thoughts Thanks

BananaFlavouredPancakes · 06/11/2020 17:22

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, I hope you and your husband have plenty of support to help you through this awful time.

GladysNarracott · 06/11/2020 17:23

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

thetoughhaveleft · 06/11/2020 17:23

I am so sorry. This is every parent's worst nightmare. Sending you love and best wishes and hoping that you can find some peace ThanksThanksThanks

pshek86 · 06/11/2020 17:24

I absolutely devastated for you. Sending you and your husband all my love. I'm utterly heartbroken for you

sobsanta · 06/11/2020 17:26

DH fell to pieces this morning but we have two older DD's who need us so he's being productive to avoid continuing to fall. I feel numb one second and overcome to big gasping sobs the next. I just don't know what to do. So much of me prays we get answers at the autopsy but I know we may not. She was so beautiful and incredible and just coming into herself showing her personality and learning to speak. It's too fucking soon. I am angry. I am sad.

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SunshineCake · 06/11/2020 17:26

Oh my. I am so very sorry, @sobsanta. I just don't know what to say. What a terrible shock. Heartbreaking Flowers.

littleloopylou · 06/11/2020 17:26

I'm so sorry, OP. Flowers

Loveatortie · 06/11/2020 17:28

Sending love and sincere sympathy to you,your husband and family. So very sad Flowers

Applesandpears23 · 06/11/2020 17:29

I am so sorry for your loss.

spiderlight · 06/11/2020 17:30

I am so, so sorry - just heartbreaking Flowers

Forestdweller11 · 06/11/2020 17:30

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news

BertiesLanding · 06/11/2020 17:31

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So much love to you, your husband, your daughters.

Greenhairbrush · 06/11/2020 17:31

I don’t have the words. This is just heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for the loss of your lovely girl.

Lindy2 · 06/11/2020 17:32

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is absolutely heartbreaking.

Lolly86 · 06/11/2020 17:32

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Be kind to each other and yourself x

flapjackfairy · 06/11/2020 17:32

I am sure I am not alone in sitting here crying with you. It is just awful. Sending love to you all xxx

spinningaround72 · 06/11/2020 17:32

I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely girl. I can't imagine what you're going through. Flowers